320.5 Fourteen things you can do to address coronavirus with your family

When my husband Ben went grocery shopping this weekend, there were empty shelves instead of many things we normally get. Earlier in the day there had been not one but two fistfights in our local grocery store over supplies!

If you’re worrying about interruptions in the supply chain, the stock market, and other factors related to (or attributed to, anyway) coronavirus, you are not alone.

And right off the bat I want to say: we will get through this together.

How we get through this is how we get through any crisis: by not panicking. By staying positive. With LOTS of handwashing. And by helping our family members feel safe.

Today I’m sharing ideas for talking with your kids about coronavirus, as well as the best ideas I’ve learned regarding prevention and containment.
I am a child development expert, not a doctor, so I am linking here to several resources that have excellent information on stuff that is out of my purview, such as: Number of cases; who is most likely to get infected; how can you limit your chances of getting coronavirus; and how can you keep kids from getting it, or the flu.

Read on for 14 ideas to help your family, watch the video above to round out those ideas (and check the bottom of this post for the bonus podcast episode I’m doing; should be out sometime late in the first week of March 2020) – and most of all take heart.

We will get through this, together <3 Continue reading “320.5 Fourteen things you can do to address coronavirus with your family”

How to have best Thanksgiving Day ever | Bonus Podcast Episode

Surprise! Bonus episode on how to have a happy Thanksgiving!

Special thanks to Graham Smith and Kirsten Dunlap of the Welcome Home podcast, and Desirae Endres of Minimal-ish, for sharing in this edition of We Turned Out Okay
We are connecting our shows, each of us with a “Best Thanksgiving Day Ever” in a pod hop, similar to the blog hops of old!

This is Desirae of the Minimal-ish Podcast : )






Here are Graham and Kirsten of the Welcome Home Podcast : )

FYI: NPC Cyber Monday special: 30% off of annual Ninja Parenting Community membership… Get on the waiting list (and get 7 of my best parenting resources – for free) by clicking weturnedoutokay.com/cybermonday!
(I literally don’t even mention this in today’s episode, but I wanted you to be aware of it in case you were interested : )

To have your best Thanksgiving day ever, you must deliberately focus in – choose – what you want more of.

How do you have a happy Thanksgiving? It’ll depend on your focus.

Today I share 4 ways I’m thinking about, 4 things I’m choosing. Maybe you’ll want to focus on them too!

Links to the Welcome Home and Minimal-ish versions of how to have the best Thanksgiving Day ever, as well as all the links I talk about today, are available at:
weturnedoutokay.com/bestThanksgiving ! Continue reading “How to have best Thanksgiving Day ever | Bonus Podcast Episode”

I need your help (quick question)

I am struggling with something, and it would mean so much to me to hear from you about it…
I hope you’ll answer me just one question, which I ask in this episode.

You can answer my question in 2 ways:

Click weturnedoutokay.com/contact and respond right on my contact page; or

Email me directly– I share my email address in this episode

Thank you SO much!

Podcast Bonus: Why You Should Join the FREE Friendly Mirror 5-Day Challenge

Join the FREE Friendly Mirror 5-Day Challenge:
Learn exactly how to handle every “Jedi mind trick” your kids toss at you; shout less; feel truly happy at home!

Click the link below to sign up for the challenge:

Read details below and, to hear success stories from the 2017 Free Friendly Mirror Challenge, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button.

“I am terrified to stop doing mostly everything and accept help for fear that if I do, my family will resent me.” – 2017 Free Friendly Mirror Challenge Participant

Hello my friend, how are you today?

If you’re feeling at all like this long-time listener, today’s quickie bonus episode shares all about something that will help!

It’s my FREE, 5-Day Friendly Mirror Challenge, in which we are working to smile (instead of cringe) when we look in the mirror.

There’s a quick little win for you each day of the challenge…

Each day gives you a new opportunity to feel better when you look in the mirror, because you’re feeling a new sense of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.

Sound good?

Click here for details and to sign up – the challenge starts this coming Monday with an email into your inbox each day Monday, February 12 through Friday, February 16…

Cheers! And thanks for listening!

Bonus: Why listeners are joining the FREE 5-Day Handle the Holidays Challenge (and a little story about Burnout)

Are you, like lots of your fellow listeners, noticing a certain unhappiness creeping in to your daily life? A sense of insanity that you cannot escape from? Overwhelm at all the stuff you’ve got to do in pretty short amount of time, and getting shorter every day?

Then you should join the free 5-Day Handle the Holidays Challenge.

It starts tomorrow if you’re listening in real time – Monday, December 18 – and in today’s quickie bonus episode I share some reasons why listeners are joining…

I also share a little story about burnout, right here in my own life.

Thanks for listening!

Sign-ups for the Handle the Holidays challenge end TONIGHT. Don’t miss out!
Click the link below to join

Bonus: A New Way to Survive the Social Stuff

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy this bonus episode!

It’s agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life.

You know what I’m talking about:
When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee.
When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied.
When they get broken up with by a friend.
When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you “who could love a face like this?”

If your heart breaks or you feel shellshocked when something like this happens, you are not alone.

I’m offering a new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting.
It’s a new 6-week mastercourse, and it changes everything:

How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself
Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more…

Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast!

The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7…
And you can go to the course’s secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying!

You’ll learn:
– How to help your child navigate the social landscape
– Strategies for helping your child stand up to a bully, deal with sibling rivalry, and gain social confidence and competence
– Why your agony and heartbreak over your child’s struggles may be hurting him or her socially
– How to feel better within yourself while helping your child feel better

Come get started on this new approach right away –
Sign up now!

Podcast Bonus: #MeToo – Surviving and/or helping your child survive sexual abuse and harassment

Welcome – to listen to this episode, please scroll down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Thanks for listening, and I hope this one helps <3

Sexually abused at age 7, I consider myself not a victim, but a survivor.
In today’s bonus episode, brought on by the #MeToo movement, I share the most important tool in my healing – and the conviction that, if you or a loved one has been sexually abused or harassed, there is help and hope for a good life (even a great one).

Click here for key links, and please consider sharing this episode if you feel like it will help somebody in your life feel better. Thanks, and thanks for listening! Continue reading “Podcast Bonus: #MeToo – Surviving and/or helping your child survive sexual abuse and harassment”

Bonus: How Children Learn to Read

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

Here at the beginning of the school year, teachers are doing their initial assessments, figuring out who of their students is how far along the literacy timeline.

It can be a worrisome time for us parents – what if our kids don’t read when they’re supposed to?
What if they tell you “reading is boring”?
What if they hate reading?

We all know that reading is THE key to our children’s future success… but how do you get them to want to read?

Today’s bonus episode digs into the two most important factors in getting children to be happy readers.

Click here to listen, and to sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge, which starts Monday, October 2! Continue reading “Bonus: How Children Learn to Read”

Why you need to join the Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge

If you’re struggling with these back-to-school mornings, sign up below for the Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge.

Welcome! (9/3/17: Click Here for the Waitlist, so you’ll know immediately when I offer this challenge again.)

And scroll all the way to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button to listen and find out why you should!

Are you feeling any of the following right now?

  • Worry about busy schoolday mornings, with the chaos of everyone trying to get up/get dressed/eat/get teeth and hair brushed/get lunches/get out the door/etc.?
  • Fears that, even though you’ve got a pretty good routine right now, that that could all change with one bad night or morning meltdown?
  • Guilt at being consistently – no matter what you try – super late out the door?
  • Helpless , as you send your child off into school, about “throwing your baby to the wolves?”

If so, I’ve got a way for you to feel better:

Join the Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge!
(It starts this coming Monday, September 4 and sign-ups close the day before, Sunday, September 3.)

This quick episode shares what the challenge includes and how participating in it will help you.

So give it a listen – and then click here to go to weturnedoutokay.com and click the picture to join the challenge!

Bonus: How to feel less helpless about racism, or Building a World Without Racism

Back in the early 90s, when I was a preschool teacher, I worked with two 4-year-old best friends, “Stacy,” who had lovely chocolate brown skin and eyes, and “Kim,” who had blonde hair and blue eyes.

One day, as these two best buddies waited together in line for the bathroom, Kim innocently looked up at me and said: “I don’t like black people.”

I was speechless – she’s holding the hand of her best friend, who IS a black person, telling me how she doesn’t like black people… It just did not compute.

Until I realized that she did not think of Stacy as a black person; Stacy was her best friend.

She did not know who “black people” were. When she said those words she was parroting the adults in her life.

Metaphorically, I threw up my hands. I felt terrible, but I just did not know what to do. Should I talk to Kim’s parents? Should I talk to Stacy’s parents? Should I try to persuade Kim that she shouldn’t feel that way about black people?

In the end I did nothing, I said nothing. While I spoke of this with my fellow preschool teachers, I never took it any further than that.

But it stayed with me all these years (Kim and Stacy are now in their 20s.)

Maybe you watched just a few days ago with horror as a white supremacists plowed his car into a peaceful protest, killing one and injuring many – and terrifying all.

Maybe you wondered what kind of a world you’re raising a child in.

Maybe you threw up your hands and said “what can I possibly do about this?”

If so, then this bonus episode is for you.

I just finished recording. I couldn’t stop thinking about Kim and Stacy, and also a song from an old musical, South Pacific:

You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late/
Before you are six or seven or eight/
To hate all the people your relatives hate/
You’ve got to be carefully taught!

I was thinking about you, and about how you maybe feel like throwing up your hands and shouting “what can I possibly do about this?”

And I was thinking about Stacy, wondering how many times in her twenty-something years she’s gotten the message from our society that somehow, just because of the way she looks, she is wrong, or bad, or “other.”

And, I was thinking about a We Turned Out Okay listener, named Kerri, who wrote back in May (when We Turned out Okay turned two) with a question:
“I would like to know as a white person what I need to do to be sure my children are not contributing to the racism that is hurting so many.”

I recorded this episode to give us – myself, as much as anyone – a roadmap, some steps to take to build a world in which racism has no part.

Four steps, to be exact; four steps we can take to build a world without racism.

Four steps to help you counter the fear and negativity, four steps to help you help your child understand what racism is, and why it needs to die.

Along the way I talk about a whole bunch of stuff, like a favorite Dr. Seuss book, wise words from several friends of the podcast, and child development theory to help you understand your child better.

Click here to read about the four steps to a world without racism and to get links to the people and podcasts and books I reference during the episode – and thank you very much for listening, for not throwing up your hands and concluding there’s nothing you can do.

Because as the parent of a young child, the key to ending racism is in your hands. Continue reading “Bonus: How to feel less helpless about racism, or Building a World Without Racism”