3 Ways for you to be less stressed | Podcast episode 253

If only every day could be about pajamas and Lego dinosaurs.

Today I share how the stress I was under 7 1/2 years ago resulted in a lifelong tendon disorder.

I was so busy running our household and putting everyone else first, I did not pay attention to my health.

I really want you to learn from my mistake.

Today’s show focuses on how our stress isn’t just bad for us. It’s bad for our kids, too.

We also dig into the stresses of “intensive” parenting (a.k.a. helicopter or lawnmower parenting). And as you’ll see, that form of parenting stresses everybody out.

(Know what else stresses everybody out? Potty training, and temper tantrums… During today’s break I share about a free guide I offer for each of these stressors:

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child)

In this episode I offer three ways for you to be less stressed, not just now as we get into the holiday season (and everyone is pretty well at the end of their rope) but about how you can be less stressed over the long haul.

It’s Part 3 of the “how to raise successful, fulfilled, happy people” series, and I hope it helps you enjoy the time you spend with your littles!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/253 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 3 ways you can alleviate stress
  • Links to the articles I quote from today
  • What’s up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
  • The video of the week: “Good behavior at meals, good behavior at the park”

And thank you so much for listening!

Video of the Week:


 

How to get less stressed

1) Make the most of the time you spend with your kids.
If you have a tendency to hover and micromanage your young child’s minutes, hours, and days, I recommend that you change the time you spend doing that over to spending quality time with your kids.

Making the most of the time you spend with kids means:

  • Choosing activities and playthings that promote open-ended play.
  • Staying in the background sometimes, and letting them explore these activities and playthings on their own.
  • When you do jump in and spend time with them, to be less stressed this time should be for open-ended activities and screen free.

2) Pay attention to your exercise, sleep, nutrition, and hydration.
Today I share how the stress I was under 7 1/2 years ago resulted in a lifelong tendon disorder.

I was so busy running our household and putting everyone else first, I did not pay attention to these factors.

I really want you to learn from my mistake.

3) Spend time doing what you love.
Is it a hobby, or a sport, or just sitting somewhere quietly and reading?
If we’re going to cut down on stress, we must spend time doing what we love. For me it’s this show! What is it for you?

If someone’s critical of you because you are honoring these three tenets, and you feel that pressure, remember Dr. Laura Markham’s quote (which in podcast time will be on a future show, but which I share about today): “I’m not taking my cues from the outside world. I take my cues from my child.”

If you reduce the stress, you have a better chance of raising a successful, fulfilled, happy child because the “emotional contagion” (which we discuss in this episode) you share with your child is one of connection, engagement, and enjoyment. At least most of the time.

So, don’t take your cues from the outside world. Take your cues from within yourself, and claim your right to enjoy this life!

That way, you are modeling happiness and fulfillment for your young child.

And you are also enjoying it for yourself.

 

Key Links

Click here for the previous “how to raise successful, happy, fulfilled kids” WTOO podcast episode. It was episode 250, on the difference your parenting style makes in your children’s lives.

Click here to listen to the Everyday Ethics podcast episode about lawnmower parents, one of my favorite episodes of the podcast.

Click here for Dr. Arthur Caplan’s first WTOO appearance; click here for his second.

Click here for my conversation with former National Homeland Security Assistant Secretary Juliette Kayyem.

Click here for the Independent article that started me down this wonderful rabbit hole of raising successful and fulfilled kids in the first place.

Click here for the Washington Post article, by Brigid Schulte, quoted in the Independent, about the stress that “intensive mothering” places on these mothers.

 

In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
The Facebook group is where I do our Magic Words for Parents Facebook live every Monday πŸ™‚

 

Mind-blowing (if not free) resources for you:

 

Potty training little kids is never easy. That’s why I created a complete course, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, to help!
This course gets you ready for potty training with:

  • Gear recommendations, both essential and nice-to-have
  • Scripts so you know exactly what to say when your child has accidents or other struggles
  • Fixes for common problems – like if your child doesn’t care about sitting in a wet or poopy situation, or if you’re struggling to work well with your child’s school or caregiver

I created this course to give you everything you need to successfully potty train your child.
Click the link below to check it out!
Weturnedoutokay.com/pottycourse

 

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– NPC Member & Mom of 3YO Boy

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Awesome FREE Resources…

If potty training is getting you down, let me send you – completely free – the first lesson of my course on how to potty train successfully, even under pressure!
Click here to receive Lesson 1: How to Make This Take the Shortest Amount of Time Possible.

Click here for the free 5-part podcast series on how to get good weeknights with kids.

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page.

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)