324: Why your child’s behavior may be worse now than usual, and what to do about it, with Janine Halloran, LMHC

Today we are bringing back – for the fifth time! – beloved guest, an expert in teaching kids coping skills, Janine Halloran LMHC of copingskillsforkids.com.

We discuss:
– How Janine is thinking about school work and all this extra time at home with kids and family
– The kinds of questions her clients are bringing to her right now, in spring 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic
– Why a child’s behavior is most likely worse than usual right now
– What you can do about that, if that’s the case in your home

Join us!
(Click the following link for the video of our talk, and also notes from today’s conversation: weturnedoutokay.com/324)

How are you staying positive? Let me know!

In our Facebook group:

in Instagram:

in Twitter:

All during April’s FREE OkayCon 2020 Virtual Summit we’re having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that!

Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties:

Join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where the watch parties are happening each Monday and Wednesday all through April, by clicking here.

Find out details about the summit itself:

We will get through this together : )
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com

Helping parents change kids’ behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : )

PS Join my email newsgroup for lots of useful, free parenting tools, as well as lots of info on OkayCon, our Virtual Summit that is ongoing right now: sign up at weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

If you need some extra support, especially right now with all the madness, I’m offering special membership rates if you want to join our private coaching community, NPC. Click here for details and to join, so I can personally help you through this extremely challenging time!

OkayCon 2020 FREE Virtual Summit starts tomorrow : )

Hey friends! I hope everyone you love is doing okay. And if you’re going a little stir crazy, I hope I can help!

I’ve been working hard behind the scenes to put together a Virtual Summit, bringing you the best ideas, from experts in their fields, to help you through this double pandemic – of Covid 19, and Fear.

So! Each Monday and Wednesday at OkayCon.com during April 2020 I’m releasing presentations by experts in:
– Children’s behavior
– Home and family security
– Helping children through this time
– How to find a job if you’ve been laid off
– and lots more!

Each Monday and Wednesday I’m posting the presentation at OkayCon.com, and simulcasting in YouTube and Facebook.

And each Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM EST we’re having a watch party in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group – click here to join our group (and use that link to invite anyone you think needs a boost!)

Click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get notified automagically about the presentation for that day, and the watch party for that night!

I know this is a scary time. It’s scary for me too! But we will get through this together.

I’m so grateful for you, and I am hopeful that I can bring you some help and support right now.

Cheers and I’ll see you each Monday and Wednesday (starting tomorrow!) in April for OkayCon 2020 <3


What is possible? Coronavirus update 5

In today’s video I talk about a few things:
– the daily check-in call a friend and I have established, in which we trade inspirational calendar/book entries
– the idea that, even in a frightening and worrisome time like we are having now, many things can and will go right
– a wonderful Smart Passive Income podcast episode, “What to do when you are laid off,” in which Pat asks the question “What is possible?”
– My upcoming interview for the April 2020 OkayCon Virtual Summit with Andy Murphy, author of The Secure Dad and an expert in home and family safety and security

I combine all these ideas into one overarching thought:

Good things are possible right now, too.

What’s good in your life right now? How are you staying positive? Let me know!

In our Facebook group:

in Instagram:

in Twitter:

All during next month’s OkayCon Virtual Summit we’re having live watch parties, so we can keep each other company in this era where we all need that!

Sign up to be notified about the guests and watch parties:

Find out details about the summit itself:

We will get through this together <3
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed. of https://weturnedoutokay.com
Helping parents change kids’ behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : )

323: 32 Ways to occupy stuck-at-home kids (organized by amount of adult input!)

During our Ninja Parenting Community live members only call last week, many members expressed frustration with all the list of activities coming at us, but the lists are often in a somewhat disorganized fashion.

So I wanted to give you a list, organized by how much time/input required by us parents!

Read the complete list at: weturnedoutokay.com/323

Announcing OkayCon, We Turned Out Okay’s FREE virtual summit!
All the first week of April 2020, and into the second week of April 2020 (and possibly beyond : ) I am bringing you, completely free, presentations by people with answers you need right now:
– How to keep your family and home safe and secure
– How to foster the coping skills necessary to get through all this
– How to stock up and what to cook right now
– How to occupy the hours that you are stuck at home with your kiddo
– And lots more!
Go to okaycon.com for details (and also to watch starting next week!)

You are not alone.
If you’ve got questions or just feel like you cannot go on, email me and we can talk about it (I share my email address in today’s episode)!

Join my Weekly Parenting Newsletter group for support, good information, and ideas for staying sane right now: weturnedoutokay.com/weekly

Get the extra support and encouragement you need right now by joining our private coaching community, the Ninja Parenting Community – at the Friends & Family rate, $1 for your whole first month – at weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC

Also, lots of hugs coming your way for me!
We will get through this together <3
Continue reading “323: 32 Ways to occupy stuck-at-home kids (organized by amount of adult input!)”

“How do I handle weeks and possibly months of this?” – Coronavirus Update 4

“How do we get through weeks or potentially months like this?”
We talked about looking at what is right in front of us instead of trying to know the future (this is something that I need to keep in mind, as well as anybody, so very helpful part of our talk : )
We discussed mindfulness, and I shared this app from the VA.

“I feel guilty, and overwhelmed, trying to work while leaving my young child to his own devices. What can be done about this?”
I also gave us all permission to not feel guilty.
We are doing the best that we can, and the more guilt we feel, the less we can do our best.

Get updates like this right into your inbox as they’re happening:

And many hugs for you as we come through this! We will get through it. And we will get through it together <3

Can a child have too little screen time? (Plus a coronavirus update)

Hi Friends,

First, hoping you and your family are well and safe.

My son and I are home from Colorado, self quarantined for two weeks (as is anyone who has spent time in Colorado high country), and making the best of it… Tonight we plan to watch some of the original Star Wars trilogy together, I’ve been baking sourdough bread with decent results, and I’ve been working on how to help you and your family stay sane during this time…
Yesterday I made the third in a video series, updates I’m doing during the coronavirus pandemic, and you can click here to watch it. (I highly recommend doing so, as I share the link to my new favorite website for when you’re sick of washing your hands to “Happy Birthday” : )

I wrote today’s newsletter a few weeks ago, trying to batch some content for you before my son and I went away; and I’m bringing it to you now in hopes that it will help you view screen time a little differently, especially as we are all being pounded with requests from our kids to watch lots and lots of screen time.

I plan to keep doing the coronavirus updates, and I’ll send them to you as they become available.

Ninja parents, a.k.a. NPC members, click here for the forum I just created – and am already filling up – called Coronavirus Resources.

And finally I am thinking of you, dear reader, sending you hugs and positive thoughts as we head into this brave new world <3


FYI: this is the second in our series about kids and technology. Click here for the first, establishing some guidelines about kids and technology, and stay tuned for the third, investigating whether technology can cause behavior problems. That’ll be out next week 🙂

When I interviewed Matt Miles and Joe Clement, high school teachers and authors of the excellent book Screen Schooled, a mom in our Facebook group asked:

“Will our children fall behind if they are not introduced to much technology at young ages?”

Like me, I’m sure Matt and Joe could just hear the fear in this question.

What if my kid falls behind, because they weren’t introduced to the right technology when they were young?

Here are Matt and Joe’s answers: Continue reading “Can a child have too little screen time? (Plus a coronavirus update)”

A Sense of Control: Coronavirus update 3

In today’s video I share how to help our children have a sense of control, and also how to help ourselves have a sense of control, in these crazy times that we are now living in.

NPC members: I have created an entire forum, Coronavirus Resources, where I’m placing videos like these and other good information, and where I’m hoping you’ll post your questions and your good information to! Click here to visit this forum. (Please note, you must be logged in to access our forums; click here to watch a quick video on how to do this : )

In this video I reference:
Ned Johnson’s amazing article, “Help enhance kids’ sense of control amid coronavirus concerns
The awesome website washyourlyrics.com, where you can set handwashing to any song! No more Happy Birthday! (Unless you love Happy Birthday… But I bet you’re a little tired of it by now : )
The very first podcast episode in this stream, https://weturnedoutokay.com/000, in which myself and my four best friends share about our unplanned adventures. Might make very good listening right now, as we are globally on an unplanned adventure.
Finally I share the March 16 inspirational calendar quote, one that means a lot to me, especially right now:
“Live your life by a compass not a clock”
I hope this video is helpful!

PS I am changing up the programming for We Turned Out Okay, to reflect more of what you need during this coronavirus outbreak. So, what do you need?

What questions have you got that I can help with, as a child development expert, while you navigate all the stuff coming at you?
You can email me by going to https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact, and I hope you do!
Better yet, go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to sign up for my newsletters… You’ll get these videos automagically sent right to your inbox, and I write back to each and every one of you who writes to me.

Hugs to you as we go through this time!

322 Coronavirus anxiety, and How to regulate screen time (new ninja tactic!)

So, I say I’m going to drop an F bomb in the beginning segment of this episode, but we decided to edit it out, so no worries about earmuffs 🙂

Re coronavirus: I had an anxiety attack this morning, before I was even fully awake. To help you in case you are experiencing heightened anxiety right now as well, I start off today’s show with audio from a video series I’m doing on how to feel better during this time of fear, worry, and coronavirus threats.

The video has its own post, with a cheat sheet of the ways I’m finding to alleviate the anxieties, available at https://weturnedoutokay.com/cv2

Go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get these videos automagically delivered right into your inbox. We will get through this together 💕

Re the new ninja tactic:

I am SO excited to share this with you, a new ninja tactic that is absolutely great for regulating screen time!
Do you struggle with getting your kids to stop watching TV, or the tablet, or stop using your (or their) phone?
This is the show for you. I lay out exactly what words to say, to make this work – to get your kids to listen to you and actually control the screen time!
Join us : )

Here is the link to this post

Links that come up in this episode:
weturnedoutokay.com/weekly, where you can sign up for the newsletters I send out each week! They are extremely useful, like this one about what to do when your child is disrespectful, and plus I love corresponding with you!

The original post by our NPC member, who first brought this ninja tactic to my attention

creatingchampionsforlife.com, the place our NPC member first learned of this tactic

– Bonnie and Thomas’s video, outlining the tactic

Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, my first book, which contains lots more tools you can use in the stressful moments of parenting to get your kids to do what you want them to do : )

weturnedoutokay.com/joinnpc, where you can become a member of the Ninja Parenting Community (just as this member did) and learn to overcome the challenges that are stopping you from truly enjoy family time

Today’s episode is sponsored by the amazing Janine Halloran, expert in teaching kids coping skills, who has created a great resource to help your child handle it when the going gets tough!
Listen to today’s show to find out how to get 15% off your order, and then
Click copingskillsforkids.com/okay to check out Janine’s Coping Skills for Kids Cue Card Decks.

Thanks for reading, and listening!

Getting through tough times together: coronavirus update 2

This morning I had an anxiety attack just as I was waking up. It started with simply hearing the text tone that my phone is set to, for when my husband texts… I’m traveling and had a tremendous wave of fear, anxiety, and homesickness, just hearing my husband’s text (which was not catastrophic at all… It was about the link to a recipe that he wanted to make : )
I made a video for you, and also wrote a cheat sheet of the ways that I am finding to feel better, stay positive, and alleviate anxiety (Click the video link just below, and scroll down just below that video link for the cheat sheet : )

I thought you might also be having more heightened anxiety than usual, and so I hope this is helpful for you!

Cliff Notes for what I am doing to stay positive:

1. I am using a breathing technique called 478, that I originally learned from Dr. Andrew Weil, and that was recently highlighted for me by licensed mental health counselor and beloved guest/podcast sponsor Janine Halloran of http://copingskillsforkids.com. I teach that breathing method in this video.

2. Doing something that I talk a lot about in the Ninja Parenting Community: focusing on what is right in front of me rather than envisioning awfulness down the road. I think this was probably the most helpful thing!

3. I’m focusing on being a helper, with my family, within my community, and also focusing on helping my children be helpers… Kids fare far better when we make them part of the team.

4. I’m spending less time on a screen. And trying to make that time not so much about all the latest awful headlines but about fun and funny stuff, videos, Memes, etc.

5 Finally, I share some of the things that my dearest friends are doing to stay positive, even while confined with family.

I hope it’s helpful!

Karen of https://weturnedoutokay.com

PS this is the second in a series I’m doing on how to stay sane in the time of coronavirus – go to https://weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get notified of the next update : )

Anxiety, sickness in the time of coronavirus, and my family: update one


In this video I share what’s going on in my family (as one of my sons and I travel, and he gets sick), my own fears about and anxieties around coronavirus and all of the economic and social havoc it’s wreaking – and most importantly what steps I’m taking to address those fears.

I am sharing because I hope the steps I’m taking will be helpful for you too!


This one takes you to the video and podcast episode I did recently on “14 things you can do to address coronavirus with your family”:


And this one takes you to kids and media specialist Devorah Heitner‘s article on how to survive with kids home from school for an extended period of time:

https://www. raisingdigitalnatives.com/kids-home-from-school-how-to-survive

I plan to be back in here with another update for you in a couple days. Hope this helps! And thanks for watching 💕

Cheers, Karen