Are Timeouts Effective Discipline? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 229)

I’m so excited to bring you this week’s show, all about timeouts!

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Do you find that giving a time out

to your young child is an effective way to change that child’s behavior?

Maybe you find, as one coaching client of mine does, that timeouts become “a battle of wills” and aren’t effective at all.

Maybe your young child runs away from the timeout chair, giggling and leaving you super frustrated…

If so, this is the show for you because today I’m teaching how to effectively discipline your young child!

For notes on today’s episode including my 4-step formula for disciplining effectively, as well as to sign up for my 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting live, online class, go to

Thanks for listening!

The Short Version:

I am not a fan of timeout.

Too often it does become a battle of wills, plus what do you do if you’ve got more than one recalcitrant child at a time?

As a preschool teacher, putting kids in timeout wouldn’t have worked because we just had too many kids to focus on at once!

Just below, read about my 4-step formula to effectively discipline young children.
But first…

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– Change your child’s bad behavior to good behavior
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What to do Instead of Timeout

Here’s my 4-step formula for effectively disciplining young kids:

1) Take ego out of the equation – it may seem like your child has a personal vendetta against you, but that is not the case.

2) Call up your empathy; putting ourselves in our children’s shoes is the root of all good discipline.

3) Help your child understand his or her own feelings

4) Redirect your child toward something positive

Listen to today’s episode to find out exactly how to implement these.


The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class

In today’s episode I share about the live, free, online class I am teaching

If you want to change your child’s behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and start truly enjoying the time you spend with your young kids, you want to take this FREE class.

In it I teach the distillation of everything I have learned about:
– What holds parents up from happiness
– How to change a child’s bad behavior to good
– How to make the time you spend with your kids into happy family time

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Important WTOO Links

If you need practical advice to deal with your child’s bad behavior, check out my book.
It’s called Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, and I wrote it especially to help parents handle kids’ tough behavior, because parents need to eliminate the bad before they can be happy at home.
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