“It’s the middle of the night and my child is awake. What do I do?” | Podcast Episode 308

This question came directly from a ninja parent with this problem:
“I can’t identify a trigger but [my three-year-old] wakes up sometime around 1 to 3 AM and is just wide-awake and mad that it’s not morning yet. Any tips on sleep stuff?”

In this episode we talk about what to do when your child wakes up in the middle of the night and doesn’t want to go back to sleep.

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Transition times

What comes to mind when you think of the word “transition”?

It’s one of those words that, in the early childhood biz, gets referenced quite a bit.

But to people who are not early childhood teachers, or experts in child development, transitions can look totally invisible.

In fact many parents that I work with will come to me with a major, massive struggle in their lives – being unable to leave the house because of their child’s temper tantrums (which started when they offered their kids the wrong shoes), for example – and it turns out to be a transition issue.

Transitions show up in the following ways: Continue reading “Transition times”

How to stop school from screwing up your child, part 4 | Podcast Episode 307

Welcome to the fourth and final installment in our series about school, and how it can screw up your child, and how to make sure that that does not happen!
Today we discuss the dangers that come with someone feeling continually assessed, judged, and evaluated.
I work really hard to give you ideas to overcome this challenge.

Plus in Parenting News:
I share about this documentary that I first watched in college as a human development major. (Based on this documentary… Some of what’s in the other is also here, but there is more here that is not covered in the other. I recommend watching them both!)
Recently it came up again, and I’m excited because I get to share with you today!

Also! If you can be at the Bancroft Memorial Library in Hopedale, Massachusetts this coming Saturday 12/7 between noon and 3 PM, come say hi – I’ll be there as an author in their local authors book fair : )

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Gifts to be thankful for

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“You can tell that you are very passionate about what you do and genuinely care about helping parents be the best versions of themselves. I was able to see that in all the emails you sent, as well as your welcome videos, and in your podcasts that I listened to over the past year.
“Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for putting yourself out there to help others. This is truly YOUR gift, and it’s awesome to see you use it to better the world!”

I teared up reading this email, from NPC member Kathleen.

Her letter dropped into my inbox on a particularly frustrating day, one in which it seemed like there were fewer gifts in my life, and more struggles.

But reading this letter, I felt my challenges recede, and my feelings of thankfulness and gratitude come forward.

Longtime readers/listeners to the podcast might know that I have a tendon disorder.
My tendons develop scar tissue extremely fast, relative to (likely) yours. This is because of an ingredient in a lifesaving course of antibiotics I needed 8 years ago.

My life is completely different now, from before I developed the tendon disorder. Continue reading “Gifts to be thankful for”

The right age for soccer | Three-year-old tantrums!! | Night Terrors | Disrespect | A Q&A for Episode 306!

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In this episode find out:
– What’s the right age for starting soccer
– What to do with your three-year-old’s tantrums
– How to handle night terrors in your young child
– How to deal with disrespect
We’re bringing you some GREAT questions from the parents I work closely with in our private, online community! (If you’re not a member, but you would like to become one, click here.)
I hope it’s helpful as you head into this Thanksgiving week!
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Plus in Parenting News:
Since Max and Jay were very small, we have made Arlo Guthrie’s 18-minute, recorded-live song Alice’s Restaurant part of our Thanksgiving tradition. Today I explain why. (FYI – You may want to listen on your own before introducing this song to your children, as it does get into some themes you may not deem them ready for yet.)

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How to have best Thanksgiving Day ever | Bonus Podcast Episode

Surprise! Bonus episode on how to have a happy Thanksgiving!

Special thanks to Graham Smith and Kirsten Dunlap of the Welcome Home podcast, and Desirae Endres of Minimal-ish, for sharing in this edition of We Turned Out Okay
We are connecting our shows, each of us with a “Best Thanksgiving Day Ever” in a pod hop, similar to the blog hops of old!

This is Desirae of the Minimal-ish Podcast : )

 

 

 

 

 

Here are Graham and Kirsten of the Welcome Home Podcast : )

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(I literally don’t even mention this in today’s episode, but I wanted you to be aware of it in case you were interested : )

To have your best Thanksgiving day ever, you must deliberately focus in – choose – what you want more of.

How do you have a happy Thanksgiving? It’ll depend on your focus.

Today I share 4 ways I’m thinking about, 4 things I’m choosing. Maybe you’ll want to focus on them too!

Links to the Welcome Home and Minimal-ish versions of how to have the best Thanksgiving Day ever, as well as all the links I talk about today, are available at:
weturnedoutokay.com/bestThanksgiving ! Continue reading “How to have best Thanksgiving Day ever | Bonus Podcast Episode”

When your child isn’t kind about a mistake you have made

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We had a really interesting question in the Ninja Parenting Community recently, and I wanted to share about the question, and my thoughts on how to handle it, with you this week!

Mama Llama asks: “how should I handle my 4-year-old realizing that other people get things wrong and how to handle it kindly?
“For example, this morning I asked if you wanted to take a certain car to play with in the sand and he reminded me those cars can’t go in the sand (which is true – we don’t take pull-backed cars in the sand so the gears don’t get messed up) and I said “oh, you’re right, that’s a good idea to leave them out.” And he delightedly yelled “You were wrong!!!”
“This has come up a couple times already, but I definitely don’t want to continue. Any thoughts? Thanks!”

I share, first of all, that this is a marathon-type of thing. It’s not a sprint.

The work of childhood is to understand how our words and actions affect other people.

We obviously do not want our children to the wandering through the world, smugly pointing out when someone else has made a mistake.

And of course we all know what it’s like to be teased in this way, when we’ve gotten something wrong.

The way I see it, we’ve got 3 options to help our kids see how their actions can affect others, when they are not being kind about a mistake that somebody makes: Continue reading “When your child isn’t kind about a mistake you have made”

Are academics good for young children? Podcast Episode 305

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As a preschool teacher I used to get asked all the time about when we would be teaching reading. Or writing.
I could see the stunned disbelief on parents’ faces when we’d tell them “we don’t teach formal academics, children learn everything they need through play.”
It’s patently awful, and damaging, to force kids into academic learning too soon.
And yet it’s done all the time.
In this episode we discuss why, and what to do about it.

Plus in Parenting News:
I have been getting a lot out of the Live Above the Noise podcast, and so I want to highlight that for parenting news this week!

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(Links to everything talked about in this episode, plus a cheat sheet about the ideas we discussed, at weturnedoutokay.com/305 : )

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today’s show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
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What kids understand

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“Fortunately the children have no words to define the panic and anger they feel at constant violations of natural order and sequence.”

– Jon Taylor Gatto, Dumbing Us Down

At about 9 years old I discovered the joy of getting change back when you make a cash payment.

I discovered this in the lunch line at school.

One day, I paid with a single dollar bill instead of having the exact change of, if memory serves, 55¢.

I was thrilled when the lunch lady gave me a bunch of change!

The next day I deliberately gave her more than the 55¢. I gave her (again, if memory serves) 70 cents. She counted it, and handed me back my extra 15 cents.

How exciting! Getting money back! (It is a little peculiar, I know. But kids are kids, and this was over-the-moon thrilling for me.)

On the third day I scrounged a little bit of extra change, so I could know the fun of getting back change after paying for my lunch again.

But this time, I got a surprise:

The lunch lady snapped at me.

Continue reading “What kids understand”