Never doubt your work or your worth

Hi Friends,

This is the latest – and final – installment in my summer-long series, taking you on my journey of recovering from overwhelm and burnout and learning ways to sustainably keep going. Click here for the first installment, “Feeling guilty,” and click here for the most recent in the series, “One thing I cannot live without.”
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First of all, how are you today?
I hope you are hanging in there!

I’ve spent the summer thinking deeply on the work that I do.

All during this season, I’ve written to you on what’s helping me overcome guilt, burnout, and exhaustion.
(The short answer:
– Slowing way, way down
– Determining what is in my control and what isn’t
– Working to be kind and not judgmental
– Incorporating seemingly frivolous things, such as light fiction, music, and laughter)

I want to wrap this series up today by sharing the fundamental lesson that I’ve learned, during this season of exploration.

It started with a feeling of unworthiness.
A feeling that how I show up for my family, my kids, how I show up for you?
It’s wrong, all wrong.

That’s how I felt earlier on in this season. Continue reading “Never doubt your work or your worth”

342: How to have “a daily practice of choice.” Talking with Mariela Ortiz of the Mommy Matters Summit

Our choices right now seem extremely limited, don’t they? We don’t have a choice in how the coronavirus spreads, we don’t have a lot of choices in how our children’s childcare and schooling works right now. For many of us even our own ability to be private, to have alone time, doesn’t feel like it’s under our control.
Today’s guest, Mariela Ortiz, helps us to a different mindset: she talks about “a daily practice of choice.”
Some things are in our control; we can make meaningful choices.
Listen to today’s conversation to figure out how to do that!

Notes and Links

Mariela invited me to be one of the experts in her Mommy Matters Summit, such an honor! And we have a GREAT conversation, which you can watch by signing up for the Summit at the link below. It started Monday, August 3 and will go through August 27, 2020, with a new guest expert each day!
Sign up to get 25 days’ worth of guests – including me – in your inbox by going to:
mommymatterssummit.com

Get your FREE August 2020 inaugural issue of the We Turned Out Okay Playbook
I’m excited to share the start of something fun and helpful, the We Turned Out Okay Playbook! It’s a monthly publication I’m creating to help you feel like you have some power, and some good choices to make, even in the midst of all the insanity.
You can download the August 2020 PDF completely free! Go to:
weturnedoutokay.com/playbook

Weekly “How is Karen overcoming burnout and exhaustion” Newsletter Series Continues
For the last seven weeks I have shared a newsletter each week about how I’m overcoming burnout and exhaustion, in this time where being a parent is so tough.
Last week I wrote about the part that music plays in my self-care (click here to read about that.)
Get the next newsletters in this series by going to:
weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Visit weturnedoutokay.com/342 for the video of my conversation today, and for these show notes.

Hugs from me to you! We will get through this time together! Continue reading “342: How to have “a daily practice of choice.” Talking with Mariela Ortiz of the Mommy Matters Summit”

What is in our control?

This is the latest in my summer-long series, taking you on my journey of recovering from overwhelm and burnout and learning ways to sustainably keep going. Click here for the first installment, “Feeling guilty,” and click here for last week’s update, “The real reasons to be kind instead of judgmental.”

We are going through the process of changing from employer-based healthcare to, well, non-employer-based healthcare (for lack of a better term).

As we do this, we are discovering that there is a lot that is not in our control. Continue reading “What is in our control?”

339: How to keep going in this pandemic with Shannon Connery, PhD

I am excited to bring Shannon Connery, PhD, onto the show today, because she’s got lots of great ideas to help you keep going! (Click here for Shannon’s website, where you’ll find her podcast, her blog, and a wonderful free guide that she offers to help people overcome the challenges that we all have in our lives : )
Shannon is a therapist living in Colorado, and in our conversation today you’ll hear her story of losing nearly everything – and coming back stronger from that experience.
Shannon is also a podcaster, and her Fix Yourself is one of my favorites – she helps us all know what to do when we encounter difficult events and struggles in our lives. Shannon shares so much about herself, and her feelings, and what she’s tried that works to keep going and to help her family members and patients thrive.

Today we talk about:
– The role of empathy and positivity in helping you keep going
– Steps we are taking (and that you can also take) to dismantle racism
– What Shannon is doing to help those that she works with through the pandemic

Join us!

Video of our conversations – as well as lots of key links from this conversation – are available at weturnedoutokay.com/339

A couple notes from the preshow segment:
– Registration is now open for the private coaching practice for parents that I run (the Ninja Parenting Community), so you can join now if you need the extra help from a child development expert, and the support of a wonderful online community!
weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

– All throughout July I’m offering free live trainings, and even a free challenge! Get notified of these at the following link:
weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Continue reading “339: How to keep going in this pandemic with Shannon Connery, PhD”

The first thing that’s helping me overcome burnout and overwhelm

This is the latest in my summer-long series, taking you on my journey of recovering from overwhelm and burnout and learning ways to sustainably keep going. Click here for the first installment, “Feeling guilty.”

Hi Friends,

I’m still shocked and amazed by how much better I’m feeling, after a weekend of doing just one simple thing!
Well, simple to conceive… But not easy to implement.

If you remember, last week I sent a newsletter sharing that I was feeling incredibly guilty, overwhelmed, and burned out.

The first thing I did to address it:
I dropped off the Internet.

Not completely – but almost.

What that mostly meant was I didn’t “obsessively check.”

(I decided to leave off what I’ve been obsessively checking… because, while I obsessively checked some things, yours may be different. But the point is we are all obsessively checking something. What helped was cutting that out!)

I can’t tell you how much better I felt, not obsessively checking. Continue reading “The first thing that’s helping me overcome burnout and overwhelm”

337: Addressing our own burnout, AND beloved parenting author Audrey Monke is my guest today!

As a child development expert, I want to help you keep going in our new reality!
This conversation, recorded during March 2020 (in other words at the very beginning of the pandemic here in the US), I know will be super helpful for that.

I am excited to bring you my conversation with the author of one of my favorite parenting books (it’s called Happy Campers) – Audrey Monke of sunshine-parenting.com is today’s OkayCon 2020 guest!

Audrey shares:
– How to stay positive, even while everyone is cooped up together
– Some great family-focused activities you can do to make your stuck at home time more enjoyable
– What lessons Audrey, her family, and counselors and campers (who attend the summer camp Audrey owns and runs) are learning from this time

Learn how to keep going:
In my (free) Weekly Parenting Newsletters I am taking you on my journey of recovering from burnout, exhaustion, and huge feelings of guilt.
I am working to feel at peace with myself – to keep going, raising my kids, keeping our household running, and feeling happy inside – and if you want some tools to help you accomplish those miracles, click this link! Weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

NPC Summer Camp registration ENDS Wednesday 7/1
One way parents have been feeling way better, recovering from exhaustion, handling their kids’ fears, clinginess, and potty training issues: the Ninja Parenting Community.
Get access to everything in the community and enjoy a summer camp program created just for you, if you are looking for connection and positivity in our new reality!
I am closing registration to NPC on Wednesday, July 1 at 9 PM EST – enroll today, and take that first step toward being able to feel at peace with yourself and (sustainably) keep going!
Here is the link, jump in while there is still time:
weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

(go to weturnedoutokay.com/337 for notes to this episode)
We will get through this together!
Cheers –
Karen
Continue reading “337: Addressing our own burnout, AND beloved parenting author Audrey Monke is my guest today!”

Feeling guilty

In a (pre-pandemic) live storytelling event, I looked and felt in my element. There was no guilt or imposter syndrome that day! In this post I outline how I plan to get back my mojo, and I share how I’m taking you along on this journey with me. (Photo by Jennifer Provost)

Hi Friends,

Just a quick note today, wishing you well and sharing a discovery I’ve made about myself:

I’m feeling guilty.

Guilty that I haven’t been as good a parent as I wanted to be in the pandemic.

Guilty for not doing enough to address systemic racism and other injustices.

Guilty that I dove into our emergency chocolate, and finished it all within a few days.

Guilty that, no matter how much I do, it doesn’t feel like enough.

Guilty for thinking “I don’t want to deal with this now” when someone in my family needs me for something.

Guilty for only doing my strength training once, in the last whole month.

And the list goes on.

It’s only just dawned on me that all this guilt comes from a couple places: Continue reading “Feeling guilty”

Instilling values, throwing rocks, and how I screwed up with the WTOO Book Club

Hey Friends,

WTOO Book Club: I screwed up last week, and prevented some of you from being able to attend last week’s Book Club meeting.
My error was due to the administrative nightmare I created, trying to move as quickly as possible to get the book club open and get you the link, if you wanted to be a part of it.

I am SO sorry!

If you want to be a part of the WTOO Book Club – even if you attended last week – please click this link to sign up for this week’s, and future meetings:
weturnedoutokay.com/bookclub

This week’s WTOO Book Club chapter is all about “the Why of the parent ninja.”

It’s about values, and how we instill them in our children.

In this week’s meeting I’ll share a story about the time I was invited to throw a rock through one of my school’s plate glass windows, and how the values instilled in me shaped the way I acted that day.

(To read a little more on my thinking around instilling values in children, read on.) Continue reading “Instilling values, throwing rocks, and how I screwed up with the WTOO Book Club”

Teaching young children to feel good in their body means feeling good in our own

Happy Monday!

FYI: at 5 PM today I am closing the Ninja Parenting Community to new members. Current members: you’ll have access to the forums and everything in them! But no one else will be allowed in after that time. Details below.

Also, the title of this post refers to the second of this week’s goals. It’s very newsy newsletter today, so I wanted to let you know where you could find it in here : )

In case you’re struggling to keep track of what day of the week it is… Today and every Monday while we are all spending so much more time at home and out of our normal routine I’m sharing something that always keeps me on track: my weekly intentions.

Each week I determine what I’m going to focus on on a Monday, and then on Friday I look back at how I did.
And during the pandemic I’m bringing you in on that process!

Here’s what I focused on last week:
Continue reading “Teaching young children to feel good in their body means feeling good in our own”

325: Your most important asset in times of trouble

How, you might be wondering, are we actually really going to get through this time?

You’re not alone in wondering that. I have been wondering about it too.

I’ve also been feeling terribly guilty, any time that I forget we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and find myself enjoying something, or laughing at a joke, or feeling contented.

So today I want to bring you an episode that defines our most important asset, the single most important thing we need to get through this (or any) time of trouble.

I hope you find it helpful! (Click here for this post in your browser.)

Here are all the links I share about today:

1. Click here for the poem that brought me to tears, and also gave me permission to not feel guilty, but to embrace good feelings.

2. Click here for episode 188, my conversation with Mark McGuinness of the 21st century creative podcast.

3. Click here for the McElroy Family YouTube channel, where you’ll find the wonderful series Stories From Your Gaffer, read each evening at 5:30 PM Eastern by Clint McElroy, one of my favorite podcasters ever.

4. Click here for The Adventure Zone, where I first heard Clint McElroy – but please, not with kiddos around!

5. Click here for my conversation with Audrey Monke, broadcast last Friday (in real-time) at Audrey’s Sunshine Parenting Facebook page.

6. Click here for episode 273, my second We Turned Out Okay conversation with Audrey, about her wonderful book, Happy Campers.

7. Click here for my conversation as a guest on the wonderful #Am Writing Podcast; I share about my experience doing everything digital by voice, after losing the ability to use my hands to accomplish digital – and lots of analog – tasks.

8. If you are a Ninja Parenting Community member, click here for member Jen’s success story, about helping her daughter overcome fears about coronavirus and house fires. She did this in such a cool way (I read out the success story today in this episode).
Not a member? Click here to become one.

9. Click OkayCon.com for OkayCon 2020, the FREE Virtual Summit going on right now here at We Turned out Okay!

10. Click here to join the Facebook group – that way you can be part of the OkayCon 2020 watch parties every Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM Eastern!

11. I share HUGE news today, about the Happy-in-Place Challenge going on in The Ninja Parenting Community (it starts on April 16, my birthday : )
Right now you can join NPC for just $1 for your first month and each consecutive month thereafter at 50% off the standard monthly rate! You can cancel at any time, so there is no risk… Only the hope, support, and accountability that membership brings.
Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc for details and to sign up!