Julie’s Office Hours

Recently author and personal hero of mine Julie Lythcott-Haims (this is her picture on the left) offered Office Hours, the chance for anyone who wished to join her in the safe space she created to feel supported and support others in a particularly stressful week of an already stressful time.

I went on the first day, figuring I would drop in for a bit and see what it was like.
I stayed for an hour and a half.
Then the next day I joined the Office Hours for 3 1/2 hours, almost the whole time Julie offered them.

The sense I got from Julie and the other folks who joined in these Office Hours was so hopeful!
I came away feeling that:
– We are capable of building the world that we want.
– We can build this world for ourselves, for our families, and for the betterment of all.

I decided that day that I would create this page, sharing ideas and links from Julie’s Office Hours, as a way to say thank you and spread the message that we can build the world that we want.

It won’t be easy, and it will be scary. But whoever heard of an adventure that didn’t have any fear, and was super easy?

“It simply isn’t an adventure worth telling if there aren’t any dragons.” – J.R.R. Tolkien

As we confront the dragons, and as we build the world that we want, here are some amazing takeaways from Julie’s Office Hours <3

First… JulieLythcottHaims.com
If you haven’t already, go to Julie’s website so you can sign up for her newsletter – that’s how I found out about these Office Hours.
During the Office Hours I shared how much I love when Julie’s newsletter lands in my inbox.
It makes me want to gather my laptop up into a huge hug! Highly recommended.


Julie’s Office Hours Takeaways:

1. “Breathe. You are safe. You can do this.”
This quote from Mindy Becker, Conscious Discipline instructor and founder of Grow With Us, LLC, was hailed in Office Hours as a way to keep going.

2. “Be grateful, be kind, be an example.”
Office Hours participant Sandi shared her favorite adaptation of Mindy’s quote above.

3. “Show up with kindness, empathy, and humanity.”
Julie’s response when I asked about how I might get into a “protecting others” mentality (especially when I am caught up in feelings of fear.)

4. “Live the present.”
Office Hours participant Xiaoyu, on how to build the future that we all wish for, one that incorporates kindness and support and love.

5. Kindness Boomerang
This YouTube video invites us to “Watch as the camera tracks an act of kindness as it’s passed from one individual to the next and manages to boomerang back to the person who set it into motion.”

6. What the Constitution Means to Me
A one-woman show, available in Amazon prime, which Office Hours participant Bobbi shared as an amazing piece of content that meant a lot to her. Amazon prime says that the show “traces the relationship between four generations of women and the founding document that shaped their lives.”

7. The Moral Courage Project
Online at moralcourage.com, this is a website that helps us face our fears courageously, to the gain of all. As they say it right at the top of their homepage, “Moral courage means doing the right thing in the face of your fears.”

8. Don’t Label Me
A book written by Irshad Manji, the creator of the Moral Courage Project above. Julie recommends this as essential reading on this adventure of building the world that we want.
(This, and every link to a book on this page, originates at bookshop.org, so you can benefit your local independent bookseller : )

9. The Person You Mean to Be
A book that Julie recommends, sharing that it’s also essential reading on this adventure.

10. Real American
While we are on the subject of essential reading on this adventure of building the world that we want, Julie Lythcott-Haims’ memoir on growing up biracial in an affluent white community is definitely that!
Also one of my favorite books, ever.

11. Your Turn
Julie’s latest book, written for young adults, scheduled for release in April 2021!
Preorder it at the link above.

12. Superbetter
Julie also recommends Jane McGonigal’s book, on the power of games to make us stronger and more resilient.

13. Growing Up Supremely: The Women of the Supreme Court
This wonderful children’s book, written by Julie’s close friend Jessica Armstrong (and co-author Nicola Gutgold) spurred lots of awesome conversation during the Office Hours. I can’t wait to read it!

14. A guide to talking about this election.
From the Voter Rights Lab, this document helps in proactively, helpfully discussing the American election of November 2020.

15. “What can I do to make today better for you?”
Julie shared research showing that simply asking someone this question helps someone feel more supported and cared for.
Since learning about it last week I have found that to be true with my loved ones <3

Thank you for reading!!
I hope this was helpful for you <3

All along I’ve been saying “we will get through this together.”
Julie’s Office Hours was such a great embodiment of that.
Thank you for stopping by to read all about them!

Wishing you well, cheers!
Karen Lock Kolp M.Ed.

Child Development Expert, Podcaster, Author

Host of the We Turned Out Okay Podcast, helping parents of young children change kids’ behavior from bad to good; feel happy inside; and truly enjoy family time

The quote I live by: “The opposite of play is not work. It is depression.” – Brian Sutton-Smith

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