Here is the video I made sharing those intentions:
Weekly Friday Assessment
Today at 11 AM EST I did a YouTube live to share about my week!
And I asked you: how did your week go?
Click “play” below:
Notes for the Weekly Assessment Video above (the Friday one : )
How was your week? I hope it was at least all right <3
Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact to share – and if you can, please include one positive thing, no matter how small : )
The way that we get through this “double” pandemic, of coronavirus, and fear, is through supporting each other!
So I’m doing these weekly Monday assessments and Friday intentions videos to help us both stay on track!
Huge thanks to:
Dan Blank of We Grow Media, for letting me bring you the weekly assessment that I learned how to do from Dan!
Check out Dan’s Creative Shift podcast, and the Creative Shift Mastermind, at http://wegrowmedia.com!
When my husband Ben went grocery shopping this weekend, there were empty shelves instead of many things we normally get. Earlier in the day there had been not one but two fistfights in our local grocery store over supplies!
If you’re worrying about interruptions in the supply chain, the stock market, and other factors related to (or attributed to, anyway) coronavirus, you are not alone.
And right off the bat I want to say: we will get through this together.
How we get through this is how we get through any crisis: by not panicking. By staying positive. With LOTS of handwashing. And by helping our family members feel safe.
Today I’m sharing ideas for talking with your kids about coronavirus, as well as the best ideas I’ve learned regarding prevention and containment.
I am a child development expert, not a doctor, so I am linking here to several resources that have excellent information on stuff that is out of my purview, such as: Number of cases; who is most likely to get infected; how can you limit your chances of getting coronavirus; and how can you keep kids from getting it, or the flu.
Read on for 14 ideas to help your family, watch the video above to round out those ideas (and check the bottom of this post for the bonus podcast episode I’m doing; should be out sometime late in the first week of March 2020) – and most of all take heart.
if you could direct some of your positive energy up our way here in Massachusetts, it would be much appreciated.
Our son has been in the hospital since Monday, and in 24 hours between yesterday and today, will have undergone three procedures (only one of which was a surgery, but all of which involve anesthesia and scopes.)
The third will be late this morning. And we are hopeful that it will once and for all solve the problem he is experiencing.
This newsletter was supposed to be about something else entirely, and I hope to bring you that newsletter over the weekend.
But in the meantime please keep us in your thoughts if you would.
I thought Jen would say “I love the courses,” or “I get so much out of private parent coaching calls with you Karen,” or even “I love that your parenting e-books are included in membership!”
I thought Jen would share about some individual aspect of the community, some tangible piece that she found helpful.
Instead, her response showed me: it’s not just the courses, or the e-books.
It’s not just the private coaching calls.
The Ninja Parenting Community gives parents the ability to take control of the direction their family is going in.
That is SUCH a big deal!
Imagine having that kind of control.
Imagine knowing how to use positive discipline to get your child to:
– Stop writing on walls
– Speak to you respectfully
– Work out arguments with siblings (instead of screaming or lashing out physically)
Imagine knowing how to overcome issues with school or day care.
Imagine successful potty training.
Imagine knowing how to treat yourself with compassion, how to forgive yourself when you slip up.
These are all hallmarks of a family that is going in the right direction.
And, these are all the things that I work on every day with ninja parents.
If you’re struggling with the direction your family’s going, I hope you’ll join the community that helps parents truly enjoy family time.
Recently a parent I work closely with mentioned:
“It would be interesting to hear some data/facts on how harmful NOT disciplining your kids can be. So many times we focus on the negative effects of discipline – spanking, timeouts, etc., but what’s easy to forget is just how dangerous it is to take a backseat to parenting your children.”
The short answer is, NOT disciplining your kids is every bit as harmful as using negative discipline (spanking, verbal threats of aggression, etc.)
Both are forms of neglect.
Not disciplining – failing to establish any boundaries or communicating any behavioral expectations – is neglectful because the parent fails to share a clear understanding of what behavior is okay, and what is not. This is frightening and makes the child feel unsafe.
Negatively disciplining – implementing the rule of law, without taking into account any of the child’s thoughts, abilities, or preferences – is neglectful because it contains no warmth or loving kindness.
There are three styles of discipline:
Passive, in which there are no boundaries and no expectations
Authoritarian, in which all is cold control, with no sense of loving or acceptance, and in which the child has no say in their own decisions
Authoritative, also called Wise, which sits somewhere between the poles above, bringing in loving/acceptance, and firm limits/behavioral expectations
Which was used most by the family into which you were born?
“I am still just so scared these challenges are going to last forever, and school and daily life will always be a struggle. It’s so hard to see the stuff other kids can do that [my three-year-old] just can’t.”
If this lament – if these fears – sound familiar, I hope today’s episode will help.
Raising children is a hard job, especially when you’re worried about a child’s behavior, and if it’s normal or not.
In this episode we’ve got 5 ways for you to feel better about the bad behavior, and how you’re doing as a parent!
Plus in Parenting News: A wonderful, funny, sweet TED talk by comedian Julia Sweeney on her chat with her eight-year-old about the birds and the bees.
Watch it – without the kids around, at least at first – to determine if it might be useful to you, when it’s time for you to have that same talk. And also to smile.
Read more about the 5 ways to feel better (mentioned above), and check out the links for this episode, by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/299
Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today’s show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.
Reminder: Through 9/30/19 I’m offeringthe Friends and Family membership rate to join the private coaching community I host online for parents! I would love to work with you closely, helping you enjoy this parenting journey.
Read more about this below.
Recently a mom in my private coaching community posted in our forums: “I feel like I just can’t win.”
Maybe you know how she feels. In the previous week her child:
– Ran from his childcare classroom multiple times
– Slapped a teacher
– Spit, kicked, and hit multiple people, multiple times, including the mom herself
– Shouted, screamed, and melted down, mostly in public
– Bit a child at the playground
In short, her three-year-old had a tough week. As a result, so did she.
Are you, as a parent, coming to view American healthcare as a soul-sucking showstopper of happiness?
Don’t despair. Today’s guest, Dan Weissmann, has some great ideas and advice!
Dan sparked a movement when he began a podcast about the many ways average Americans – confronting a healthcare system that can be ruinous both financially, and healthwise – think of and approach family health and happiness.
Also in the preshow I share that friends-of-the-podcast Jessica Lahey and KJ Dell’Antonia invited me onto their show, #AmWriting, to discuss what it’s like to overcome difficult circumstances and achieve your goals.
If you’d like some insight into your host, and why we have the show at all, this conversation is a great starting point. Click here to listen!
Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, and an incredible resource she has created to help your child handle even the biggest feelings!
Click copingskillsforkids.com/coping-cue-cards to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.