Is my parenting style helping or hurting? | Podcast Episode 250

The term “parenting style” feels so nebulous.

But what if your parenting style – what you do in day-to-day interactions with your young child – makes it harder for you to connect, to be happy as you raise your family?

What if it affected, not just your young one’s childhood, but their whole life?

Framed like that, the parenting style we bring isn’t so much nebulous, as important.
Key, even.

Today’s episode digs into the 3 different parenting styles, how they affect your child’s life, and yours.

It’s part two of our “raising successful, fulfilled kids” series, and I hope it’s useful for you!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/250 for:

  • A cheat sheet on these 3 parenting styles
  • What’s up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
  • The video of the week: “Am I smothering my child with love?”
  • The sign-up for our upcoming ‘When to potty train, How to potty train’ free online class

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The parenting styles and what they mean for you

Permissive Parents: Warm and loving; impose very few, if any, limits on a child’s behavior; have few, if any, expectations; communicate a sense of privileges without responsibilities; described as “the opposite of Helicopter Parents”

Authoritarian Parents: Extremely structured; many limits on a child’s behavior; extremely high expectations; communicate a sense of “ruling with an iron fist;” characterized as cold, with few demonstrations of love

Authoritative Parents: A wonderful happy medium in parenting; warm, loving, nurturing; brings appropriate expectations and limits to child-rearing; offers explanation as to why a rule exists instead of saying “because I said so;” combines the best elements from Permissive and Authoritarian styles

 

Key Episode Links:

The three types of parenting styles defined:

  • Click here for the definition of permissive parenting
  • Click here for the definition of authoritarian parenting
  • Click here for the definition of authoritative parenting (and a comparison to authoritarian parenting)

(FYI in this episode I read from one article which compares authoritarian parenting to authoritarian regimes. In going back to find these links, that is the one link that I couldn’t find. Sorry!)

In case you were wondering, yes, the Afghanistan beard thing is true; read this Associated Press article from December 1998 to find out more.

Click here for the WTOO episode on “great parenting books,” which includes Tom Arnold’s The Power of Healthy Tension (which I talk about in today’s episode).

Click here for WTOO episode 248, a Your Child Explained episode featuring my friend and colleague, veteran educator Tricia Tomaso, and answering your questions about your kids.

Click here for WTOO episode 249, featuring mom, quilter, and social justice fighter Cathleen Dinsmore.

In this episode I discuss the fact that I was sexually abused as a child. For more on this, I recommend reading Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, in which I share that story (and how to help your child if something’s really wrong.)

Click here for the episode I did on Angela Duckworth’s work and the concept of “grit.”

Click here for the Everyday Ethics episode, “Lawnmower Parents.”

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In the WTOO Universe

Awesome FREE Resources…

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Click here for the free 5-part podcast series on how to get good weeknights with kids.

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
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Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page.

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)

 

… And some mind-blowing (if not free) resources for you:

 

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