What does – and doesn’t – matter in a child’s learning | Podcast Episode 286

What are the factors that matter – like, REALLY matter, over the long haul – versus those that don’t, in your child’s education?

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I’m sure you’ll agree that getting a kid’s education right is critical.

It’s not just critical while they’re small. Screwing up a kid’s education can impact their whole lives.

And yet, it happens every day, when even well-intentioned and goodhearted people focus on the wrong stuff.

Because you listen to this show, I know that you are well-intentioned and goodhearted. So I’m helping you focus on the right stuff today.

Find out what really matters in your child’s education in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News: In this recent Education Week article, the idea of “growth mindset versus fixed mindset” is re-examined… We investigate in this week’s Parenting News segment.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/286 for:

  • A cheat sheet on what’s crucial to include in your child’s education
  • What does not matter.. what you can (and should) leave out of your young child’s education
  • Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more

And thank you so much for listening!

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Cheat sheet on what matters, and what doesn’t, in your young child’s education

What doesn’t matter:
1) Rote learning.
Try to avoid “quizzing” your child on things like colors and numbers.

2) Seatwork.
Kids are meant to move around!

3) How long they can sit still.
Some kids can sit still for a way longer time than others. It doesn’t matter.

What does matter:

1) Their engagement.
Kids learn and retain their learning far better when they are engaged in what they’re learning about.

2) Their interests.
See above : )

3) Their questions.
Really pay attention to these, because they’ll help you spur on your child’s learning.

4) Strengthening social skills.
See episode 284 of this show for more on how to strengthen social skills.

5) Communication and connection.
In WTOO episode 285, Dr. Michael Reichert, author of How to Raise a Boy, states “it’s not WHAT they’ll learn. It’s for WHOM they’ll learn.” Be the person for whom your child will learn.

Key Links

Want your child to be more independent? I’m offering a three week program that starts Monday, July 15, where you and I collaborate closely on exactly how to get that independence!
Click here to learn more and register for the “21 Days to Independence, for your child… and for you.”

Speaking of independence, all this week I’m offering a free program in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, a weeklong workshop to help your child be more independent.
Click here to join the Facebook group and check it out!

Click here for the movie Parenthood.

No Child Left Behind, the law that, for better or for worse, put national education on its current path, was signed into law in 2002.
Click here for the Education Week article describing NCLB in greater detail.

Click here for Crisis in the Kindergarten, a paper that blew my mind. In fact, each time I look at it a fresh blows my mind again.

Click here for episode 277 of We Turned Out Okay, about homework and how to handle it with your young child.

Click here for episode 284, my conversation with Amy Anderson, all about how to know if your child is giving consent, or not, when they’re very young.

In the WTOO Universe

Join the private WTOO Facebook group… Click here!
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Click here for my channel in YouTube, where you’ll find helpful videos (like this one on what to do when your child is jumping on the couch for your attention, at the worst possible time.)

My latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, is officially out!!
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Temper Tantrums, Potty Training, and Picky Eaters:

Today I share about three helpful free guides I offer.
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