No respect, or, the basics of successful potty training

Happy Wednesday!

FYI: This is the third in my “Kids gone sideways” newsletter series, about how we can get back on track when our kids drive us crazy .
Click here for the first in the series, about the intersection of our own self-worth and our children’s hangry meltdowns, and click here for the story of my second-worst day of potty training ever. And stay tuned for next week’s where I’ll share a critical tool for handling those meltdowns!
“Mom… You’re always making me!”

That’s what 3-year-old Jason said to me one day while he was potty training.

We were at a big family gathering, and he was resistant to the idea of coming to “try” on the potty.

I couldn’t understand why it was such a problem for him – his big brother had been fine with trying!

Why couldn’t he just amiably come to the potty, have a seat, and see if any potty action happened?

This had been going on for weeks, me bringing him to the potty to try, and him being very unhappy about it.

Even if he succeeded at trying, the being made bothered him to no end. He hated that I could assert that kind of authority over him.

At this particular family gathering, I was stressed out. I had these horrible visions of Jason, wetting one of the immaculate dining room chairs – or heaven forbid even the carpet – amidst all these people.

I worried for little Jay’s feelings of embarrassment and humiliation.
But I mostly worried for my OWN feelings of embarrassment and humiliation.

All I could think was, if the worst happened, who would be to blame?
The parent, that’s who.

Hence the “trying.” Continue reading “No respect, or, the basics of successful potty training”

My second-worst day of potty training ever

FYI: I am sharing my BEST, most successful potty training strategies in a Free Online Parenting Class on Thursday, January 30, 2020! Click here for details and to register for the class (and the replay, available for free through the following weekend.)

What follows is the story of my 2nd-worst day of potty training ever… I’ll get back to that worst day towards the bottom of this newsletter.

Picture our little family, my husband, Ben, myself, and are seven and three-year-old boys, visiting breathtakingly beautiful parts of Oregon: The Cascades, Mount Hood, Trillium Lake.

In one day we got to hike around beautiful waterfalls, play in the snow at the top of Mount Hood, and fish in the pure, clear waters of Trillium Lake.

All with the whole of Ben’s family, which was completely amazing, because they are amazing people.

Until… Our three-year-old, Jay, wet his diaper. Since we had purchased supercheap, bottom-of-the-line diapers, for this visit so far from home, it went clear through his pants and all the way down into his socks.

THAT was while we checked out the Cascade waterfalls.

So far, so good. We had extra diapers and clothes.

But then it happened again, at Mount Hood.

And then AGAIN at Trillium Lake.

We were now 3 hours from “home,” Ben’s brother’s place near Portland, because we had hiked in around the lake, and at least two hours from anyplace that might sell diapers, or socks, or pants to replace the wet ones.

Continue reading “My second-worst day of potty training ever”

When to potty train, How to potty train? Podcast Episode 245

When should you start potty training your child?

Don’t you wish your kid looked this happy sitting on a potty?

How should you potty train your child?

I’ve done some research on these two questions, and let me tell you, they are asked really often in Google.

Is this on your mind? Or, are you already trying to potty train, but hitting serious roadblocks?
Then, today’s episode is for you!

In it I share 3 ways to know if your child is ready for potty training, and also 3 tips on how to actually accomplish this feat.

Go to for:

  • A positive way forward in potty training your young child
  • The intro video to this epic course I just created, Successful Potty Training Under Pressure. You can watch the intro and see if the course would be helpful for you!
  • The 3 most important things to remember about potty training

And thank you so much for listening!

PS Today I share about a course I just finished that I’m really proud of!
It’s called Successful Potty Training Under Pressure, a comprehensive guide to potty training your young child in even the most difficult of circumstances, and you can check it out by clicking here.
Or if you’d rather, get the first lesson FREE! Click here to have Lesson 1, “How to make this take the shortest amount of time possible,” dropped right into your inbox! Continue reading “When to potty train, How to potty train? Podcast Episode 245”