Why does my child ask the same questions over and over? | Podcast Episode 269

Last summer, the two-year-old son of a Ninja Parenting Community member was in a car accident. Thankfully no one was injured. But the car was totaled.

And this little boy kept asking the same question, over and over:
“Why did Daddy crash Daddy’s car?” The accident was not Daddy’s fault. But you couldn’t convince the boy of that!

Everyone just wanted to move on.

But this little boy struggled to do that.

Maybe your child hasn’t recently been in a car accident, and so this isn’t the question that keeps getting asked.

But I bet, if you’ve got a toddler or preschooler, or even an elementary school kid, you know this phenomenon very well.

Today: what to do about it, when your child asks the same question again and again!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/269 for:

  • A cheat sheet on how to handle it when your child keeps asking the same question over and over, and it’s driving you nuts
  • Key links from today’s episode
  • The video of the week: Off this week, returning March 28

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Cheat sheet on handling endlessly repeated questions

1) Understand: it’s developmental.
In trying to understand, kids will ask the same question over and over. It’s reassuring when we can give them the same answer over and over.
2) Persevere; abide.
Your child needs you to patiently answer the questions that come up. That can mean simply abiding. With time, either the question will change (as your child develops an understanding of the answer) or your child will outgrow this stage of development.
Hang in there!
3) Ask: “Why do you think?”
This helps your child feel that they’re part of a team, that they belong.
Also, it helps us to reclaim that sense of wonder that children have inherently, but that lots of adults have outgrown. Listening to their answers, understanding their thoughts and ideas, is super fun.

Key Links

Click here for episode 30, my conversation with dad and acupuncturist Steve Mirando. Our conversation comes up because, in it, he shares about the sense of wonder his young son inspired in him by “trying to stop the wind.”

For you Ninja Parenting Community members, click here for the forum post , “Helping a toddler process trauma,” all about this member’s quest to help her son in the aftermath of the car accident.. Not a member yet? Click here.


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