This is the third in an in-depth, 4-part series, on how to start the school year off right.
(Click here for part one, about the first thing you can do when confronting any challenge, and click here for part two, where I share my method for cutting through overwhelm.)
One mom of two in the parent coaching community that I run, whom I’ll call Lindsay, REALLY struggled with the stress of getting small kids up and out the door in time for daycare and school.
Here is something she wrote just as she began working on this:
“Usually if our youngest wets the bed (he’s newly potty trained) it can derail the morning because we have to strip the bed, start the wash and give him a bath.
In the hustle and bustle my breakfast is usually the one that gets overlooked! That happened today. I typically don’t even notice until I get to work and am hungry.”
Maybe your struggles are different, but I bet you can sympathize with Lindsay.
I sure can.
She wondered, what could she do to fix this?
Together, we talked about some different ways to address the time shortage in the mornings.
– Do more at night? (Prepare lunches, or oatmeal, or make sure that her breakfast was ready to go in the mornings?… Maybe.)
– Get the boys’ dressed at night, for the next day? (With the little one waking up in a wet bed, probably not the best option.)
– Wake up earlier?
At first, Lindsay was really reluctant about trying that third one. Like all of us she loves her sleep!
But after working with me (and posting in the community) for several weeks she decided to give it a try.
She found that it wasn’t quite right: “Most of the morning chores take place after they wake up, so me waking up earlier was not resulting in less of a morning crunch.”
So we kept thinking, and eventually Lindsay hit upon something that did work really well:
Getting the boys up earlier.
It wasn’t so much about Lindsay herself needing to be up earlier.
She needed the boys up earlier (as she says up above, most of the morning chores that needed to get done, involved the boys, and could not be done before they were awake.)
And it worked! This was the game changer.
In Lindsay’s words:
“We’ve kept up our goal of waking the boys up at 7:30 rather than letting them sleep in until 8.
That has really helped because we have enough time to deal with any sheets (and boy, have there been sheets! Last week our son was sick and peed the bed EVERY NIGHT) and the boys tend to need to build up to eating breakfast, so they have some time to lounge around before deciding what they want to eat. They also help set up the daily schedule so they know what’s coming up in the evenings.”
This is what Lindsay did about nutty weekdays.
What I want you to notice here is that the first things she tried didn’t particularly work.
But she didn’t give up.
She kept talking about it in the community (which is called the Ninja Parenting Community, NPC for short), and thinking about what she could do to make weekdays, particularly mornings, work for her and her family.
That’s the lesson I want you to take today.
If your weekday mornings are insane, what change could you try that might make them better?
For Lindsay, the difference was half an hour in the mornings.
30 minutes between a terrible day – in which she did not get breakfast herself and felt overwhelmed with all the morning chores – and a good day.
Even during a week that involved daily bedwetting and sheet-changing.
What small change could you make in your morning routine?
Click reply and let me know!
And if you’re struggling, and feel like you need some support and accountability as you work on making your mornings better, do what Lindsay did and join the Ninja Parenting Community, the private coaching community I run for moms and dads just like you.
The community is:
– All online. Wherever you live and whatever your time zone, the community is always open for you.
– Personalized to you. In NPC, you can always get help with whatever part of raising children is most challenging for you.
– Always available. As long as you’re in NPC you always have access to all content, including each and every video, members-only call, and all challenges (like the one Lindsay took about streamlining weekdays), lessons, and PDF downloads.
– Always growing. Our members share their challenges and struggles, and I create help with personalized videos, worksheets and other offerings.
– A source of deep and broad learning, to help you most in your parenting.
Click weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC to learn more, and join the Ninja Parenting Community either as a monthly or annual member.
Keep reading below for What’s up on the podcast/In the Facebook group…
Wishing you a wonderful parenting week!
PS I am largely off-line for the month of August, as I finish up with Educating Happy Kids and enjoy some family downtime!
I will have only sporadic access to email, so if you write to me please be patient, I will get back to you ASAP, though it may take awhile.
I will still be in our private coaching community forums every single day! So if you are a member, click the link below to join in the fun: )
What’s up on the podcast this week:
This week we hear from Anna Seewald, the force behind the Authentic Parenting Podcast! She brought me onto her show back in July, and I am thrilled to bring Anna, and her wonderful ideas on parenting and parenthood, to We Turned Out Okay.
Click the link below to listen:
What’s up in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group this week:
Magic Words for Parents is off for the month of August, as I wrap up my book and get some family downtime.
Click here to join the Facebook group, because I am still popping in there and would love to say hi!
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