“Who we are as children never goes away;” speaking with Anna Seewald of Authentic Parenting | Podcast Episode 291

Today’s guest, Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, experienced a truly traumatic event in her childhood, an earthquake in which she lost her mother.
In part because of this experience, she went on to become a therapist, a woman who has dedicated her life to helping others through their toughest moments.
“My true passion is to help children to thrive,” she writes.
Today we discuss many ways to help your child to do exactly that.
I know you will get a lot out of this conversation. Many thanks to Anna Seewald for coming on We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News: Back in July I got to be a guest on Anna’s show! Extending on this theme about how childhood experiences shape us, I share that I was sexually assaulted at age 7.
This experience fundamentally changed my personality, and has had repercussions through all of my life. But here’s the thing, while I would of course never wish something like this on anyone, not all the repercussions have been bad.
Click authenticparenting.com/185 to listen to our conversation.
Though certainly tough in parts, overall it’s a hopeful, and I really hope helpful (hence the sharing as Parenting News) conversation.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/291 for key links from this episode, free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
Also:

And thank you so much for listening!

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

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5 Ways to help your child feel safe (amidst news reports on gun violence) Bonus Podcast Episode 290.5

We have all been hit hard by the news recently. And if we, as adults, are feeling the strain and stress, it’s a safe bet that our children feel it too.
How can you help?
In this bonus episode I offer five ways.

Helpful links:

Click here for episode 261 of We Turned Out Okay, my conversation with Maureen Healy (whose Bubble Breathing exercise I suggest in this episode.)

Click here for the link to the Eckerd College article about Marjorie Sanfilippo, whose study about kids and guns I talk about in this episode.

Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my parenting newsletter, which right now (in real-time) is an in-depth, 4-part series on how to handle overwhelmed at the start of the school year.

Click here to read this post in your browser.

Handling overwhelm at crazy times of the year (like this one)

Happy Wednesday!

This is the second in an in-depth, 4-part series, on how to start the school year off right.
(Click here for part one, about the first thing you can do when confronting any challenge.)

When I talk with parents about the starting of the school year, they often share their frustrations with just how CRAZY this time of year can feel.

There are so many little boxes to check:

  • The list of items your child’s teacher needs for the classroom
  • The schedule-changes that must be figured out
  • The new routines that kids can sometimes have a hard time getting into
  • The struggle of wrapping our brains around not just all these new challenges, but how we feel about our children, our worries for them, how quickly time is slipping away… How they’re changing right before our very eyes.
Lots to think about, and (if we allow it) lots to feel overwhelmed by.

In my daily life, when I am Mom-Karen (as opposed to Podcast-Karen, who understands that everything is going to be just fine and has solid ideas for handling every challenge), I often feel swamped by anxiety and overwhelm.Today I want to share with you the method I have found to beat the overwhelm and actually accomplish what I need and want to. Continue reading “Handling overwhelm at crazy times of the year (like this one)”

Let’s wreck this podcast! Episode 290

(Possibly due to Mommy Brain, I don’t mention the survey link in today’s episode until I’ve practically already said goodbye. So, here it is: weturnedoutokay.com/wreck
Click there to help me wreck this podcast : )

Also included in the survey: the chance for you to have a quick 1-to-1 call with me in September! Completely free, and without obligation. September is really hard for a lot of you, and I want to help you make it better.

 

Today I am asking the questions:

  • How can this show be better?
  • How can it help you more?
  • What do you like, what do you love, what do you wish was different?

A few months back, we passed 400,000 downloads of We Turned Out Okay.
400,000! That’s almost half a million!

When I started the show more than four years ago, I couldn’t even imagine 4000 downloads, never mind a hundred times that.

I felt, and still feel to this day, such gratitude to you. For getting us here, and most importantly for sticking with the show.

I do it for us. For anyone raising kids. Because I have been where you are. I totally know, from the inside, that raising kids and staying sane at the same time is a juggling act, and sometimes we feel like all the balls are falling down around us.

Let’s wreck We Turned Out Okay, in the best way possible.

Here is the link to the survey I created asking those questions above.

Cheers!

(Here is the link to this episode in your browser.)

Key Links:

Click here for the book Wreck this Journal, which first showed me how useful (and fun) it can be to get into the wrecking mindset!

Click here to check out the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group.

Click here to get the weekly Parenting Newsletter I send out each and every Wednesday.

 

 

Getting ready for the coming school year? Me too.

Happy Wednesday!

Today we’re starting an in-depth, 4-part series today, on how to start the school year off right.

I don’t know about you, but every summer I get into a nice, laid-back groove. Typically, my tendon-disorder pain decreases, and my well-being increases, because it’s the chance to relax, spend time with family and friends.

Also, there is lots less to think about, no soccer or other after-school activities, a lot less driving.

Often, I can wash up some green beans and slice some tomatoes, throw on a little fresh mozzarella, and call it “dinner.”

I have been known to think “hey! I haven’t had any tendon pain in weeks! I must be finally getting better!”

And then… September comes.

Everyone has to be everywhere, often with food and matching shoes. Continue reading “Getting ready for the coming school year? Me too.”

Your (supremely important) role in your child’s (formal) education | Podcast Episode 289

In this week’s episode of We Turned Out Okay, we examine a parent’s role in a child’s education!

Lots of parents have no idea how to help their kiddos in learning how to read, write, do math, or code.
But these are the essential skills of the future.

How do we help our kids, when they’re young, get ready for all that learning?

Find out by listening to this episode of We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News:  A really fascinating episode of Experiential Wisdom, all about lifelong learning and why it matters now, more than ever.

Join us!

Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter

 

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/289 for lots of key links mentioned in today’s episode, for free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
Also:

And thank you so much for listening!

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A formula for handling every temper tantrum

Happy Wednesday!

This week on the We Turned Out Okay podcast, I interview long time coaching client and Ninja Parenting Community member Jen.

Jen is the mom of 2 kids, 7-year-old and 4-year-old daughters.

When we sat down together to chat, I asked her about what her experiences been like in NPC.

Honestly, I thought Jen was going to talk about completely different things than she actually did.

I thought she would tell me about her 2 years and counting in our private coaching community, in terms of the “features:” different forums, or courses, that she benefited from.

Instead Jen shared that, when she joined, she had spent quite a bit of time on the Internet, more or less randomly looking for information about how to get her family life on a good track.

She shares about that time: “I didn’t feel like I had control over the direction our family was going.”

It was her work in our private coaching community that gave her that control.

What really helped her: the guidance, both in concrete “do this now” instructions, and working with me to gain a thorough understanding of why kids do what they do.

As part of NPC membership, everyone gets access to e-copies of my parenting books; Jen references the first one, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, as super helpful.

In our conversation we discuss one particular part of the book, the HEART formula for handling every temper tantrum.

Here is that formula in a nutshell: Continue reading “A formula for handling every temper tantrum”

“I didn’t feel like I had control over the direction our family was going.” A conversation with Jen, Mom of 2 and Ninja Parenting Community member | Podcast Episode 288

Do you ever feel like your family life is sliding in a direction you don’t want? In today’s episode you will hear how one mom, a coaching client of mine, worked with me to take control.

NPC member Jen, with her two daughters.

Getting control over the direction her family is going has brought has meant many good things, including fun, fulfillment, and real joy.

Listen in as Jen, mother of 2 young girls, talks about what she’s learned in our private coaching community, and how it has changed her life, and her family life.

 

Plus in Parenting News:  the You Are Not So Smart Podcast did a recent episode on the super-famous Marshmallow Experiment, which has been used to predict how successful a child will be, based on their ability to delay gratification. I LOVE this podcast, which I actually started listening to because of another episode, and it is the subject of today’s Parenting News because I think you would find it really helpful too.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/288 for a rundown of the HEART method of handling every temper tantrum, which comes up in this episode!
Also:

And thank you so much for listening!

Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter

 

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Remaining calm, even when they are throwing dirt at each other

Happy Wednesday!

Picture this: your children are facing up across the topsoil mound in your backyard. And they’re throwing dirt at each other.

You have no idea how it started, or who started it. All you know is, you sent them outside to play and here they are, hurling dirt.

Perhaps your first instinct is to lose it, and fly off the handle.
To shout, to send them to their rooms, maybe even to spank them.
It would feel so good… To show them who’s boss, and to make them listen to your authority.

And, maybe that would work in the moment. Maybe you’d end up with more obedient kids – in the short-term, at least.

But when a coaching client of mine experienced this exact scenario, she did something different.
She did something that, together, we had been working on:

A method to keep calm, and help her 4-and 7-year-old girls resolve the conflict that started the dirt-throwing. Continue reading “Remaining calm, even when they are throwing dirt at each other”

How to Help Kids Get Along: Masterclass | Podcast Episode 287

How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other?

No matter the season, there’s always an opportunity for kids to come into conflict with other kids.

Whether siblings, cousins, classmates or just somebody at the playground, mean words, pushing, and other acts of frustration or aggression abound.

So, do we parents just have to live with it, put up with the bickering and hard feelings?

Nope!

This masterclass is a distillation of three months’ worth of work in the private, online community I run for parents of young children.
During April, May, and June 2019 we dove headfirst into the problems real parents really experience, and how to alleviate it when kids aren’t getting along.

Today I’m bringing you behind the scenes, directly into the Ninja Parenting Community, sharing the information you need to help your kids actually get along!

Some of these ideas may seem unconventional, and likely (unless you are a member of NPC) they are new to you, but they REALLY work.

In fact we finish out with a success story! How does one mom handle it, when she finds her daughters throwing dirt at each other?

Find out in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News: This article in the Atlantic, on Fred Rogers (of Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood) and how he approached speaking with children, is one of those articles I wanted to hug to my chest <3
I share why in today’s Parenting News segment.
Plus I read my recent review of Audrey Monke’s wonderful book, Happy Campers!

Join us!

Sign up for my Weekly Parenting Newsletter

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/287 for:

  • Notes from this Masterclass on How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids
  • The Masterclass video
  • Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more

And thank you so much for listening!

Today’s episode is brought to you by…
You, if you have purchased one of my parenting books! I write books that help parents truly enjoy family time, by sharing tools and formulas that you can use to change your child’s behavior from bad to good, and also that help you feel happy inside.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/books to check them out!

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