It’s time for NPC member Jen’s parent-coaching call, and it’s a doozy: Jen was feeling guilty about being “responsible” for getting her kids into situations where they were overtired and/or frustrated. She took their misbehavior as her fault, and in this episode I help her figure out a more productive way to frame the situation.
We also dig in to several other issues, and by helping Jen resolve them on-air, I also get to help you figure out what to do when:
- Your child screams “no!” In those moments when you need her to do what you’re asking her to do instead of what she wants to do.
- You’re trying to figure out how far to push your child in interacting with strangers.
Listen to this episode for detailed answers; to read my suggestions and check out the key links for this episode, go to weturnedoutokay.com/174… Enjoy the show!
The bottom line on who’s responsible for the children’s behavior, even when they are overtired and/or frustrated… It’s the children who are responsible for their own behavior. Always, even when they’ve been dragged into a situation that isn’t ideal.
When you think about how many times, as a grown-up, you feel stuck in a frustrating situation, sometimes when you haven’t had enough sleep – chances are good that you don’t turn to the person behind you in line and say something mean, or start an argument with them (I hope not : )
Even when we know it’s our fault, we need to hold children to the expectation that ultimately they are responsible for their own behavior. The earlier we do this, the better they get at it.
When they scream “no”:
During our conversation, Jen made a discovery – her daughter only screams like this when it’s time to finish up, very specifically, with screen time. Armed with this knowledge, we discuss how she can make this particular transition go more smoothly.
When they’re not friendly to strangers:
I share the problems that can crop up when parents insist on their children “saying hello” or thank you to people whom the children don’t know.
We discuss ways to model “friendliness with strangers,” and how much more effective it is to give our kids time and space to get comfortable before interacting in their own way.
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