140: How to Be Happier In Your Parenting: A Conversation with Mom, Author, Columnist and New York Times Contributing Editor KJ Dell’ Antonia

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Today’s guest didn’t set out to be a writer. But after getting her law degree and being a practicing attorney for six years, she made a discovery: law just wasn’t her thing; instead, she found, she was a writer.

In the spirit of finding stuff out through writing, KJ Dell’Antonia began freelancing about motherhood; she’s written for Slate magazine, Parenting magazine, Parents magazine, and many others. She is now a contributing editor and columnist on the Well Family page at the New York Times, and currently on book leave to write – what else? – a book that’s going to help us be happier in our parenting.

KJ shares where her research for this as-yet-unnamed parenting book is taking her, and you’re going to be thrilled because she’s investigating all the problems that you are most likely currently living with!

To find out how to handle getting your kids to do more around the house, how to help with homework, and how to be a part of KJ’s chores project (i.e.: getting your kids to do more chores) click weturnedoutokay.com/140!

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Guess what the vast majority of parents struggle with on a day-to-day basis?

KJ’s done extensive research on this, even commissioning a study with 1000 parents, for her upcoming book.

Her research shows that most parents struggle with one concept:


(I know… It sounded familiar to me too.)

Today, KJ shares how discipline wends its way through everything else in our parenting lives: chores, homework, consistency.

KJ is currently running a free project for parents (herself included : )
Click here to see what it’s all about!
Also! In our conversation today I bring up the concept of not moving kids’ walls… And KJ honored me by using this concept in week three of her chore challenge! Click here to read more : )

You can also find KJ:
on instagram here; and on twitter here.

She’s really fun to connect with out in the social media world, and not just for the adorable and funny Playmobil pictures she posts!

Click here to check out Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics: Key Tools to Handle Every Temper Tantrum, Keep Your Cool, and Enjoy Life With Your Young Child in Amazon; you can even read the introduction for free to determine if my book will be helpful to you.

135: How and Why to “be a better example for” your kids: A Your Child Explained Episode

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What: I’m hosting a live Q&A about the Ninja Parenting Community (not coincidentally, built to help you simultaneously raise kids and stay sane : )

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Thursday, February 2, 2017 8 PM EST

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Remember a few weeks ago, when I got emotional about talking to myself in the mirror every night? (Listen to that episode, We Turned Out Okay’s second annual goal-setting episode, by clicking here.)
If you struggle with self-acceptance and self-forgiveness – and if you also want to be a better example for your child – click this link to listen to today’s episode! You can read the full text of listener Eri’s question about how her struggle with self-acceptance could negatively impact her 14-month-old daughter – as well as watch my new favorite YouTube video in which a preschool-age girl stands on her bathroom vanity and cheerfully shouts affirmations for herself in the mirror – and sign up for tonight’s live FAQ about the Ninja Parenting Community by clicking this link:
The idea of confronting ourselves in the mirror each day is really resonating (in fact I’m planning a Just You and Me episode on this, so stay tuned) – but many people struggle with the idea of thinking positively about themselves at all.
Today’s Your Child Explained episode addresses this very issue – while answering listener Eri’s question:
“Like many people, I’m very hard on myself and I know things would be better if I could be more accepting and forgiving. I also think that this attitude would be a better example for my little girl. Self-acceptance seems to be so difficult for women and girls in our culture… It’s definitely something I think about in regards to my 14-month-old daughter as I look toward her future.
“I listened to [episode 130] last night, and was really touched by your candor and depth of feeling. I’ve heard of affirmations before and I admit to dismissing them as “not for me.” Well, after listening to you, I’d like to give it a try.
“How do I start?”

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Want a closer look PLUS a free copy of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, the book I wrote to help you handle everything your child can throw at you?

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To sign up for the NPC FAQ Q&A – and for notes to today’s show, go to weturnedoutokay.com/135!