This is part one of a two-part series I’m doing on feeling better when all we can see are our faults.
Stay tuned for part 2, coming Wednesday, December 18, 2019. (You can also click here to have it automagically delivered right into your inbox.)
I don’t know about you, but in many ways these past few months of 2019 have been… tough.
My head has been full of ideas that are too big for me to put into practice.
Everything from having my complete book catalog recorded in audiobook format and out to you by the end of the year… (Not even close)… To cleaning out kitchen cabinets… (About halfway through)… To keeping the house clean and the laundry done… (Nope.)
I’ve been feeling as if so much of what I’ve worked so hard for both personally and professionally is simply unraveling.
Finally, I got the bright idea to bring this up with friends yesterday.
And today, one of them – author and summer camp director Audrey Monke, who always has amazing ideas – mentioned the One Word exercise that she and her family do in December each year. (She writes about this, and other end-of-year fun stuff, in this blog post.)
I remembered that my 2019 One Word is THOUGHTFUL.
I really felt in tune with that word, all the way through about August.
And then the start of the school year slammed, and my physical health took a downward turn, and suddenly I wasn’t hitting my marks – in terms of writing goals, planning, even enjoying time with family…
And boy, did I feel like a failure.
I felt that way until yesterday, the day I finally opened up to friends and shared. Here’s what I said:
“I have lost my mojo, is kind of how I’m feeling. I want to ask for a hug. I’m feeling swamped with chronic illness and family stuff, and I’m wondering, what do y’all do when you feel like that? How do you get back on track? Thank you so much for your thoughts!”
I heard back some wonderful messages:
“Be proud of yourself and keep the faith – I believe in you and you do too – there is a turn around the bend when the sun will come out again.”
“I’m reading Buddha’s Brain right now, by two neurologists who describe the link between our thoughts in the brain’s wiring. One of their big points is to “take in the good,” wherever you can find it, because it’s so easy to focus on the [poopy].”
“Give yourself a break, a time for awhile with no guilt – time to heal your body and let ideas percolate.”
So that’s what I’m trying to do now.
I realized: I am not a failure.
One of my friends said “I believe in you and you do too.”
At first I wondered “DO I believe in me?” And I realized, yes. I do.
If you’re feeling like a failure today, I hope you will read these words, the words that my friends wrote to me.
I hope you’ll incorporate them into your life as well.
Because I believe in you, and I see that turn around the bend when the sun will come out again.
And I hope you can see it too.
This week I wanted to share kind of a “mindset” newsletter. I hope you have found it helpful! Next week I plan to get into some more concrete suggestions for what you can do to get to that “turn around the bend” all the quicker.
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