What to do during, and after, your child’s next temper tantrum

Happy Wednesday!

FYI: I totally screwed something up, and now that it is fixed, I want to offer you the Friends and Family Membership Rate to join in the private coaching community I host online for parents. Read more about this below.

Also: Links to each part of the in-depth, 4-part newsletter series I recently did can be found just below my signature. (Feedback was that many of you found that series super helpful and so I want it to be available all through the start to this school year!)

Today, I want to share about a really cool thing one of my private coaching clients did recently.
It helped her:
– Make the most of her time at home (she’s a busy single mom)
– Enjoy family time with her 3-year-old son.


Mama Llama, who keeps her identity anonymous in the community, posted in recently about an extremely difficult daycare pickup and evening:
“[On the way home] he yelled and kicked my seat. He flipped out getting out of the car at home grabbing things out of my hands and screaming.”
That wasn’t all:
“He thrashed around the lobby stomping and hitting the mailboxes. We finally made our way upstairs where he continued to scream and kick and hit.”
And even THAT wasn’t all:
“He lost [the privilege of playing with a toy] for the night and the hitting and kicking got worse and he started throwing toys at me.”

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A formula for handling every temper tantrum

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NPC member Jen, with her two daughters.

Recently on the We Turned Out Okay podcast, I interviewed long time coaching client and Ninja Parenting Community member Jen.

Jen is the mom of 2 kids, 7-year-old and 4-year-old daughters.

When we sat down together to chat, Jen shared how she used to feel: “I didn’t feel like I had control over the direction our family was going.”

It was her work in our private coaching community that gave her that control.

As part of NPC membership, everyone gets access to e-copies of my parenting books; Jen references the first one, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, as super helpful.

In our conversation we discuss one particular part of the book, the HEART formula for handling every temper tantrum.

Here is that formula in a nutshell: Continue reading “A formula for handling every temper tantrum”

Three ways to deal with the gimmes | Podcast episode 257

Let’s just say it: at this time of year, we don’t always get the best behavior from our kids.
They’re overstimulated. They’re out of routine. In many end-of-year traditions they are being showered with gifts.

This can make them forget that life is about so much more than receiving presents from everybody who walks through the door (or whose door they walk through.)

So, today I wanted to help you deal with the gimmes!

Listen for three ways to gently help your child step away from the gifts.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/257 for:

  • My cheat sheet on dealing with the gimmes
  • A free PDF that you can download called “Three principles of kids and gifts”
  • The scoop on my latest book, just out! One reviewer says “If you’re ready for communication and mutual respect to replace chaos and misbehavior, do yourself a favor and read 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know.
  • The video of the week: “Teaching a child that it’s better to give than to receive”

And thank you so much for listening!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

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