Helping kids love themselves and their bodies

A favorite band of mine, The Samples, has a song called Could It Be Another Change in which they sing:

You can’t love no one…
You can’t love something…
You can’t love nothin…
You can’t love anything
Till you can love yourself…
You can love yourself.

This has been on my mind a lot recently. I’ve been thinking about the messages we give our loved ones based on how we feel about ourselves.

I think in part it’s been on my mind so much because recently I was invited to be an expert speaker in a conference, Kids’ Healthy Bodies, hosted by Sarah Scheldt, M.Ed. (The series begins February 15 and will run for 14 days; click here to get your free ticket!)

My friend Sarah has pulled together a list of impressive speakers to share real-life strategies on how you can have empowered conversations with your kids around their bodies, health, and so much more! Continue reading “Helping kids love themselves and their bodies”

Nothing but flowers

I’ve had an old Talking Heads song in my head for the last little while.

It’s called (Nothing but) Flowers, and it is truly speaking to my pandemic experience right now.

It’s not a perfect correlation. But this song tells of a future in which everything’s changed.
“This was a Pizza Hut
Now it’s all covered with daisies…

I miss the honky tonks,
Dairy Queens, and 7-Elevens…”

The song doesn’t tell us why the Pizza Hut is all covered with daisies, or where the Dairy Queens and 7-Elevens went.
It seems as if the singer doesn’t really know himself:

“And as things fell apart
Nobody paid much attention…”

But he’s missing things that used to be so common and now are just gone:

Continue reading “Nothing but flowers”

355: Five ways to help you keep going right now

Greetings! Today I’ve got five ways that parents I work closely with are keeping going…

Because even though we can see some hope on the horizon, circumstances on the ground are, shall we say, not ideal.

So if you need a little help getting good behavior from your kids, feeling seen and heard and cared for in your life, or feeling happy inside, here are five ways you may not have considered yet to accomplish those tasks.…

Plus the Parenting News Segment returns today, with reports on how to not use social-emotional learning for evil, and also something called “toxic positivity.”
Join us!
Here are the links that come up today: Continue reading “355: Five ways to help you keep going right now”

How it feels to put yourself first

Spoiler alert: it feels really scary to put yourself first.
But it feels worse to do the alternative.

I know this from personal experience.

When I have put myself last – in other words when I’ve been in what I think of as “typical parent mode,” denying myself sleep or food or exercise because of all the stuff my children and family need – I’ve suffered.

So have they. One of my sons told me yesterday that he felt personally responsible for my being depressed when he was young. (I was depressed because I had developed a tendon disorder that meant, for part of his childhood, I could walk no more than a few steps; and for another part of his childhood I had 5% use of my hands. My depression had absolutely nothing to do with my boys.)
We had a wonderful conversation about it, and he understands now that he was not the cause. But I wish I could have spared him those feelings in the first place.

More recently I put myself last in both a personal and professional sense. Continue reading “How it feels to put yourself first”

351: “In 25 years, what will matter to me?” My conversation with Katherine Reynolds Lewis

Enrollment is OPEN for the 2021 Year of Empowerment!
Enroll now to save 30% on your Year of Empowerment:
This special ends New Year’s Eve, December 31 2020 at 11:59 PM EST. Don’t miss your chance to empower 2021 for you and your family.
Details at weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment : )

“In 25 years, what will matter to me?” When Katherine Reynolds Lewis, author of the outstanding book The Good News About Bad Behavior and today’s guest, shared this question during our conversation, I knew it had to be the title of the episode.

It encompasses all the most important ideas that Katherine brings. The ones that keep reminding me about what’s most important. It’s not grades, or how perfectly our kids sit during online schooling. It’s not the world’s cleanest house, or how perfectly we manage our home.

The most important thing – the thing that will matter most even 25 years from now – is the connection and the relationship that we have with our loved ones.

Today’s conversation is so full of connection, and love, and hope.
It’s part of a digest episode, so you’ll hear our wonderful conversation and then I will read you a recent newsletter that I wrote called “Kind words.” (Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get newsletters like this delivered into your inbox each week : )
I hope you enjoy this episode!
Cheers –
Karen
PS you can watch our conversation (instead of just listening) by going to weturnedoutokay.com/351Continue reading “351: “In 25 years, what will matter to me?” My conversation with Katherine Reynolds Lewis”

350.5 An Announcement (and FAQs about that Announcement)

Hello! So quickie bonus episode with me are never as quickie as I imagine they would be, but this one will hopefully be informative for you!
In it, I share about the only group coaching I’m offering in 2021.
As a child development expert and parent coach I have given lots of thought on what I could offer that will have the most impact on the well-being of you, and your family, over the coming year.
I’ve come up with something exciting!

It’s called the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program, and it will help you:
– feel in charge of your destiny and your family’s direction
– know that you are making the right decisions for you and your family
– live your best life and model that for your kids.

Enrolling means you will spend 2021:
– Getting good behavior from your children
– Advocating for them, helping them love learning and get the best education possible, no matter how bad all of this feels right now
– Feeling good about getting the self-care time that you need and deserve

I expect that spots will fill up quickly, as there are only 20 to begin with and especially with the Black Friday special I’m offering, 50% off the cost of the program!

To get notified when enrollment opens go to:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

If you’ve got any questions email me, Karen (at) weturnedoutokay (dot) com.
Thanks for reading/listening and Cheers!
Karen

Click the link below to learn more about the 2021 Year of Empowerment:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment

Click the link below to get notified when enrollment opens:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Here are the FAQs in written form:
FAQs about the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program

– What is the age range for people’s kids in the program?
Parents with kids in all ages and stages of childhood, from babies and toddlers on up to teens, are welcome.
The issues that parents are confronting have kind of converged since the onset of the pandemic.
There are no conventions anymore. Everything is unprecedented. Parents with children of every age are feeling this seismic shift.
As a result the Year of Empowerment will be a great, supportive community for parents with kids of all ages. It will help you build the life that you really want within your family.

– How will this program work?
The 2021 Year of Empowerment Program has two main facets:
1. Each month of 2021 we will have a group coaching conversation, a powerful, in-depth, 90 minute call diving into the different aspects of empowerment including advocating for your kids, establishing boundaries so you only ever do what feels truly good for you, and modeling a wonderful and empowering life for your family.

2. A year’s subscription to the acclaimed We Turned Out Okay Playbook!
The Playbook provides a place for you to envision and build out your life and your family’s future.

The 2021 Year of Empowerment program includes a whole year – 12 issues – of the Playbook, one each month, delivered directly to your mailbox! (US only; internationally you’ll receive the digital version of the Playbook.)

Each month you’ll receive this top-shelf publication that shapes your thinking in a very positive and gratitude-centered way.
(Learn more about the Playbook at https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook)
Between our monthly calls and the daily, positive and creative thinking opportunities the Playbook offers, the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program gives you extremely powerful tools to shape your life how you want it.

– What if I can’t make a meeting?
That is absolutely fine… You can be committed and still not be able to get to every single meeting over the course of a whole year.
So, each monthly meeting and the PDF of each month’s We Turned Out Okay Playbook will be placed in the password-protected 2021 Year of Empowerment Resource Hub.
That way, you’ll be able to go back and watch meetings as often as you like, and you’ll have PDFs of each Playbook as they come out.
Any resources such as worksheets, notes, or links will also be placed in the resource hub, where you will have access to everything for the duration of the program.

– What days and times will the meetings be?
I want this program to work for you, wherever you live and whatever your time zone. As a result this is a crucial question, something very important to get right.
In designing the program I am thinking either Saturday afternoons like 3 PM EST, or a weeknight with a very late EST start time, say, 10 PM, is where we will end up, perhaps even alternating months between these time periods.
I really want to make it work for those of you who are considering making this commitment.
Therefore I would love your feedback! What meeting times would work best for you? Just hit reply to this email and let me know.

– What technology will be necessary? Will it be complex?
Not at all, we’re using basic, easy tech in the Year of Empowerment Program.
You’ll need only your email, your web browser, and Zoom (which we’ll use for our monthly meetings.)
Speaking as someone whose twitter name used to be StoneAgeTechie, I know the pain of complicated tech!
I want to make this easily accessible for everyone who joins.

– Will I be able to access the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program on my phone or tablet?
Absolutely : ) It will be a mobile-friendly program, and of course will also be accessible on your laptop or desktop computer.

– Will there be the choice of a payment plan?
Yes, you’ll have the option to pay either in full, or in three installments. I’ll share the details on Monday 11/23 when I open enrollment in the Program.

– Will there be refunds?
The 2021 Year of Empowerment Program is for folks who are truly committed to building a great future for themselves and their family.There are no refunds.It will be worth every penny.
– Are there any prerequisites to the Year of Empowerment Program?
You do not have to have been in any program of mine before, whether workshops, courses, or the Ninja Parenting Community.
The only prerequisites are your positive energy and your commitment to building the future that you want for your family.
I anticipate that spots will go fast.

Especially with the Black Friday special – normally the Program costs $3000, but if you join by Cyber Monday, November 30, 2020 you can join for half that, just $1500!

Here are some quickie facts about the program:

  • Enrolling in the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program means you will spend 2021 transforming your future, and your family’s.
  • Each month you’ll experience the magic of my best, most transformative ideas and tools to build your life how you want it.
  • There are only 20 spots available.
  • This is the only group coaching I’m offering in all of 2021. I anticipate spots will fill up quickly.
  • It’s for folks who are truly committed to building a great future for themselves and their family.
  • It’s the most affordable option to work with me in 2021.
  • There are no refunds.
  • It will be worth every penny.

Enrollment will open this coming Wednesday 11/25/20, and when it does I will send an email to everyone who is in my email group sharing details and the link to enroll.… Click the link below to join the email group
https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

In the meantime I hope you have a lovely weekend. Cheers and thanks for reading/listening <3

2021 Year of Empowerment FAQs

Many of you know that I have made the difficult decision to close NPC, which you can read more about here.

Post-NPC I’m offering something exciting, the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program!
Click the link below for details on the program itself, and how to enroll, and the Black Friday special I’m offering, 50% off the cost!
weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment

I am getting lots of questions about the program, and I am sharing these FAQs here.

If you’ve got follow-up questions, get in touch with me by going here.

Okay, here we go with the FAQs!
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FAQs about the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program

– What is the age range for people’s kids in the program?
Parents with kids in all ages and stages of childhood, from babies and toddlers on up to teens, are welcome. The issues that parents are confronting have only become more similar since the onset of the pandemic, and the Year of Empowerment will be a great, supportive community for parents with kids of all ages.

– How will this program work? Continue reading “2021 Year of Empowerment FAQs”

The opposite of a Black Friday crazy deal

As an entrepreneur, I enjoy keeping my ear to the ground and understanding what is going on in the world of entrepreneurship and business-building.

Something that’s come across loud and clear this year is the idea that we MUST offer a “Black Friday Craaaazy Deal!”

Start early, we are told.
Hammer your email list.
Get into those inboxes way before Thanksgiving, and email them daily – even multiple times a day – through Cyber Monday.

Offer a crazy deal where the emphasis is all on speed, cheapness, and constantly being in people’s faces.

It seemed so inhumane, getting on your case poking and prodding and bugging and begging you to “buy my thing.”

By early November I knew that was not going to be my jam. The very idea made me feel sick to my stomach.

So I asked myself:
“What is the opposite of a Black Friday Craaazy Deal?”

And then I asked Ben.

He told me to be sure that, whatever I did offer, make it truly address the struggles that parents confront each day.
He reminded me that they – that you – have real problems.
And that I can help you overcome those problems and thrive.

“Parents have enough to worry about,” he told me.

Parents right now are feeling…

1. Walked all over. By their kids, by friends, by parents and in-laws, by teachers.

2. Worried about their kids. They fear children being perceived as “bad.” That they won’t be able to connect with others or make friends, won’t be able to learn and become educated, won’t be able to live a good life.

3. Exhausted. Parents have no time for a break, or a hobby. They are just DONE.

I decided that anything I offered would be the opposite of a Black Friday Crazy Deal.

It would be:

Continue reading “The opposite of a Black Friday crazy deal”

Building the world we want

Last week, author and personal hero of mine Julie Lythcott-Haims offered Office Hours, the chance for anyone who wished to join her in the safe space she created to feel supported and support others.

I went on the first day, figuring I would drop in for a bit and see what it was like.

I stayed for an hour and a half.

Then the next day I joined the Office Hours for 3 1/2 hours, almost the whole time Julie offered them.

The sense I got from Julie and the other folks who joined in these Office Hours was so hopeful!
I came away feeling that:
– We are capable of building the world that we want.
– We can build this world for ourselves, for our families, and for the betterment of all.

I decided to create a page on my website, sharing ideas and links from Julie’s Office Hours, as a way to say thank you and spread the message that we can build the world that we want.

It won’t be easy, and it will be scary. But whoever heard of an adventure that didn’t have any fear, and was super easy?

“It simply isn’t an adventure worth telling if there aren’t any dragons.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

As we confront the dragons, and as we build the world that we want, click the link below for some amazing takeaways from Julie’s Office Hours <3 Continue reading “Building the world we want”

A hard decision I have made

Before I share about my decision, I wanted you to know that I’m excited to be speaking at the upcoming Empowered Parenting Summit, which starts next week. I’m honored to be included among 20 educators and experts with so much superb knowledge to share. The host, teacher Sarah Scheldt, is sweet and wonderful and I’m excited to bring her onto my show in 2021.

I will be presenting on Playful Ways to Empower Your Parenting, a subject that I feel even more passionate about since my recent hospitalization for diverticulitis. It was brought on at least in part by forgetting to play.

Register for free for the Empowered Parenting Summit by clicking here.
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You know it’s going to be a peculiar day when you find yourself thinking “I’m thankful for my recent hospitalization, because it was a long-overdue reckoning about what is wrong in how I run my life.”

Honestly, that is how I’ve been feeling this week.

Yes – thankful for the opportunity for a long-overdue reckoning. Continue reading “A hard decision I have made”