FYI: This is the third in my “Kids gone sideways” newsletter series, about how we can get back on track when our kids drive us crazy .
Click here for the first in the series, about the intersection of our own self-worth and our children’s hangry meltdowns, and click here for the story of my second-worst day of potty training ever. And stay tuned for next week’s where I’ll share a critical tool for handling those meltdowns!
“Mom… You’re always making me!”
That’s what 3-year-old Jason said to me one day while he was potty training.
We were at a big family gathering, and he was resistant to the idea of coming to “try” on the potty.
I couldn’t understand why it was such a problem for him – his big brother had been fine with trying!
Why couldn’t he just amiably come to the potty, have a seat, and see if any potty action happened?
This had been going on for weeks, me bringing him to the potty to try, and him being very unhappy about it.
Even if he succeeded at trying, the being made bothered him to no end. He hated that I could assert that kind of authority over him.
At this particular family gathering, I was stressed out. I had these horrible visions of Jason, wetting one of the immaculate dining room chairs – or heaven forbid even the carpet – amidst all these people.
I worried for little Jay’s feelings of embarrassment and humiliation.
But I mostly worried for my OWN feelings of embarrassment and humiliation.
All I could think was, if the worst happened, who would be to blame?
The parent, that’s who.
Hence the “trying.” Continue reading “No respect, or, the basics of successful potty training”