How to become financially free, with Dad and Certified Financial Planner Steven Taylor of coltfinancial.org (Podcast Episode 221)

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Today’s conversation is super special,

because it’s with our personal financial planner, Steven Taylor – the man who has helped Ben and I align our goals and begin truly working together to achieve our dreams.

Like many of the best conversations, ours doesn’t stick strictly to the subject at hand. It starts off with sports and quickly develops into a meaningful conversation about parenting (Steven is Dad to 3-and 2-year-old boys).…

And soon, it’s a full-blown exploration of the best money mindset that parents can have.

Whatever your fears about money, or your approach to financial planning, this conversation will make you feel better.

Thanks so much to Steven for coming on the show, and to you for listening!

Show notes, including lots of great links that came up during our conversation, at weturnedoutokay.com/221

Also there, you’ll find the link to sign up for two cool things happening at our local library:

My workshop on how to handle weeknight chaos with little kids (this coming Monday evening, April 23), and Steven’s workshop on budgeting, though he prefers the term “spending plan,” on Tuesday evening, May 29!

If you can be in Bellingham, Massachusetts for either of these, that would be awesome! Continue reading “How to become financially free, with Dad and Certified Financial Planner Steven Taylor of coltfinancial.org (Podcast Episode 221)”

The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent’s Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)

Kids. Sometimes, it’s a good thing they’re cute.

Today’s podcast episode shares one simple change you can make that will affect how your child behaves.

Read on, and listen to today’s episode, to learn this simple change yourself and start using it to truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids!

Working with parents of young children,

one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase.

It’s dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids, which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it.

You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have!

Here’s the thing: we do not want to ASK our kids “would you like to stop hitting your sister now?”

Instead, we want them to simply STOP hitting their sister.

(Or whatever thing they’re doing right now that is potentially harmful/driving us crazy/making us question our life choices : )

Today I share:
– Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent’s vocabulary are
– Why these words get used so often
What you can say instead for good behavior from your child

Today’s episode helps you get past the bad behavior so you can fulfill your ultimate goal of truly enjoying family time!

 

Read more about these two dangerous words and what to say instead…
Find every back episode of the We Turned Out Okay podcast…
Sign up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class…
All at weturnedoutokay.com/219.

Happy listening! Continue reading “The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent’s Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)”

What’s it REALLY cost to raise a child today? – Podcast Episode 216

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I’m sure you’ve heard that it costs tons of money to raise a child to the age of eighteen – $233,610 in 2015, according to the Money/CNN report I read in preparing for this episode.

If that number has you freaked out, you are not alone!

But is it really accurate? That’s the question we are looking into today.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/216 for key links and the most adorable picture of one of my children; the outfit he’s wearing in the photo comes up today. Thanks for listening! Continue reading “What’s it REALLY cost to raise a child today? – Podcast Episode 216”

A Counterintuitive Positive Discipline Ninja Tactic for Today’s Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 214)

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“I HATE to yell at you… But you make me do it. It’s your fault.”
Recently, I spoke with a mom who said that she tells her kids this all the time.

Do you ever feel like this, when your child is giving you crazy attitude ?

Or when your child is whining, or picks a fight with a sibling over absolutely nothing at all?

In short, do you ever feel like you cannot take your child’s bad, embarrassing behavior for one more second?

If so, today’s episode gives you a ninja tactic that will completely change this dynamic!

If you really care about stopping your children’s annoying behavior before it starts, and you really care about not flying off the handle with them… Today’s episode shows you how to do it.

Listen in to find out how to do it right!

 

3 Secrets of Happy Parenting:

You know that fear and dread that you feel can about spending time with your young child?

Those hours that drag on, when paradoxically it feels like there is so much to do but also the minutes just creep by, super slowly, moment by agonizing moment?

I am excited to share the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting, which give you the power to overcome that fear and dread and truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids.

Learn these 3 Secrets in my Live, Online Class

So, I know in this episode I say “the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Minicourse is all ready for you!”
Life interfered this time: I got bronchitis and I’m still recovering…

But what IS ready: the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Live, Online Class!

The Minicourse is still in production, but in the meantime learn these three secrets while connecting with me live!

By the end of this live, online 40-minute class, you’ll know how to make the time you spend with your kids really enjoyable time.

Click the link below for details and to register:
weturnedoutokay.com/secrets

Other key links over at weturnedoutokay.com/214
Thank you so much for listening : ) Continue reading “A Counterintuitive Positive Discipline Ninja Tactic for Today’s Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 214)”

Podcast Episode 213: The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting

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 If you are feeling like you’re barely getting through the day without screaming at your toddler or preschooler, this episode is for you!

In it I introduce a live, online class I am teaching, called “The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting.” The class features three secrets of happy parenting that I have identified.

These 3 secrets help parents just like you:

– End the fear and dread that can accompany family time with young children.

– Learn the tools to transform their kids’ behavior from bad to good.

– Enjoy spending time with their young children.

For details go to weturnedoutokay.com/secrets : )

 

 A special note about this episode

Today’s episode is all about storytelling, and in it I get to share about a live storytelling event that 20-time winner of the Husband of the Year award, Benjamin Kolp, and I did just a few nights ago!

Here are two stories – really, two halves of the same story – for your viewing pleasure:

 

Today, I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn’t leave me alone…

I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too.

This minicourse is all ready for you over at weturnedoutokay.com!

It’s called The Three Secrets of Happy Parenting, and today’s episode is also the intro to the course.

Sign up by going to weturnedoutokay.com/213!

And thank you so much for listening : ) Continue reading “Podcast Episode 213: The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting”

Podcast Bonus: Why You Should Join the FREE Friendly Mirror 5-Day Challenge

Join the FREE Friendly Mirror 5-Day Challenge:
Learn exactly how to handle every “Jedi mind trick” your kids toss at you; shout less; feel truly happy at home!

Click the link below to sign up for the challenge:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/friendlymirror

Read details below and, to hear success stories from the 2017 Free Friendly Mirror Challenge, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button.

“I am terrified to stop doing mostly everything and accept help for fear that if I do, my family will resent me.” – 2017 Free Friendly Mirror Challenge Participant

Hello my friend, how are you today?

If you’re feeling at all like this long-time listener, today’s quickie bonus episode shares all about something that will help!

It’s my FREE, 5-Day Friendly Mirror Challenge, in which we are working to smile (instead of cringe) when we look in the mirror.

There’s a quick little win for you each day of the challenge…

Each day gives you a new opportunity to feel better when you look in the mirror, because you’re feeling a new sense of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.

Sound good?

Click here for details and to sign up – the challenge starts this coming Monday with an email into your inbox each day Monday, February 12 through Friday, February 16…

Cheers! And thanks for listening!

Podcast Episode 209: Surviving Your Child’s Toddlerhood – A Conversation with Heather Spohr of the “The Spohrs are Multiplying” Blog

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Today’s guest has a new book out, The Toddler Survival Guide, that I know you’ll love because it is practical, funny, and endearing.

And, as soon as I heard author Heather Spohr’s voice on the day of our interview, I knew that it would also be those three things… But it turned out to be a lot more.

We talk about Princess Leia, potty training – and grief. Heather and her husband Mike lost a child to illness, when their daughter was just three years old, and what I love about Heather is her ability to share about the tough stuff while staying extremely positive.

So, listen for the laughs, listen for the connection, and read Heather’s new book to remember that you are not alone, if you are (or have ever been) the parents of toddlers.

But also listen for Heather’s description of the support that a strong community brings, whether real-world or virtual.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/209 – and thank you for listening! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 209: Surviving Your Child’s Toddlerhood – A Conversation with Heather Spohr of the “The Spohrs are Multiplying” Blog”

Podcast Episode 208: Policy vs Reality – Handling Preschool Aggression – A Your Child Explained Episode

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In my recent conversation with Mental Health Counselor and Play Specialist Janine Halloran, we talked about the outrageously high rates of suspensions and expulsions in preschools nationwide.

And one listener wrote soon after to share her child’s experience in preschool:

“Such an interesting podcast and alarming pre-K statistics. I can say we saw an opposite thing happening… Several kids were overly aggressive with minimal consequences… My child was being bullied by these aggressive children to the point of not wanting to go to school.”

Listener Jessica was kind enough to let me share her thoughts with you, and address her concerns, which might be your concerns as well, in today’s episode.

What comes out of it is the realization that many preschool policies on discipline are way out of whack with what kids really need to learn – both the bullies, and the bullied  – to get along in this world.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/208, and thanks for listening! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 208: Policy vs Reality – Handling Preschool Aggression – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 207: Glass Balls and Rubber Balls: The Annual WTOO Goals Episode

Welcome and Happy New Year! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

Every January since We Turned Out Okay began, I’ve shared my goals for the coming year. Not resolutions… which feel to me a little more arbitrary and easier to pull out of… but Goals.

And this year is no exception!

Somehow the idea of glass balls and rubber balls (one of which breaks when dropped, and the other of which bounces) felt really important to share with you, probably because I’m returning from major burnout and got it because I dropped a glass ball, my “health” ball.

So listen in to find out more about glass/rubber balls, the goals I’ve set and why I set them, and what this year’s One Word is!

Notes and links at weturnedoutokay.com/207! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 207: Glass Balls and Rubber Balls: The Annual WTOO Goals Episode”

Podcast Episode 206: Lessons from 2017 + WTOO Changes for 2018

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Happy new year!! Next week we’ll work on making 2018 be the best year yet – but part of that is looking back at 2017.

Today I’m sharing the three most valuable lessons I learned from 2017, a year that many listeners characterized as pretty awful, but one that held many valuable lessons for me – and in many ways was a good and fun year too.

I also share some changes I’ve made to the podcast schedule, based largely on the horrific burnout I experienced in December… It’s tough to be helpful to you as you work to have a happy family life when I am so frazzled, when I’m attempting to pour from an empty cup.

To keep being able to help you, I’ve made some changes, and I’m sharing about them today. Click weturnedoutokay.com/206 to read about them! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 206: Lessons from 2017 + WTOO Changes for 2018”