Many of you know that I have made the difficult decision to close NPC, which you can read more about here.
Post-NPC I’m offering something exciting, the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program! Click the link below for details on the program itself, and how to enroll, and the Black Friday special I’m offering, 50% off the cost! weturnedoutokay.com/empowerment
I am getting lots of questions about the program, and I am sharing these FAQs here.
If you’ve got follow-up questions, get in touch with me by going here.
Okay, here we go with the FAQs!
FAQs about the 2021 Year of Empowerment Program
– What is the age range for people’s kids in the program?
Parents with kids in all ages and stages of childhood, from babies and toddlers on up to teens, are welcome. The issues that parents are confronting have only become more similar since the onset of the pandemic, and the Year of Empowerment will be a great, supportive community for parents with kids of all ages.
As an entrepreneur, I enjoy keeping my ear to the ground and understanding what is going on in the world of entrepreneurship and business-building.
Something that’s come across loud and clear this year is the idea that we MUST offer a “Black Friday Craaaazy Deal!”
Start early, we are told.
Hammer your email list.
Get into those inboxes way before Thanksgiving, and email them daily – even multiple times a day – through Cyber Monday.
Offer a crazy deal where the emphasis is all on speed, cheapness, and constantly being in people’s faces.
It seemed so inhumane, getting on your case poking and prodding and bugging and begging you to “buy my thing.”
By early November I knew that was not going to be my jam. The very idea made me feel sick to my stomach.
So I asked myself:
“What is the opposite of a Black Friday Craaazy Deal?”
And then I asked Ben.
He told me to be sure that, whatever I did offer, make it truly address the struggles that parents confront each day.
He reminded me that they – that you – have real problems.
And that I can help you overcome those problems and thrive.
“Parents have enough to worry about,” he told me.
Parents right now are feeling…
1. Walked all over. By their kids, by friends, by parents and in-laws, by teachers.
2. Worried about their kids. They fear children being perceived as “bad.” That they won’t be able to connect with others or make friends, won’t be able to learn and become educated, won’t be able to live a good life.
3. Exhausted. Parents have no time for a break, or a hobby. They are just DONE.
I decided that anything I offered would be the opposite of a Black Friday Crazy Deal.
Last week, author and personal hero of mine Julie Lythcott-Haims offered Office Hours, the chance for anyone who wished to join her in the safe space she created to feel supported and support others.
I went on the first day, figuring I would drop in for a bit and see what it was like.
I stayed for an hour and a half.
Then the next day I joined the Office Hours for 3 1/2 hours, almost the whole time Julie offered them.
The sense I got from Julie and the other folks who joined in these Office Hours was so hopeful!
I came away feeling that:
– We are capable of building the world that we want.
– We can build this world for ourselves, for our families, and for the betterment of all.
I decided to create a page on my website, sharing ideas and links from Julie’s Office Hours, as a way to say thank you and spread the message that we can build the world that we want.
It won’t be easy, and it will be scary. But whoever heard of an adventure that didn’t have any fear, and was super easy?
“It simply isn’t an adventure worth telling if there aren’t any dragons.” – J.R.R. Tolkien
Before I share about my decision, I wanted you to know that I’m excited to be speaking at the upcoming Empowered Parenting Summit, which starts next week. I’m honored to be included among 20 educators and experts with so much superb knowledge to share. The host, teacher Sarah Scheldt, is sweet and wonderful and I’m excited to bring her onto my show in 2021.
I will be presenting on Playful Ways to Empower Your Parenting, a subject that I feel even more passionate about since my recent hospitalization for diverticulitis. It was brought on at least in part by forgetting to play.
Register for free for the Empowered Parenting Summit by clicking here.
You know it’s going to be a peculiar day when you find yourself thinking “I’m thankful for my recent hospitalization, because it was a long-overdue reckoning about what is wrong in how I run my life.”
Honestly, that is how I’ve been feeling this week.
As a child development expert one of the most important jobs I have is to give parents permission to disagree with teachers or other authority figures in their children’s lives.
Starting at around the 50-minute mark we talk about that. It’s coming up for many podcast listeners and Ninja Parents right now, and it’s important to discuss!
But first, I share three super important lessons that I learned the hard way recently, by ending up in the hospital with diverticulitis. It’s the illness I had nine years ago that brought on the tendon condition that I lived with ever since, so there was some serious PTSD in getting it again!
It was no accident that I got it now, in the pandemic with pressure mounting societally, in our home, and with the families I serve.
I got it by failing to adhere to these lessons, which I will list for you right now:
1. On the Human-Dehumanized Axis, stay close to the Human side.
Maybe it means unplugging, but it definitely means connecting more on a human level.
Be sure that, when connecting with folks having to do with your child, that they are very human too.
2. Remember that sugar is an inflammatory food.
What we need is good nutrition! I’m a living example of what happens when you don’t get that.
3. Understand your own worth.
How you think about yourself matters. I forgot that, and had to undergo a very painful and scary illness as a result.
Most of all, in thinking about these three lessons I want you to think about where you are “coming from” with regard to them.
This isn’t about me telling you “here’s a list of stuff you need to do.”
It’s about coming from a place of human connection.
It’s about coming from a place of good nutrition, most of the time, without worry or pressure.
It’s about coming from a place of feeling worthy – both for ourselves, and for what we model for our children.
Here are the links that come up in today’s conversation:
For the first time since creating the We Turned Out Okay Playbook, as a result of my hospitalization I’m doing it myself (instead of just writing it for others)!
Click https://weturnedoutokay.com/playbook to learn more about the Playbook!
As the weather has begun changing here in New England, it’s time to transfer out of my summertime ankle-high socks and into something that keeps my legs considerably warmer.
I know that I’m making a good transition from season to season when I can feel enthusiastic about the socks I’m going into, even as I miss the socks I’m coming out of.
For years I’ve gotten these great wool socks from (of all places) Ocean State Job Lot. These socks are heaven on my feet, they are more than 80% merino wool, they stay warm when they get wet, and they just feel so good to wear. Bonus, they are like eight dollars for two pair – similar socks in Amazon are four times that.
So, an amazing deal all around!
For me, autumn is a time of celebration, where we are headed into the part of the year that feels best to me. I’m in survival mode spring and summer, just not a warm weather person.
So I do really celebrate when it’s time to put on these awesome socks!
Stay with me, I’ll come back to the socks in a moment…
As the pandemic has progressed I’ve noticed I’m getting more and more migraines.
I’ve always been prone to migraines but in the last three or four months I have experienced more of these debilitating headaches than I have for the past 13 years.
(Not coincidentally, 13 years ago is when I took control of my oldest’s education. He had been experiencing night terrors, weight loss, and other scary symptoms because the academic pressure of first grade was making him sick. As he got better, so did my migraines. As I say, not a coincidence.)
As I write about the last time I was having many migraines, I see a lot of similarities between now and then… In the pandemic so much is out of my control. So much feels out of control in any case!
Greetings! If this feels like a pretty ambitiously named episode, well, that’s because this is where we are in fall 2020.
We are on the bleeding edge of crisis parenting, and there is a feeling in the air of “this is where our society fails or succeeds.”
(At least that’s how it feels to me! You are very welcome to disagree. Either way, I hope this episode gives you a roadmap to success on your parenting journey, and some hope.)
Whether a society succeeds or fails is in large part dependent upon the how that society raises its children.
If there was ever a time to call what we are all doing “crisis parenting,” now is it.
In this episode, I bring you a critical tool to help you keep going!
I also share about why I called this show “We Turned Out Okay, The Modern Parent’s Guide to Old-School Parenting.”
A mom in the WTOO Facebook group asked that question, and this Basics Bootcamp episode seemed like the perfect time to talk about that!