4 ways to help your child make friends | Podcast Episode 275

One of the most concerning things for us parents is that our kids will not have any friends.
Maybe because we all remember that feeling of being lonely, or singled out.

We can feel kind of helpless at the same time. You may be feeling like either the process is so intuitive that you can’t teach it, or you may even be thinking “I don’t have that many friends, who am I to be trying to teach my child how to make friends?”

In this episode I deconstruct this process.
I offer 4 ways to help your child make friends.

ALSO in Parenting News: a member of the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group makes the New York Times! For something really special!

Take a listen!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/275 for:

  • A cheat sheet of the 4 ways to help your child make friends
  • Links to a whole bunch of good stuff including to some of the best conversations we’ve ever had on WTOO
  • The video of the week: “4 Ways to help your young child make friends”

And thank you so much for listening!

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Cheat sheet on 4 ways to help your child make friends

1) Give them social opportunities.
The first step is to get your child out into the world and give them access to other kids and families.

2) Model how to be a friend.
The things we never think about – turn-taking in conversation, offering friends a shoulder to cry on, and other social behaviors – are things our kids may have absolutely no idea exist in the world. They learn so much by imitation. Let them see you being a good friend.

3) Help them understand and verbalize their own feelings.
Before we can understand somebody else’s feelings, we must have a good handle on our own. We talk about how to accomplish this in this episode.

4) Help them resolve conflicts.
In life, there will be conflict. Help your kiddos understand that, and teach them to resolve these conflicts, and you are teaching them one of the most valuable friend-making behaviors that there is.


Key Links

In today’s break I get to share about Rosa Argyropoulos, whose story was featured in the New York Times because she and her husband are making awesome waves in Japan, where she is the primary wage earner and he stays at home with their twin sons.
Click here to read the New York Times article “Japan Is Among the Hardest Countries for Working Mothers. These Families Want to Change That.” 

Also during the break I share about “One Word,” the blog post I wrote last week discussing the use of a safeword, to prevent you arguing with your parenting partner in front of the kiddos (or at all).
Click here to read the post.

Click here for episode 273, my most recent conversation with summer camp director, author and podcaster Audrey Monke (it’s her new book, Happy Campers, that brought the idea for today’s episode up in the first place : )

Click here for episode 201, a conversation with returning champion Janine Halloran, in which she shares about some great ways to help your child with understanding their own feelings.

Click here for episode 255, in which guest Dr. Laura Markham of Aha Parenting helps us understand feelings and how to work with them.

In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
The Facebook group is where I do our Magic Words for Parents Facebook live every Monday 🙂

Click here for my channel in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
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