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Maybe you think that self-acceptance and self-forgiveness are fine for other people, but not for you (I know I used to feel this way.)
I work with a lot of moms and dads who struggle with this – and the struggle 100% affects their parenting, and thus their kids.
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The idea of goals is really resonating with y’all right now, judging from my inbox, Facebook page, and podcast download statistics…
Today we spend a little bit more time on this track, when I extend on listener Eri’s question about how the ability to accept and forgive ourselves impacts our children.
Each night for a little over a year, I have had a very specific conversation.
In the mirror, with myself.
Today I teach you exactly how to have that conversation – and why it’s so important.
For key links including to the books I reference in today’s episode, for written directions to the nightly mirror conversation, and to listen go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/136!
If you’re a little freaked out about talking to yourself in the mirror, maybe it’s because you struggle with the ideas of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness in general…
Here’s how to overcome that and talk with yourself each night in the mirror:
1) Commit to at least three months of doing this each night. After that, as Jack Canfield says in his book The Success Principles, you can decide if you want to keep it up. (I’ve kept it up for more than fifteen months now, and expect to do it for the rest of my life – that’s how important this exercise is for myself… and my family.)
I wrote the 3-month end date on my calendar, so I could decide at that point whether to keep going with it or not.
I loved the idea of just doing it until my calendar told me to make the decision; by that time, I knew I was committed for life.
2) Tonight, stand in the mirror and smile at yourself.
3) Speak out loud, telling yourself about the good things you accomplished today, expressing gratitude about anything good that happened to you today, forgiving yourself if you didn’t hit a goal or committed an action that you’re unhappy with; hurting feelings, overeating, missing a workout or job-related goal.
Use your name: “hey ______, you had a really great day today…”
4) At the end of your chat with yourself, tell yourself “good night, I love you. I’ll talk to you tomorrow night.”
It’s really hard to hate yourself AND simultaneously have this conversation/smile at yourself in the mirror.
As a result you are holding yourself accountable – to yourself.
When you disappoint yourself, you’ll find it easier to forgive yourself in the mirror; forgiving yourself raises the empathy level; raising the empathy level helps you view loved ones, especially children, with empathy instead of anger if they do something wrong…
And now you’re able to forgive them, too.
You’re able to be the mentor they need… Someone they can trust; someone who will help them forgive themselves.
And now there’s this great virtuous circle going on!
I know how “woo-woo California” this all sounds, and all I can say is it’s been the most powerful force for good in my life.
Don’t knock it till you try it!
Click here for the Friendly Mirror Facebook group.
Click here to sign up for the daily 10-day Friendly Mirror challenges (starting Monday, February 13).
Click here for the Amazon link to Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles.
Click here for Sarah ban Breathnach’s wonderful book, Simple Abundance.
Click here for episode 130, our second annual goal-setting episode, and here for episode 135, in which I answer Eri’s question about affirmations and self-acceptance/forgiveness.
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