In today’s video I share the importance of zooming out the lens on family relations and understanding the principles that underlie our closest relationships.
I discuss the importance of a Family “I believe” statement, and how having your most positive and closest-to-your-heart beliefs about your family written down can help you live those values.
Finally, I share two assignments:
1) Write your own Family “I believe” statement
Make it as short, or as long, as you wish; write it for yourself or hit reply to this post and share your belief statement! We are here to support you, whether this comes easily or is a more difficult task. Either way, it is really worth doing.
2) Choose one word to put on a Post-it note for yourself
This one word reflects what feeling you want a child, after interacting with you, to come away feeling; my Post-it note says “Caring.” Share about what yours says by just hitting reply to this post!
Host of the We Turned Out Okay podcast
Author of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics: Key Tools to Handle Every Temper Tantrum, Keep Your Cool, and Enjoy Life With Your Young Child
Head Honcho of the Ninja Parenting Community
I believe we’re stronger and happier when we’re together.
My word: agape (“ah-GAHP-ay”), a Greek word I learned in the Bible that means the kind of love that is governed by principles. It’s the kind of love that makes us show warmth and affection even in the hardest times when we might lose sight of familial or romantic love, it’s what drives us to show compassion and take action to help others who are suffering, it’s why we are self-sacrificing, why we let offenses go, it’s what preserves our dignity because it guides how we set and enforce our own clear boundaries, it’s what restrains us from over-indulging our children, and it’s what motivates us to break the confidence of a friend who’s heading into dangerous territory. It’s love, but a uniquely deliberate kind of love that holds power unlike anything else.