108: How Our Parenting Style Affects Our Kids: A Your Child Explained Episode

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About episode 108:

During my recent conversation with American Academy of Pediatrics president Dr. Benard Dreyer, about the key role that parents play in preventing their kids from getting something scary called toxic stress, different parenting styles came up.

Today, in this Your Child Explained episode where we are always figuring out what’s going on inside our kids heads, we take a closer look at the different parenting styles and what each looks like from our children’s perspective. We also dig into the idea of grit, why it’s important and how our kids can get it.

Click weturnedoutokay.com/108 to read more about the three different parenting styles and the promotion of grit, view a great TED talk, and to listen to today’s episode!

In the child-development biz, we think of 3 kinds of parenting:
– authoritarian, where we parents demand obedience but without a lot of support for our kids
– permissive, where we support our kids in everything but fail to provide structure through high expectations and discipline
– authoritative (often called “wise”), where we combine the best aspects of authoritarian and permissive parenting

Guess which of those three we are aiming for?
Yep, we want to be wise parents, giving our kids tons of support – and combining that with high expectations, reasoned discipline (no hitting!), and structure.

Today, we carry the idea of wise parenting one step further by talking about mom and researcher Angela Duckworth’s amazing book, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance.

Way back in episode two, called Foster True Grit and recorded more than a year before I’d ever heard of Angela Duckworth, I share about how to figure out what motivates your child to work hard at something (listen by going to weturnedoutokay.com/002).

Grit, the book, shares Duckworth’s extensive research and insights into the characteristics of people who finish what they start, who stick with something despite adversity.

This is definitely a quality we want in our kids!

Looking through our children’s eyes, we parents can help them have grit, Duckworth writes, in a really cool way:

By possessing grit ourselves.

By following through, not giving up, powering through setbacks – and doing this in front of our kids. When kids see us being gritty, they emulate that.

Isn’t that cool?

Key Links:

Listen to Tuesday’s guest episode with American Academy of Pediatrics president, Dr. Benard Dreyer, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/107.

Learn how true grit helped my Max become a snowboarder – and how it can help your child – by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/002.

Click here to check out Angela Duckworth’s book, Grit.