How do my relationships with other grown-ups affect my kiddos? | Podcast Episode 265

What difference, you might be wondering, can it possibly make to my kids if I have good relationships with other grown-ups?

Actually, it matters quite a bit.

In this installment of the Raising Successful Kids series we talk about the impact of our relationships, including with our spouses and life-partners, on the eventual fulfillment and happiness of our children.

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Go to for:

  • A cheat sheet on the ideas in this episode
  • Key links from our conversation, including the resources I share, to help you understand this idea and move forward with it
  • The video of the week: “How does my relationship affect my kids?”

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

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Video of the Week:


Cheat sheet on how our adult relationships affect our children

1) Yes. Our grown-up relationships have a really significant effect on our kids.
If kids live with lots of conflict – yelling, verbal and/or physical abuse, or a situation where conflicts are not properly, respectfully resolved – they grow up feeling more anxious and sad.

2) So, what can we do about that?
We can work to get our relationships straightened out.

3) Okay… How?
In today’s episode I recommend considering Maslow’s hierarchy of needs (see Key Links below), to figure out where we are in terms of our safety, security, and relationships. And then I recommend thinking on how to improve those relationships. One great place to start: a book called The 5 Love Languages (you’ll find the link just below in the Key Links section of these notes.)


Key Links

Click here for Simply Psychology’s great image of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

Click here to check out The 5 Love Languages, a book which I’ve found super helpful in connecting with loved ones.

This is Part 6 of the Raising Successful Kids series; click here for episode 262, all about the 3 practicalities of raising successful kids.

Click here for the Independent article that started me down this wonderful rabbit hole of raising successful and fulfilled kids in the first place.

During the break I share details of Robert Hughes, Jr., professor at the University of Illinois, and his research into the effects of divorce on children, linking to a paper that he wrote sharing his research. Click here for the paper.
It’s an awesome paper, detailed yet accessible, and I highly recommend reading it if this is something that’s on your mind.

Click here for episode 62, my conversation with Brandie Weikle, about an amicable relationship with the coparent of her children.

Click here to check out the 7-Up documentary, a really unique series of interviews with people who are now more than sixty-three years old. These conversations started when they were 7, and have continued every seven years ever since. Really cool and interesting!

Click here to read about Robert Hughes Junior, professor at the University of Illinois.


In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
The Facebook group is where I do our Magic Words for Parents Facebook live every Monday 🙂

Click here for my channel in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
Click here to read more!


Mind-blowing (if not free) resources for you:

Potty training little kids is never easy. That’s why I created a complete course, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, to help!
This course gets you ready for potty training with:

  • Gear recommendations, both essential and nice-to-have
  • Scripts so you know exactly what to say when your child has accidents or other struggles
  • Fixes for common problems – like if your child doesn’t care about sitting in a wet or poopy situation, or if you’re struggling to work well with your child’s school or caregiver

I created this course to give you everything you need to successfully potty train your child.
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Awesome FREE Resources…

If potty training is getting you down, let me send you – completely free – the first lesson of my course on how to potty train successfully, even under pressure!
Click here to receive Lesson 1: How to Make This Take the Shortest Amount of Time Possible.

Click here for the free 5-part podcast series on how to get good weeknights with kids.

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page.

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp page in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)