350: “Letting go of what others think” with Debbie Reber of TiLT Parenting

I am super excited to bring you today’s episode, which includes so much good that my heart is practically bursting : )
It’s a digest episode, and the first part is my conversation with Debbie Reber, founder of the TiLT Parenting Podcast, http://tiltparenting.com, and author of one of my favorite books, Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World.

Somewhere in the first few minutes we decide to depart from a kind of standard interview, Q&A sort of conversation and dive into something much better and more fun! Continue reading “350: “Letting go of what others think” with Debbie Reber of TiLT Parenting”

347 Part 2: A parent’s guide to the dangers of “using history to fit our narrative”

With all the talk recently about something called “patriotic learning,” I wanted to bring you an episode to help you understand how education can become a political football, what that really means for your child, and what you can do about it.
So I called on my friend, historian Gary Gregory. Gary runs a tour company, Lessons on Liberty, bringing folks into the history of the Revolutionary War.
He also runs The Printing Office of Edes and Gill, where he uses the technology of the 1700s to create real documents from that time period, and to bring people into that time period.
Gary knows a lot about history, both real and revisionist, and brings us his wisdom today!
Hope you enjoy this episode!

There are about a million links, and you can find all of them here:
weturnedoutokay.com/347-part-2

Cheers! Continue reading “347 Part 2: A parent’s guide to the dangers of “using history to fit our narrative””

A reformed non-fan of poetry shares how poetry can be a force for good

Hi Friends!

The links worth clicking are sprinkled all throughout today’s letter… And I guess in a way so is the poetry : )

Just quickly, I’m excited to share that I am in not one but two positive, important, and exciting virtual summits!

Click here for the Reigniting Toddler Play Summit, taking place 9/28-10/2/20, where I am talking about “how to keep going while raising little kids”

Click here for the Emergency Home Learning Summit, where I am talking about “how kids’ independent play makes family life better”

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Over the summer I heard, and took, an outstanding piece of advice from podcaster and creative coach Mark McGuinness: “Read some poetry.”

Mark is himself a poet, and it’s clear that poetry has been a huge force for good in his life.

But other than music, which is really poetry at its heart, I’ve never connected with poetry before.

And here at home I’ve had a book that was given to me more than five years ago, The Names of Birds, by Daniel Wolff.
(He was one of my first guests on the We Turned Out Okay Podcast, and our conversation does get a bit into poetry! We also talk a lot about education, history, and what it all means for your family. Click here to listen.) Continue reading “A reformed non-fan of poetry shares how poetry can be a force for good”

Two gentle and kind models for how to teach good values

I wanted to share a picture today, one that has been giving me hope:

I wanted to share the story behind this picture, of Officer Clemmons, played by actor and playwright François Clemmons, and Fred Rogers. It’s a still from a scene of Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood in which Mr. Rogers invites his friend to cool off in the pool, on a hot day.

(This picture is actually from 24 years after the original segment aired on Mr. Rogers Neighborhood in 1969, when Mr. Clemmons and Mr. Rogers re-created the scene; click here for a lovely video, featuring François Clemmons sharing about his experiences as Ofc. Clemmons, and working with Mr. Rogers on the show and in which you can view footage of the original segment.)

You most likely remember Fred Rogers, and many of your kiddos probably love watching Daniel Tiger, a creation of Mr. Rogers’, on PBS.

But you may not know actor and playwright François Clemmons.
And you may not know the significance of this picture, taken from a video segment of Mr. Rogers Neighborhood, in which Mr. Rogers – in real life an ordained minister – washes the feet of Officer Clemmons, played by his friend and colleague Mr. Clemmons.

Continue reading “Two gentle and kind models for how to teach good values”

How to stop school from screwing up your child, part 4 | Podcast Episode 307

Welcome to the fourth and final installment in our series about school, and how it can screw up your child, and how to make sure that that does not happen!
Today we discuss the dangers that come with someone feeling continually assessed, judged, and evaluated.
I work really hard to give you ideas to overcome this challenge.

Plus in Parenting News:
I share about this documentary that I first watched in college as a human development major. (Based on this documentary… Some of what’s in the other is also here, but there is more here that is not covered in the other. I recommend watching them both!)
Recently it came up again, and I’m excited because I get to share with you today!

Also! If you can be at the Bancroft Memorial Library in Hopedale, Massachusetts this coming Saturday 12/7 between noon and 3 PM, come say hi – I’ll be there as an author in their local authors book fair : )

Join us!

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Each Wednesday I send out a Parenting Newsletter, to help you stay sane while raising your kiddos.
Past editions have included how to make it so your child wins the parent lottery (even if you did not), and helping when your child is frightened.
Useful stuff.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly so it zooms right into your inbox each week!

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today’s show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

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How do young children learn? | Podcast Episode 292

“Learning” can mean different things to different people:
– Getting good grades
– Passing a test
– Reading, writing, coding, mathematics, etc.

But how do we get to the point where we know, and can demonstrate, our knowledge?
It all starts in early childhood.
Today we dive into how young children learn best.

Plus in Parenting News: As parents, we can’t be all serious and big-business. Without some downtime, we can’t keep going, in child-rearing, in outside-of-the-home jobs, or within ourselves.
I have been going through some pretty major burnout, and today in Parenting News, I share about a resource that has been making me feel way better: The Adventure Zone, in both podcast and graphic novel form. If this completely awesome, totally-not-for-kids sci-fi-fantasy thing is not for you, that is absolutely fine! But take this moment to find something that does get you the downtime enjoyment that you need.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/292 for a cheat sheet on the 3 ways kids learn best, key links from this episode, free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
Also:

And thank you so much for listening!

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Continue reading “How do young children learn? | Podcast Episode 292”

Your (supremely important) role in your child’s (formal) education | Podcast Episode 289

In this week’s episode of We Turned Out Okay, we examine a parent’s role in a child’s education!

Lots of parents have no idea how to help their kiddos in learning how to read, write, do math, or code.
But these are the essential skills of the future.

How do we help our kids, when they’re young, get ready for all that learning?

Find out by listening to this episode of We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News:  A really fascinating episode of Experiential Wisdom, all about lifelong learning and why it matters now, more than ever.

Join us!

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Go to weturnedoutokay.com/289 for lots of key links mentioned in today’s episode, for free guides (on potty training, picky eating, and how to handle every temper tantrum), and lots more resources!
Also:

And thank you so much for listening!

Continue reading “Your (supremely important) role in your child’s (formal) education | Podcast Episode 289”

What does – and doesn’t – matter in a child’s learning | Podcast Episode 286

What are the factors that matter – like, REALLY matter, over the long haul – versus those that don’t, in your child’s education?

(Quick heads-up: starting this coming Monday, July 15 I’m offering a program to help you do less for your child, and feel good about it! It’s called “21 Days to Independence for your child… and for you.”
In these 3 weeks we will cover: how to not be your child’s personal entertainer; how to stop hovering, for your benefit AND theirs; how to help them resolve conflicts, and more! The program takes place right in your inbox, so it’s super convenient as well as helpful.
Because I’m working closely with each participant, space is limited, and spots are filling up! Click weturnedoutokay.com/indy to learn more and register.)

I’m sure you’ll agree that getting a kid’s education right is critical.

It’s not just critical while they’re small. Screwing up a kid’s education can impact their whole lives.

And yet, it happens every day, when even well-intentioned and goodhearted people focus on the wrong stuff.

Because you listen to this show, I know that you are well-intentioned and goodhearted. So I’m helping you focus on the right stuff today.

Find out what really matters in your child’s education in this episode of We Turned Out Okay!

Plus in Parenting News: In this recent Education Week article, the idea of “growth mindset versus fixed mindset” is re-examined… We investigate in this week’s Parenting News segment.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/286 for:

  • A cheat sheet on what’s crucial to include in your child’s education
  • What does not matter.. what you can (and should) leave out of your young child’s education
  • Links to free guides on potty training, handling every temper tantrum, and more

And thank you so much for listening!

The show is sponsored this week by Julian Coffee, a unique and amazing coffee that comes from a family farm in Puerto Rico and that will help you start your day off right! Listen to today’s episode for the code that will get you 10% off when you go to juliancoffeepr.com or Julian Coffee’s page in Amazon.

Continue reading “What does – and doesn’t – matter in a child’s learning | Podcast Episode 286”

Human development for grown-ups | Podcast Episode 283

Here’s something that you may not have thought of: developmental stages aren’t just for kids.
Each of us grown-ups is still working on stuff developmentally.

Today we talk about the adult stages of development – a concept that really matters!

It matters in relation to our young children.
But most of all it matters to us, inside ourselves.

Plus in Parenting News: Friend-of-the-podcast Devorah Heitner, who always makes me feel better about life in our digital age, recently wrote a beautiful essay for the Washington Post. It’s about how, had her mom been alive today, the learning disabilities she lived with may not have been a problem.

Join us!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/283 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the later (i.e., adult) stages of human development
  • Key links we talk about in this episode 
  • The video of the week: “What really matters in a grown up’s development?”

And thank you so much for listening!

How to Help Kids Get Along with Other Kids: FREE Online Parenting Class!

Does your child struggle to get along with siblings, classmates, cousins, or at the playground?
Do your kids push, hit, or even bite to get their way?
Let me help… Sign up for the Free Online Parenting Class I am teaching Thursday, June 27!

You’ll learn:

  • What’s most important when thinking about kids dealing with siblings or other kids
  • The 3 keys to good child and sibling relations
  • How to overcome one crucial factor that impedes a child’s ability to get along with other kids
  • Which principles to adopt – and which to drop – in helping kids get along

Sign up to watch it live at 2 PM on Thursday, June 27 OR sign up to catch the replay at your convenience.
Start summer off right by learning how to help your kids get along with other kids. Sign up at the link below!
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And You Were So Scared

Happy Wednesday!

Training update:
I am two thirds of the way through revising Educating Happy Kids, the book I plan to have out to you by mid August! I hope to hit my first milestone, getting the book to my editor on June 1, and I am on target to do it!

I have been posting daily instagram stories about my training… Click here to see the latest!

Or just hit reply to this email if you want to cheer me on.

And thank you SO much, if you have already cheered me on… Seriously, it helps me keep going when you do that.

Parenting Community Open House:

Tomorrow, Thursday, May 30, I am throwing open the doors to the Ninja Parenting Community! Find out more, and sign up, at the end of this letter : )

 

For me, spring is always a time of anxiety.

– It seems like, as the days lengthen, drivers are more inclined to be impatient, and unsafe.

– Skiing is done for the winter, it feels so long before I can get back out and take part in my favorite sport.

– I look out at the yard, and there’s so much to do.

– Summer is coming, how will we keep the kids amused while they are not school?

Each spring, when I am at my most anxious, I remember a wonderful book.

It’s called The Monster at the End of This Book, Starring Lovable, Furry Old Grover​​​​​​, and you can find it in Amazon here. (And also probably in your local library, which is where we always use to get it.)​ Continue reading “And You Were So Scared”