Corporal Punishment in Schools: Why is this still a thing? Podcast episode 244

This is the only kind of paddling your child should ever be exposed to.

Recently one of the moms in my parent coaching community wrote in to share that her 4-year-old sons were about to start school… in a preschool-through-12th-grade school where corporal punishment is used.

“I can’t imagine [my boys] doing anything that would warrant a paddling, but I could not make myself check that box saying it was okay,” she wrote in our forums.

She then shared that, if parents check the “no, don’t spank my kid” box, children are exposed to other punishments such as a 3-day suspension and zeros on any assignments missed!

I was shocked. In every state there are laws against striking people in prisons and in the military; in most every state it’s illegal to strike an animal.

But it turns out that in 19 states, it’s okay to strike a child in school.

Come down the rabbit hole with me, into the world of corporal punishment.
It’s a world that might be much closer to you than you ever imagined.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/244 for:

  • Links to the articles I discuss today
  • The video I made recently about what to do when your young child wants to do everything all by him or herself… but can’t, and then has a fit
  • Also to hear my story about being in a flash flood this week!! I talk about that during the break. It was scary, that’s for sure!

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Podcast Episode 210: For Us Parents, a Choice that Really Matters

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Do you sometimes feel that you will drown in a sea of bad news, bad weather, bad everything?

I know I do… and right here at the beginning of the year I am sharing the ways that I have found to stay positive, even while floating on this sea.

Listen to today’s episode so that we can stay positive together!

Key links – and there are a TON today – at weturnedoutokay.com/210. Thank you for listening : ) Continue reading “Podcast Episode 210: For Us Parents, a Choice that Really Matters”

Podcast Episode 204: Burned out? So am I. Here’s what to do. (A Your Child Explained Episode for Part 3 of the 2017 Holiday Survival Guide)

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On the day I recorded this episode, late last week in real time, I had a moment, at about 10 AM, where I realized I ought to be in about three different places… All at exactly 10 AM.

That’s when my heart started racing.

Then, when I looked around my home and realized all that still wasn’t quite done, or not even started yet… and then I realized I was still in my pajamas… The complete and total futility of the season slammed into my brain.

As I’ve often said on the show, that was “Mom Karen” – Time to go and get some advice from Podcast Karen!

So, I dropped everything and recorded this show about dealing with burnout.

And I just want to give a special thanks in here for thirteen-year-old Jason Kolp (who shares great advice about how to help children with their fears, back in episode 193). He’s the one who really helped me figure out what to focus on first.

He told me to go and help you, which is exactly what I did.

I hope this episode helps you, as much as it helped Mom Karen : )

For a quickie breakdown of the three steps to alleviating burnout, plus key links and to watch the video I made about handling holiday kid craziness, go to weturnedoutokay.com/204. Happy listening!

Burned out? Here are my three steps to alleviating burnout:

1) RECOGNIZE that it’s burnout… This one still gets me at some times of the year. Recognition is the first step to repair.

2) Pare your to do list down to the absolute essentials… You can’t pour from an empty cup. People will understand this – and if they don’t, they were never very good friends, anyway.

3) Do something FUN.… What’s fun for you? Does it involve children, or is it something you do all by yourself? Is it a date with your honey? Whatever it is, make time for it. This will be easier after you have accomplished 2).

Key Links:

KJ Dell’Antonia of the #AmWriting with Jess and KJ Podcast came on the show Tuesday; click here to listen back to our conversation!

Click here for Gretchen Rubin’s awesome new book, The Four Tendencies. I am a questioner; which one are you?

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

Join the private WTOO Facebook group, for weekly Facebook lives and more! Click here!

Click here to check out We Turned Out Okay’s How-to Videos menu tab, to learn about how to help your kids eat more fruits and vegetables, how to help them learn to read, and more!

Click here to find out more about the Ninja Parenting Community, the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day.

If you love the show, please rate and review us in Apple Podcasts… That’s how so many people find us. Click here to rate/review, and thanks so much!

Podcast Episode 203: How to “remember the good” at this time of year with Parenting Expert + Returning Champion KJ Dell’Antonia – Holiday Survival Guide Part 2

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Today’s guest, returning champion KJ Dell’Antonia of the #AmWriting with Jess and KJ Podcast, brings her best ideas for how you can really enjoy this time of year, no matter what craziness you’ve got going on in your life.

The WTOO annual Parent Holiday Survival Guide goes Beyond Audio in 2017

Each year I bring you resources I know you’ll love as you figure out how to enjoy the holidays. This year I’m psyched because not only do I have audio resources for you, to listen while you drive on endless errands, bake endless cookies, or wrap endless gifts… I’ve got video and Facebook live offerings to help you handle the holidays as well!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/203 for key links, including:
– KJ’s Happier Parent Holiday Survival Guide PDF
– The We Turned Out Okay Facebook group
– The Latest how-to video (“How to handle holiday kid craziness”)
– Lots more resources to help you handle the holidays! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 203: How to “remember the good” at this time of year with Parenting Expert + Returning Champion KJ Dell’Antonia – Holiday Survival Guide Part 2″

Podcast Episode 202: A Parent Ninja Tactic to Help You Enjoy The Holidays – Part 1 in this year’s WTOO Annual Holiday Parenting Survival Guide

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In today’s episode I tell a story about a woman who once sat at a table full of loved ones, watched some of these loved ones manipulate her child, and feel completely powerless to help.
Maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar situation:
 – You understand that holiday gatherings include some degree of etiquette and civil niceties

 – But sometimes these people – these dear relatives, friends, loved ones – can push our buttons and set off our children.They can really wake the Mama/Papa Bear in each of us.

Sometimes we can feel truly helpless in handling complex social situations, and this time of year, we see A LOT of loved ones, magnifying the problem.

Today’s episode is all about how to handle that type of situation!
Listen to learn the ninja tactic of getting control of a situation, especially involving your child, and especially in the public setting of a family/friend gathering, where everything can feel so contentious.
It’s the first in this year’s Holiday Parenting Survival Guide…
Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/202. Happy listening!

Enjoy December with this WTOO 5-Day Free Challenge 

The Handle the Holidays FREE 5-Day Challenge, designed to help you cut through the BS and really enjoy this time of year, starts this coming Monday, December 18!

With daily emails for a series of quick wins beamed into your inbox each day of the challenge, and a Facebook live in our private We Turned Out Okay Facebook group on the last day (Friday, December 22, 2017), you’ll have a whole new outlook on how to really enjoy these last days of 2017.

Click here to participate in one of WTOO’s favorite listener rituals – the challenge – and feel better about the holidays at the same time!

What Are Your favorite episodes of We Turned Out Okay?

– Why are they your favorites, what do you like about them?
– How have they helped you?

I am putting together a year-end show sharing everybody’s favorites, so please
Click the link below to share yours:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact

Continue reading “Podcast Episode 202: A Parent Ninja Tactic to Help You Enjoy The Holidays – Part 1 in this year’s WTOO Annual Holiday Parenting Survival Guide”

Podcast Episode 201: Helping Kids Manage Even The Biggest Feelings – A Your Child Explained Conversation With Mental Health Counselor Janine Halloran

Today’s guest is a true play specialist.

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In today’s episode with 3-time returning champion Janine Halloran, the conversation goes in all kinds of useful directions, many of which I did not see coming!

Listen to learn more about:
– Big Feelings, the ones Janine says “feel like you can’t contain them in your body”
– How to stop engaging in the all-too-common and dangerous parenting ploy, “positively invalidating” our kids’ feelings
– Whether your young child is lucky, or unlucky, in the expression of feelings (and the HUGE difference this can make in a child’s life)

The Handle the Holidays FREE 5-Day Challenge, designed to help you cut through the BS and really enjoy this time of year, starts in just over a week!
With daily emails that will give you a series of quick wins beamed into your inbox each day of the challenge, and a Facebook live in our private We Turned Out Okay Facebook group on the last day (Friday, December 22, 2017), you’ll have a whole new outlook on how to really enjoy these last days of 2017!
Click here to participate in one of WTOO’s favorite listener rituals – the challenge – and feel better about the holidays at the same time!

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/201 – happy listening! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 201: Helping Kids Manage Even The Biggest Feelings – A Your Child Explained Conversation With Mental Health Counselor Janine Halloran”

Podcast Episode 199: Three Reasons to Encourage Kids’ Dreams

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I’m kicking off the holiday season insanity with an episode that is counter-intuitively meta-level… And I promise, there will be time for more practical ideas before the end of the year.

But this one is special, something I’ve wanted to talk about on the show for a while now, regarding how easy it is for us to step all over our children’s dreams, both their short-term, heart’s-desire hopes, and the long-term big, passionate ideas.

Recently I read something that helped me realize: there are three really good reasons to support our kids in their dreams.

One of these reasons is for their own safety.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/199 for key links, and happy listening!

Last Day to Join the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

If you want to:
– Handle afterschool activities, bedtime routines, and homework like a ninja parent
– Work better with everyone who looks after your child
– Deal with the time crunches and scheduling issues that come with the parenting job
– Feel better within yourself

This challenge will help you SO much.

Streamline your whole life during these 21 days (which begin as soon as you join, no need to wait at all), work closely with me on your toughest parenting conundrums, and feel like a new person at the end!

I’m running a holiday season special, so you get the benefit of the challenge at half off the normal cost… But the special ends TODAY Tuesday, November 28.

Click here for details and to sign up for the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

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Bonus: Join the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

If you want to:
– Handle afterschool activities, bedtime routines, and homework like a ninja parent
– Work better with everyone who looks after your child
– Deal with the time crunches and scheduling issues that come with the parenting job
– Feel better within yourself

I’ve got a 21-day challenge to help you!

Streamline your whole life during these 21 days (which begin as soon as you join, no need to wait at all), work closely with me on your toughest parenting conundrums, and feel like a new person at the end!

I’m running a holiday season special, so you get the benefit of the challenge at half off the normal cost… But only for a few more days, the special ends Tuesday, November 28.

Click here for details and to sign up for the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

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Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse

A podcast listener wrote to me recently with a a really good and important question:

“We see all kinds of ways for girls to deal with being assaulted, how to prevent it, how to heal, support groups and the like… How do we teach boys to keep their hands to themselves or what not to say?” She’s got a two-year-old boy and she does not want him to grow up into harasser or an abuser.

I based this episode on the awesome and wonderful responses I got when I asked this listener’s question on my Facebook page.

In today’s episode identify 4 key steps we as parents need to take in order to raise children who both do not grow up to be harassers or abusers, and who successfully resist being harassed or abused.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/196 to see these steps written down, and for key links! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse”

Podcast Episode 193: How to handle stuff that makes us squirm

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Today, I answer a listener question about how to buckle in a squirming child who doesn’t want to be in a car seat. And then I tackle something that makes us all squirm…

The unhappy social stuff in our kids’ lives.

You know what I’m talking about:
When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee.
When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied.
When they get broken up with by a friend.
When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you “who could love a face like this?”

If your heart breaks – or you feel shellshocked – when something like this happens, you are not alone.

You need to learn about the new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting.
This new 6-week mastercourse changes everything:

How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself
Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more…

Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast!

The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7…
And you can go to the course’s secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying!

Come get started on this new approach right away –
Sign up now!

Find out how to handle squirmy social stuff in today’s episode and go to weturnedoutokay.com/193 for key links.
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