Corporal Punishment in Schools: Why is this still a thing? Podcast episode 244

This is the only kind of paddling your child should ever be exposed to.

Recently one of the moms in my parent coaching community wrote in to share that her 4-year-old sons were about to start school… in a preschool-through-12th-grade school where corporal punishment is used.

“I can’t imagine [my boys] doing anything that would warrant a paddling, but I could not make myself check that box saying it was okay,” she wrote in our forums.

She then shared that, if parents check the “no, don’t spank my kid” box, children are exposed to other punishments such as a 3-day suspension and zeros on any assignments missed!

I was shocked. In every state there are laws against striking people in prisons and in the military; in most every state it’s illegal to strike an animal.

But it turns out that in 19 states, it’s okay to strike a child in school.

Come down the rabbit hole with me, into the world of corporal punishment.
It’s a world that might be much closer to you than you ever imagined.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/244 for:

  • Links to the articles I discuss today
  • The video I made recently about what to do when your young child wants to do everything all by him or herself… but can’t, and then has a fit
  • Also to hear my story about being in a flash flood this week!! I talk about that during the break. It was scary, that’s for sure!

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How to raise trustworthy kids – Talking with Dad and Author Jonathan Greene (Podcast Episode 243)

You’ll love today’s conversation

if you look at your little kids and can’t imagine how they could possibly become functioning – never mind happy or successful – adults.

Dad and author Jonathan Greene shares wisdom, and great stories, with us today!

Our conversation is all about how Jonathan went from being a latchkey kid – who was routinely mugged, and didn’t let it bother him – to a hovering father of young children.

Today he’s a dad of teens who’s formed really great bonds with his son and daughter, and shares today about the choices he made that helped develop those bonds.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/243 for this week’s YouTube video about what to do when your child is sneaking candy and treats that they know are off limits, for the podcast back catalog and all the great links that come up in today’s episode.

 

And thanks for listening!

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3 Ways to help young children through trauma: Podcast Episode 242, a Your Child Explained episode

Accidents, and traumatic events, can happen no matter how careful we are. Today’s episode helps you help your young child process traumatic events.

“Today my 2.5-year-old and his Dad were in a car accident… This happened around 1 PM today and my son has been talking about it and asking questions all evening. I’m trying to answer in simple clear terms but I feel over my head. It feels like a punch in the gut every time it comes up again.”
So wrote one of our Ninja Parenting Community members over the summer. Scary stuff!

Helping her process her young child’s trauma, and helping her through her own, has been a real focus of mine ever since.

So it seemed only right to share these lessons with you!
That way you’ll be prepared if something traumatic happens that involves your children.

Tune in to find out 3 ways to help your young child process trauma – and read about these 3 ways, find the entire back catalog of the podcast, watch my recent YouTube video about how to make big parenting decisions, and check out lots more stuff at weturnedoutokay.com/242 …

And thanks for listening!

 

3 Ways to help your young child process a traumatic event

With something upsetting happens in the life of a young child, they need fairly continual reassurance that they’re safe, and that the people around them will take care of them and keep them safe.

But as with our Ninja Parenting Community member’s recent experience, trying to give them that reassurance can be stress-inducing and overwhelming for us parents.

So, here are 3 ways to help your child confront, process, and come out the other side when something traumatic happens:

1) Let them talk and play it out.
Knowing and truly understanding that these questions and concerns will continually come up for your child can in itself make it easier to handle constant questioning.
Letting them ask these questions, talk about the situation, and even play it out over and over again is a necessary step in processing and moving beyond trauma for children.

2) Read, and play, and do normal stuff.
After something upsetting has happened, give your young child the reassurance that “we’re getting back to normal.” You can best do this by making sure that, as much as possible, you keep your child in a regular routine, with regular bedtimes and mealtimes.

3) Give your child time, and trust the process.
They will feel better, and when they do the questions and continual processing will go away.

Here’s what this NPC member reported a few weeks after the initial trauma:

“A positive update – now a couple weeks out, he’s asking only occasionally about it and has heard the same consistent positive answers enough times to seem secure and okay.
Thank you, Karen!!”

If you’ve recently gone through something upsetting or dramatic with your child, we can help you feel “secure and okay” as well… Join the Ninja Parenting Community today, and get the same kind of support that this member got when something unexpected and frightening happened in her life.

I was able to give her help that regular We Turned Out Okay listeners can only dream of… Including a supportive response very soon after the accident, plus a video in which I shared lots more about helping kids through bad stuff during a live, exclusive members-only call just a day or two later.

Need this same intensive, supportive level of help?

Click here to join the Ninja Parenting Community

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Bonus: Why you should join the FREE 5-Day Streamline Your Mornings Challenge

If only every morning could be about pajamas and Lego dinosaurs…

“[My husband and I, and our little daughter] are rushing out the door and late to work most mornings. I’m looking forward to participating in the challenge to figure out how to get to work on time!”

“With kindergarten I feel like I’m about to toss [my daughter] to the wolves. I’m worried I will have to practically push her through the door. How can I help her overcome her fear and her habitual morning anxiety?”

Do you, like these listeners, struggle with chaotic mornings? If so sign up here for the Streamline Your Mornings challenge, going on all next week September 10-14!

Each day you will learn one new tactic to eliminate the stress and frustration that mornings can bring, so you can calmly and confidently enjoy your mornings with your kids.

Stop the morning madness!

Listen to this quickie episode to learn more about the Streamline Your Mornings challenge… And then:
Click the link below to join this challenge:
weturnedoutokay.com/streamline

What part do goals and milestones play in your child’s education? Podcast episode 241

To wrap up our Back-to-School Bootcamp series we take a look today at milestones, guidelines, and goals in our kids’ education.

How important is it to have a 20,000-foot view of a young child’s life?
What kind of goals should you set, and what kind of milestones should you look for?

That’s what today’s episode is all about.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/241 for notes to this episode…

Sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings challenge by clicking here: weturnedoutokay.com/streamline!

And click here for an advanced chapter of my forthcoming book, Your Child Explained Volume 1… 

And thank you so much for listening!

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A parent’s role in education: 3 critical actions to take so your child can thrive (Podcast Episode 240)

Need help with your reluctant reader? Click here for our concise roadmap to helping your child love reading.

Glad you are here for Module 3 of our Back-to-School Bootcamp!

Today we follow up on last week’s discussion of what to do about school or childcare problems, so listen back to that one if you’re wondering “how do I handle THIS?”

Many of us wonder “what is my role in my child’s education, how can I best help?” I’ve got three crucial actions you must take so your child can thrive!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/240 for more on these 3 steps, help getting your child to love reading, and links to back episodes of everything…

And thank you so much for listening!

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Handling school and childcare problems with 3 key steps (Podcast Episode 239)

Need help with your reluctant reader? Click here for our concise roadmap to helping your child love reading.

Glad you are here for Module 2 of our Back-to-School Boot camp!

Today we follow up on last week’s determination of readiness, so listen back to that one if you’re wondering “is my child ready for this?”

Problems can crop up whether your child is “ready” for this step or not, so I’ve got three crucial steps you need to take to handle challenges!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/239 for more on these 3 steps, help getting your child to love reading, and links to back episodes of everything…

And thank you so much for listening!

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“Is my child ready?” – 3 ways to know if your child is ready for back-to-school (Podcast Episode 238)

We’ve got a great August coming up for you,

a whole series of new episodes on overcoming the perils of back-to-school!

Starting with today’s episode, in which I share three ways to know if your child is ready – for preschool, for kindergarten, for first or second grade, for relocating to a new school… You name it and we cover it in this episode.

If, after you listen, you’re thinking “maybe my kid ISN’T ready for this…” Hang onto your hats for next week. That is when we will discuss what to do if you’re not sure your child is ready for whatever’s in store!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/238 for help getting your child to love reading, to take my survey on your biggest back-to-school challenge, and links to back episodes of everything…

And thank you so much for listening!

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How do we handle big parental pressures? Talking with KJ Dell’Antonia, author of the forthcoming book How to be a Happier Parent (podcast episode 237)

Talking with returning champion KJ Dell’Antonia

is always a pleasure, and this episode is maybe my favorite conversation with her yet!

KJ has got a book coming out later this month, and if you’re feeling the pressures of parenting, you are going to LOVE her book, How to be a Happier Parent.

Like so many of my favorite conversations, this one zooms around and goes in directions that I didn’t envision when we sat down to talk.

And every direction offers something valuable for you to take into your parenting life.

We talk about:

  • Why parents need something of their own – something separate from your kids – to enjoy
  • How (and why) after-school activities and sports got so crazy
  • KJ’s two key steps to handling the big, bad pressures on us parents.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/237 for the TONS of links that come up in our conversation, and also to read more about KJ’s 2-step process to deal with those pressures…

And thank you so much for listening!

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What are your back-to-school challenges? (Bonus podcast episode)

What’s toughest for you about this time of year?

Maybe it’s your worries about how your child will handle the upcoming school year

Or maybe it’s just that you can’t stand the thought of the crazy schedule changes that are coming your way…

Or maybe you’re worrying about how to work with teachers or administrators?

I’m creating a Back to School Bootcamp to directly address your toughest struggles!

We’ll have new Bootcamp podcast episodes all throughout August to get you the help you need, here at the beginning of the school year, PLUS a free guide teaching 6 ways to help your kids love reading…

It all starts with you sharing what drives you most nuts at this time of year.

Click here to fill out my super-quick, 3-question back-to-school survey, so I can help you best in these upcoming weeks!

Cheers!

PS Want to help your child love reading? Click here for the guide : )