Three ways to deal with the gimmes | Podcast episode 257

Let’s just say it: at this time of year, we don’t always get the best behavior from our kids.
They’re overstimulated. They’re out of routine. In many end-of-year traditions they are being showered with gifts.

This can make them forget that life is about so much more than receiving presents from everybody who walks through the door (or whose door they walk through.)

So, today I wanted to help you deal with the gimmes!

Listen for three ways to gently help your child step away from the gifts.

Go to for:

  • My cheat sheet on dealing with the gimmes
  • A free PDF that you can download called “Three principles of kids and gifts”
  • The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says “If you’re ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know.
  • The video of the week: “Teaching a child that it’s better to give than to receive”

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Video of the Week:


Handle the Gimmes Cheat Sheet

For my FREE PDF on handling the gimmes: click here!

1) Make a big day be about more than just one day.
It can be so hard for kids to wait. When we get all excited about this “day,” far off in the future, we can be setting our kids up for bad behavior. Instead of just talking about that far off day, in this episode I share some things you can do today, to get ready for that day (if that makes any sense : )

2) Help them give gifts.
It truly IS better to give than to receive. The sooner we can teach our children this lesson, the better. Plus this is one of the best ways to defeat the gimmes!

3) Create a volunteer tradition.
It can be hard to figure out ways to bring little kids into volunteering, what with liability and other grown-up terms. In today’s episode I share about several ways that we can help our kids be volunteers.

How do you do these?

Let me know! I’d love to hear what questions you have about handling the gimmes, and also what you have found that works in your family!
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Key Links

For my FREE PDF on handling the gimmes: click here!

Click here for the wonderful book, On Mother’s Lap, one of my favorites about handling sibling jealousy, and reassuring your child that there really is room for everyone in your heart.

Click here for the Audubon Society, which helped my youngest volunteer by “adopting” a puffin.

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
Click here to read more!


In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
The Facebook group is where I do our Magic Words for Parents Facebook live every Monday 🙂

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)


Mind-blowing (if not free) resources for you:

Potty training little kids is never easy. That’s why I created a complete course, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, to help!
This course gets you ready for potty training with:

  • Gear recommendations, both essential and nice-to-have
  • Scripts so you know exactly what to say when your child has accidents or other struggles
  • Fixes for common problems – like if your child doesn’t care about sitting in a wet or poopy situation, or if you’re struggling to work well with your child’s school or caregiver

I created this course to give you everything you need to successfully potty train your child.
Click the link below to check it out!


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Awesome FREE Resources…

If potty training is getting you down, let me send you – completely free – the first lesson of my course on how to potty train successfully, even under pressure!
Click here to receive Lesson 1: How to Make This Take the Shortest Amount of Time Possible.

Click here for the free 5-part podcast series on how to get good weeknights with kids.

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page.

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)