How our life choices affect our kids’ success | Podcast Episode 262

Welcome to another episode on how to make it so our kids grow up into successful, fulfilled, happy adults!
In today’s installment, we consider whether it’s important that we parents work outside the home.
And we end up considering an even bigger, more mind-blowing question: how do we even define success and fulfillment?

Go to for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 3 practicalities of raising successful kids
  • Key links that come up in this episode, including to a show that Ben and I are really loving (and which is relevant to today’s episode)
  • The video of the week: “How can I raise an independent, successful child?”

Quick program note, I mention in the episode that, if I can during the break, I’ll share more about the Harvard business school and professor Kathleen McGinn. I was not able to do that this week. However in the show notes I link to both both the business school and the professor, so feel free to read up further if you’d like!

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child
  • Want to receive valuable ideas and tips on parenting, without either free guide above? Click here for my weekly parenting newsletter!

Video of the Week:


Cheat sheet on the 3 Practicalities of raising successful kids

1) Decide what success means.
All through this episode I find myself questioning what “success” really means. We can all define it so differently! Thus, the first practicality of raising successful kids is deciding what values you really want to instill in your kids.

2) Choose what you model.
Even if you say “I want you, my darling children, to be happy and successful,” you may be giving them a very different lesson on what it means to be an adult if you’re unhappy in your own daily life. So, consider carefully what the choices you make every single day will communicate to your child, because actions speak louder than words.

3) Encourage your child’s passions.
In short: even if you think “we are in accordion-playing family,” don’t stifle a child who wants to play the guitar.


Key Links

Today’s episode is part five of how to raise successful, happy, fulfilled kids…
Click here for episode 256, part four of this same series.

Click here for the Independent article that started me down this wonderful rabbit hole of raising successful and fulfilled kids in the first place.

Click here for information on the Harvard Business School, and professor Kathleen McGinn in particular.

My first book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, comes up today because in that book I write about figuring out what values we want our kids to grow up with.
Click here to check the book out in Amazon; or, click here to check out the We Turned Out Okay bookshelf!

Ben and I are really getting a kick out of this Netflix show, The Fix. It comes up in today’s episode because of a remark that comedian Katherine Ryan makes as the host and guests consider how to fix the gender pay gap. Definitely not for kiddos, but well worth watching!


In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
The Facebook group is where I do our Magic Words for Parents Facebook live every Monday 🙂

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
Click here to read more!


Mind-blowing (if not free) resources for you:

Potty training little kids is never easy. That’s why I created a complete course, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, to help!
This course gets you ready for potty training with:

  • Gear recommendations, both essential and nice-to-have
  • Scripts so you know exactly what to say when your child has accidents or other struggles
  • Fixes for common problems – like if your child doesn’t care about sitting in a wet or poopy situation, or if you’re struggling to work well with your child’s school or caregiver

I created this course to give you everything you need to successfully potty train your child.
Click the link below to check it out!


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Awesome FREE Resources…

If potty training is getting you down, let me send you – completely free – the first lesson of my course on how to potty train successfully, even under pressure!
Click here to receive Lesson 1: How to Make This Take the Shortest Amount of Time Possible.

Click here for the free 5-part podcast series on how to get good weeknights with kids.

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page.

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)