4 ways to guard yourself and your kids from toxic people: Podcast Episode 260

So, I never actually use the word toxic in the whole episode… instead of that, I talk about balloon-poppers. A much more fun name, I’m sure you’ll agree!
In this episode I share four ways that you can protect yourself against toxic people, a.k.a. balloon-poppers.

Which is really important, not just for your health, but for your child’s as well.

In this early part of the year, where we have more of a chance to think on introspective things, I hope this episode helps you feel happier inside! Bonus that in the long run it will help your kids find success, fulfillment, and happiness too!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/260 for:

  • A cheat sheet on 4 ways to protect against toxic people
  • The scoop on my latest book! One reviewer says “10 Secrets Happy Parents Know is a practical and easy-to-digest guide that sets the groundwork for the kind of family life you want.”
  • The video of the week: “How to avoid toxic people”

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

Video of the Week:


Cheat sheet on the 4 ways to guard against toxic people (a.k.a. balloon-poppers)

1) (These first steps are for you)
Recognize the balloon popping.
Just, recognize that it is happening. Acknowledgment is the first step to understanding.

2) Simply say “Thank you for the information.”
That’s it. Don’t allow anyone else to make a judgment on you, or intimidate you into feeling bad or sad. You are amazing! Don’t let anyone tell you different.

3) (These next steps are for your child)
Recognize your child’s fear or worry.
Because, if we don’t, we are in danger of becoming the balloon popper.

4) Validate your child’s concern.
Again, that’s it. Simply communicate to your child “I understand.”

Seem too simplified? This is a cheat sheet… For a fully fleshed out understanding of these four, take a listen to this episode! You can do that by scrolling to the bottom of these show notes and clicking the triangular “play” button.


Key Links

Click here to check out The Shortest Distance Between You and a Published Book, where I first learned of angels and balloon-poppers.

Click here for episode 191, my conversation with my son, Jay, back when he was 12. He clearly, succinctly, looked back at his own early childhood during our conversation. And he communicated very well about his childhood fears, too.

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
Click here to read more! And click here to see the book in Amazon!

During today’s break I reference KJ Dell’Antonia’s wonderful book, How to Be a Happier Parent. Click here to listen to the conversation KJ and I had, about this book, and about so much else too!


In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
The Facebook group is where I do our Magic Words for Parents Facebook live every Monday πŸ™‚

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
Click here to read more!


Mind-blowing (if not free) resources for you:

Potty training little kids is never easy. That’s why I created a complete course, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, to help!
This course gets you ready for potty training with:

  • Gear recommendations, both essential and nice-to-have
  • Scripts so you know exactly what to say when your child has accidents or other struggles
  • Fixes for common problems – like if your child doesn’t care about sitting in a wet or poopy situation, or if you’re struggling to work well with your child’s school or caregiver

I created this course to give you everything you need to successfully potty train your child.
Click the link below to check it out!


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Awesome FREE Resources…

If potty training is getting you down, let me send you – completely free – the first lesson of my course on how to potty train successfully, even under pressure!
Click here to receive Lesson 1: How to Make This Take the Shortest Amount of Time Possible.

Click here for the free 5-part podcast series on how to get good weeknights with kids.

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page.

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)