325: Your most important asset in times of trouble

How, you might be wondering, are we actually really going to get through this time?

You’re not alone in wondering that. I have been wondering about it too.

I’ve also been feeling terribly guilty, any time that I forget we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and find myself enjoying something, or laughing at a joke, or feeling contented.

So today I want to bring you an episode that defines our most important asset, the single most important thing we need to get through this (or any) time of trouble.

I hope you find it helpful! (Click here for this post in your browser.)

Here are all the links I share about today:

1. Click here for the poem that brought me to tears, and also gave me permission to not feel guilty, but to embrace good feelings.

2. Click here for episode 188, my conversation with Mark McGuinness of the 21st century creative podcast.

3. Click here for the McElroy Family YouTube channel, where you’ll find the wonderful series Stories From Your Gaffer, read each evening at 5:30 PM Eastern by Clint McElroy, one of my favorite podcasters ever.

4. Click here for The Adventure Zone, where I first heard Clint McElroy – but please, not with kiddos around!

5. Click here for my conversation with Audrey Monke, broadcast last Friday (in real-time) at Audrey’s Sunshine Parenting Facebook page.

6. Click here for episode 273, my second We Turned Out Okay conversation with Audrey, about her wonderful book, Happy Campers.

7. Click here for my conversation as a guest on the wonderful #Am Writing Podcast; I share about my experience doing everything digital by voice, after losing the ability to use my hands to accomplish digital – and lots of analog – tasks.

8. If you are a Ninja Parenting Community member, click here for member Jen’s success story, about helping her daughter overcome fears about coronavirus and house fires. She did this in such a cool way (I read out the success story today in this episode).
Not a member? Click here to become one.

9. Click OkayCon.com for OkayCon 2020, the FREE Virtual Summit going on right now here at We Turned out Okay!

10. Click here to join the Facebook group – that way you can be part of the OkayCon 2020 watch parties every Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM Eastern!

11. I share HUGE news today, about the Happy-in-Place Challenge going on in The Ninja Parenting Community (it starts on April 16, my birthday : )
Right now you can join NPC for just $1 for your first month and each consecutive month thereafter at 50% off the standard monthly rate! You can cancel at any time, so there is no risk… Only the hope, support, and accountability that membership brings.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc for details and to sign up!

How was your week? (First week of April 2020)

Happy Friday!

This week I wanted to:
– have one coronavirus-free newsday
– make 3 main-meal lunches
– kick off OkayCon 2020, the FREE Virtual Summit going on all throughout April 2020

Here is the video I made sharing those intentions:

Weekly Friday Assessment

Today at 11 AM EST I did a YouTube live to share about my week!
And I asked you: how did your week go?
Click “play” below:

Notes for the Weekly Assessment Video above (the Friday one : )

How was your week? I hope it was at least all right <3
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact to share – and if you can, please include one positive thing, no matter how small : )

The way that we get through this “double” pandemic, of coronavirus, and fear, is through supporting each other!

So I’m doing these weekly Monday assessments and Friday intentions videos to help us both stay on track!

Huge thanks to:
Dan Blank of We Grow Media, for letting me bring you the weekly assessment that I learned how to do from Dan!
Check out Dan’s Creative Shift podcast, and the Creative Shift Mastermind, at http://wegrowmedia.com!

Mark McGuinness of the 21st Century Creative podcast, for reading out Thomas Hardy’s The Darkling Thrush, my inspired moment of the week!
You can listen to Mark read this beautiful poem at: https://www.markmcguinness.com/the-darkling-thrush-thomas-hardy

The wonderful people in the Ninja Parenting Community! (Become one, and get support you need right now at the Friends & Family rate, at https://weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc

Janine Halloran of http://encourageplay.com, and Heather Maguire of http://prismbehavior.com, for being this week’s OkayCon 2023 FREE Virtual Summit guests!
Watch their presentations at: http://okaycon.com

Wishing you a good weekend,

324: Why your child’s behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC

Today we are bringing back – for the fifth time! – beloved guest, an expert in teaching kids coping skills, Janine Halloran LMHC of copingskillsforkids.com.

We discuss:
– How Janine is thinking about school work and all this extra time at home with kids and family
– The kinds of questions her clients are bringing to her right now, in spring 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic
– Why a child’s behavior is most likely worse than usual right now
– What you can do about that, if that’s the case in your home

Join us!
(Click the following link for the video of our talk, and also notes from today’s conversation: weturnedoutokay.com/324)

How are you staying positive? Let me know!

In our Facebook group:

in Instagram:

in Twitter:

All during April’s FREE OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we’re having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that!

Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties:

Join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where the watch parties are happening each Monday and Wednesday all through April, by clicking here.

Find out details about the summit itself:

We will get through this together : )
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com

Helping parents change kids’ behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : )

PS Join my email newsgroup for lots of useful, free parenting tools, as well as lots of info on OkayCon, our Virtual Summit that is ongoing right now: sign up at weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

If you need some extra support, especially right now with all the madness, I’m offering special membership rates if you want to join our private coaching community, NPC. Click here for details and to join, so I can personally help you through this extremely challenging time!

What is possible? Coronavirus update 5

In today’s video I talk about a few things:
– the daily check-in call a friend and I have established, in which we trade inspirational calendar/book entries
– the idea that, even in a frightening and worrisome time like we are having now, many things can and will go right
– a wonderful Smart Passive Income podcast episode, “What to do when you are laid off,” in which Pat asks the question “What is possible?”
– My upcoming interview for the April 2020 OkayCon Virtual Summit with Andy Murphy, author of The Secure Dad and an expert in home and family safety and security

I combine all these ideas into one overarching thought:

Good things are possible right now, too.

What’s good in your life right now? How are you staying positive? Let me know!

In our Facebook group:

in Instagram:

in Twitter:

All during next month’s OkayCon Virtual Summit we’re having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that!

Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties:

Find out details about the summit itself:

We will get through this together <3
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com
Helping parents change kids’ behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : )

323: 32 Ways to occupy stuck-at-home kids (organized by amount of adult input!)

During a recent call that takes place each week in my online coaching practice, many members expressed frustration with all the lists of activities coming at us, because they’re often frustratingly disorganized.

So I wanted to give everyone a list, organized by how much time/input is required by us parents!



(FYI: all during the coronavirus pandemic I’m offering OkayCon 2020, a FREE Virtual Summit featuring experts on all kinds of subjects that matter to everyone right now, kids’ behavior in confinement, staying positive, keeping home and family safe, and more!
Go to OkayCon.com for details – and click the button just below to get notified about upcoming guests : )

Click here to get notified about OkayCon2020 upcoming guests and watch parties!


Here are the 32 ways to occupy your kiddo, organized by amount of adult input:

A few caveats, this will definitely depend on a child’s age. A two-year-old will not be able to be as independent in making yarn dolls, for example, as seven or eight-year-old would be. But hopefully there’s something in here for everyone!

1. Minimum adult input activities: Continue reading “323: 32 Ways to occupy stuck-at-home kids (organized by amount of adult input!)”

“How do I handle weeks and possibly months of this?” – Coronavirus Update 4

“How do we get through weeks or potentially months like this?”
We talked about looking at what is right in front of us instead of trying to know the future (this is something that I need to keep in mind, as well as anybody, so very helpful part of our talk : )
We discussed mindfulness, and I shared this app from the VA.

“I feel guilty, and overwhelmed, trying to work while leaving my young child to his own devices. What can be done about this?”
I also gave us all permission to not feel guilty.
We are doing the best that we can, and the more guilt we feel, the less we can do our best.

Get updates like this right into your inbox as they’re happening:

And many hugs for you as we come through this! We will get through it. And we will get through it together <3

A Sense of Control: Coronavirus update 3

In today’s video I share how to help our children have a sense of control, and also how to help ourselves have a sense of control, in these crazy times that we are now living in.

NPC members: I have created an entire forum, Coronavirus Resources, where I’m placing videos like these and other good information, and where I’m hoping you’ll post your questions and your good information to! Click here to visit this forum. (Please note, you must be logged in to access our forums; click here to watch a quick video on how to do this : )

In this video I reference:
Ned Johnson’s amazing article, “Help enhance kids’ sense of control amid coronavirus concerns
The awesome website washyourlyrics.com, where you can set handwashing to any song! No more Happy Birthday! (Unless you love Happy Birthday… But I bet you’re a little tired of it by now : )
The very first podcast episode in this stream, https://weturnedoutokay.com/000, in which myself and my four best friends share about our unplanned adventures. Might make very good listening right now, as we are globally on an unplanned adventure.
Finally I share the March 16 inspirational calendar quote, one that means a lot to me, especially right now:
“Live your life by a compass not a clock”
I hope this video is helpful!

PS I am changing up the programming for We Turned Out Okay, to reflect more of what you need during this coronavirus outbreak. So, what do you need?

What questions have you got that I can help with, as a child development expert, while you navigate all the stuff coming at you?
You can email me by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact, and I hope you do!
Better yet, go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my newsletters… You’ll get these videos automagically sent right to your inbox, and I write back to each and every one of you who writes to me.

Hugs to you as we go through this time!

322 Coronavirus anxiety, and How to regulate screen time (new ninja tactic!)

So, I say I’m going to drop an F bomb in the beginning segment of this episode, but we decided to edit it out, so no worries about earmuffs 🙂

Re coronavirus: I had an anxiety attack this morning, before I was even fully awake. To help you in case you are experiencing heightened anxiety right now as well, I start off today’s show with audio from a video series I’m doing on how to feel better during this time of fear, worry, and coronavirus threats.

The video has its own post, with a cheat sheet of the ways I’m finding to alleviate the anxieties, available at https://weturnedoutokay.com/cv2

Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get these videos automagically delivered right into your inbox. We will get through this together 💕

Re the new ninja tactic:

I am SO excited to share this with you, a new ninja tactic that is absolutely great for regulating screen time!
Do you struggle with getting your kids to stop watching TV, or the tablet, or stop using your (or their) phone?
This is the show for you. I lay out exactly what words to say, to make this work – to get your kids to listen to you and actually control the screen time!
Join us : )

Here is the link to this post

Links that come up in this episode:
weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, where you can sign up for the newsletters I send out each week! They are extremely useful, like this one about what to do when your child is disrespectful, and plus I love corresponding with you!

The original post by our NPC member, who first brought this ninja tactic to my attention

creatingchampionsforlife.com, the place our NPC member first learned of this tactic

– Bonnie and Thomas’s video, outlining the tactic

Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book, which contains lots more tools you can use in the stressful moments of parenting to get your kids to do what you want them to do : )

weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc, where you can become a member of the Ninja Parenting Community (just as this member did) and learn to overcome the challenges that are stopping you from truly enjoy family time

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today’s show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Thanks for reading, and listening!

Anxiety, sickness in the time of coronavirus, and my family: update one


In this video I share what’s going on in my family (as one of my sons and I travel, and he gets sick), my own fears about and anxieties around coronavirus and all of the economic and social havoc it’s wreaking – and most importantly what steps I’m taking to address those fears.

I am sharing because I hope the steps I’m taking will be helpful for you too!


This one takes you to the video and podcast episode I did recently on “14 things you can do to address coronavirus with your family”:


And this one takes you to kids and media specialist Devorah Heitner‘s article on how to survive with kids home from school for an extended period of time:

https://www. raisingdigitalnatives.com/kids-home-from-school-how-to-survive

I plan to be back in here with another update for you in a couple days. Hope this helps! And thanks for watching 💕

Cheers, Karen