Nothing but flowers

I’ve had an old Talking Heads song in my head for the last little while.

It’s called (Nothing but) Flowers, and it is truly speaking to my pandemic experience right now.

It’s not a perfect correlation. But this song tells of a future in which everything’s changed.
“This was a Pizza Hut
Now it’s all covered with daisies…

I miss the honky tonks,
Dairy Queens, and 7-Elevens…”

The song doesn’t tell us why the Pizza Hut is all covered with daisies, or where the Dairy Queens and 7-Elevens went.
It seems as if the singer doesn’t really know himself:

“And as things fell apart
Nobody paid much attention…”

But he’s missing things that used to be so common and now are just gone:

“I dream of cherry pies,
Candy bars, and chocolate chip cookies…
We used to microwave
Now we just eat nuts and berries…
This was a discount store,
Now it’s turned into a cornfield…”And while he’s missing things that are perhaps different from what I am missing right now, that’s what really speaks to me about this song.We used to be in company with others, in person, and now we all must be virtual.

We used to casually go out into the world, without worrying about how close or far we are from individual other people. About transferring an unseen, frightening virus without knowing it.

It’s only now that I realize how much I used to take for granted about health and wellness, on a totally basic level.

And it happened so suddenly!

That’s the other thing that this song has made me think about.

A year ago there was a gigantic tidal wave gathering, and like many of us I literally had no idea.

And as with everything, the crisis we are in has changed the meaning of these lyrics for me.
Released in 1988, I wonder how the Talking Heads were so prescient in their writing.

Also as with everything, I wonder how we’ll get through this.
I wonder if I can be helpful as we get through this – because being helpful is what helps me.

The last lines really hit home for me:

“Don’t leave me stranded here
I can’t get used to this lifestyle”

Are you feeling that way, as if you just can’t get used to this?
Even after being in it for so many months?

For today I am inviting you to turn that question around on itself.

Who could you help, even though you “can’t get used to this lifestyle”?
Who else might not be able to get used to it, and what might you do to make their experience a little bit easier?

And now I’ll turn the question back around on itself once more:
What can I do to make your experience a little bit easier?

Click here and let me know.

Wishing you well –

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