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In which a coaching client of mine shows me that something I’d always thought to be truly impossible is, in fact, possible.
It brings up the question “what happens to our children when we believe something is impossible?” Alternatively, what happens to them when we believe that something is possible?
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Today, Ninja Parenting Community member Sabrina shares about the concerns she’s having right now: how to manage her children’s expectations, everyone’s feelings of overwhelm – and balancing her own needs with the needs of her family.
Recorded in early December, Sabrina has both a daughter’s birthday coming up as well as the busy and overwhelming-in-and-of-itself holiday season.
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“I’d like to know about how to set expectations with kids. It was great traveling last year because we could keep presents to a minimum. I’d much prefer giving them an experience, or donating to kids in need, than buying lots of presents. I realize though, that seeing lots of presents under a tree is part of what makes Christmas magical for kids. Amy’s birthday is the week before Christmas, so we have a double whammy!”
During our call, this caring mom shared about a feeling that many of us experience at this time of year: how to balance our wants and needs with those of our kids and the rest of our family.
Specifically, for several years now Sabrina has sacrificed her ideals of how to decorate for Christmas, giving in to what her two young girls want.
It may not seem like a big deal on its face. But during the whole Christmas season, Sabrina’s every day visual and kinesthetic needs are not being met!
We talk about how to bring that up within her family, and also about how to make family time during this season emphasize quality time, how the traditions that Sabrina’s family has built up over the years truly make this season a great one for raising children.
Trouble with tantrums?
With littles, meltdowns are hard to avoid.
So I came up with the HEART method to help you:
– remain calm
– stop worrying about judginess with public tantrums
– know you’re not alone
To calmly, decisively handle every on of your child’s tantrums, click the button below!
Understanding our own feelings is the work of childhood – but sometimes this important work is not completed when it should be, and that’s bad for so many reasons. Today we look at what can go wrong, and talk about 3 ways to help kids understand their own feelings!
This Just You and Me episode functions as the second of two chapter studies of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics: Key Tools to Handle Every Temper Tantrum, Keep Your Cool, and Enjoy Life With Your Young Child.
Click here or go to weturnedoutokay.com/083 to listen and get access to key links, including to your FREE guide outlining the bonus fourth way to help our kids understand their own feelings!
When figuring out our own feelings is not resolved in childhood, kids go into adolescence and young adulthood without a true understanding of themselves and their place in the world. This can result in anxiety, depression, and unresolved anger which could be turned inward on themselves, or outward on others. Very bad.
Here are three ways to not let that happen:
1) Start off by naming their feelings for them, early and often. Over time you’ll notice they start to name their own feelings, and as they understand these emotions better they’ll use their words instead of lashing out or melting down. It does take time, but it’s a really worth the investment of our time!
2) Read some favorite books that help kids name feelings – here are four of our favorites: Glad Monster, Sad Monster by Ed Emberley and Anne Miranda The Little Old Lady Who Wasn’t Afraid of Anything by Linda D. Williams and Megan Lloyd Alexander and The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst Don’t Let The Pigeon Drive The Bus! by Mo Willems
(click there titles to go to the Amazon page for each; for my favorite secondhand book website, scroll to the end of these notes and click the Better World Books link, maybe you’ll get lucky and find a used copy)
3) Play feelings games:
Take turns making happy faces, sad or angry faces, frustrated, surprised… and then talk about what we can do when we experience each of those feelings for real.
Bonus 4) Download your free guide to making 5 different feelings books! Several of these were great fun to make when my boys were small, in addition to helping them understand their own feelings.
– Please note: in today’s’s episode I give a website address which is clunky and annoying to try to remember and type in. So, instead of putting you through that kind of torture, I’ve made it much easier for you to get this guide: just scroll to the bottom and click the picture. A little box will pop up, type your name and email in there, and the Feelings Books guide will win its way over to your inbox 🙂
To get the guide, click the picture below to sign up!
Click here or go to weturnedoutokay.com/080 to listen to the first chapter study from Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, about a favorite hack of mine to implement when you are at your wit’s end with your young child.
Click here or go to http://amzn.to/1WE8DOA to check out the Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics page at Amazon.com.
Click here or go to betterworldbooks.com to visit my favorite secondhand book-purchasing site on the web!
Click this picture to download the Guide to Making 5 Feelings Books: