Podcast Episode 197: Making Parenting Problems Disappear with The Family Coach, Dr. Catherine Pearlman

Catherine Pearlman, PHD, LCSW

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This is one conversation I have been SUPER excited to bring you for a really long time!

During my talk with Ignore It! author Dr. Catherine Pearlman, a.k.a. The Family Coach, she answers listener questions, talks about what works to stop bullying, and most importantly comes up with tons of ways that you can curb your child’s bad behavior and REALLY enjoy life with your kids to the fullest.

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Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse

A podcast listener wrote to me recently with a a really good and important question:

“We see all kinds of ways for girls to deal with being assaulted, how to prevent it, how to heal, support groups and the like… How do we teach boys to keep their hands to themselves or what not to say?” She’s got a two-year-old boy and she does not want him to grow up into harasser or an abuser.

I based this episode on the awesome and wonderful responses I got when I asked this listener’s question on my Facebook page.

In today’s episode identify 4 key steps we as parents need to take in order to raise children who both do not grow up to be harassers or abusers, and who successfully resist being harassed or abused.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/196 to see these steps written down, and for key links! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse”

Podcast Episode 195: What to do about endless whining and when they waste food – a Parent-Coaching Call for today’s Your Child Explained Episode

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Today is one of my very favorite kinds of shows, a Parent-Coaching Call with an NPC member!

– – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor’easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic “How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind” mastercourse.
The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll!
If you can’t make it to the modules live, you’ll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom – plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.…
To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – –

In each parent-coaching call, NPC members disclose their struggles and I put my years of experience with young children and degrees in early childhood education and human development/family relations to work, figuring out exactly what steps will help most (and fastest).
It’s an exclusive benefit for members of my private coaching community, and the great thing is that even if you’re not a member, you get answers to mind-bending parenting conundrums as well!

Here are the issues that Jen is seeing with her 5-and 3-year-old daughters:
1) What to do about endless whining, when all the tools in the toolbox have been tried – redirection is not working, making no sound like yes is not working, and her head is about ready to explode?

2) What to do when the girls take one or two bites out of an apple and then want to throw the rest of the apple away, or similar food conundrums, usually having to do with snacks, especially those that “don’t portion out well”

If either of these seems familiar, you are going to LOVE this episode.

NPC members: view the expanded notes and action steps – and read about how Jen did with these issues – by clicking here (just remember you must be logged in to view).
Not a member of the Ninja Parenting Community? Click here.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/195 key links : )

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Podcast Episode 194: “I didn’t have a lot of empathy until I became a mom” – NYT Bestselling Author Joshilyn Jackson is my guest today!

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– – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor’easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic “How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind” mastercourse.
The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll!
If you can’t make it to the modules live, you’ll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom – plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.…
To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – –

Today’s conversation is one of those awesome ones that went in a completely different direction than I had thought it would.
I knew we were going to talk about racism, and parenting, and how New York Times best-selling author Joshilyn Jackson teaches creative writing to prisoners – but when, early on in our conversation, Joshilyn shared “I didn’t have any empathy until I became a mom,” my heart just stopped.

How could that possibly be, I wondered?

And so we raced off into a discussion that will help you understand empathy as a crucial parenting skill, perhaps the most important ninja tactic of all.

You are going to LOVE it.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/194 for key links : )

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Bonus: A New Way to Survive the Social Stuff


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It’s agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life.

You know what I’m talking about:
When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee.
When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied.
When they get broken up with by a friend.
When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you “who could love a face like this?”

If your heart breaks or you feel shellshocked when something like this happens, you are not alone.

I’m offering a new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting.
It’s a new 6-week mastercourse, and it changes everything:

How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself
Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more…

Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast!

The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7…
And you can go to the course’s secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying!

You’ll learn:
– How to help your child navigate the social landscape
– Strategies for helping your child stand up to a bully, deal with sibling rivalry, and gain social confidence and competence
– Why your agony and heartbreak over your child’s struggles may be hurting him or her socially
– How to feel better within yourself while helping your child feel better

Come get started on this new approach right away –
Sign up now!

Podcast Episode 193: How to handle stuff that makes us squirm

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Today, I answer a listener question about how to buckle in a squirming child who doesn’t want to be in a car seat. And then I tackle something that makes us all squirm…

The unhappy social stuff in our kids’ lives.

You know what I’m talking about:
When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee.
When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied.
When they get broken up with by a friend.
When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you “who could love a face like this?”

If your heart breaks – or you feel shellshocked – when something like this happens, you are not alone.

You need to learn about the new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting.
This new 6-week mastercourse changes everything:

How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself
Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more…

Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast!

The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7…
And you can go to the course’s secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying!

Come get started on this new approach right away –
Sign up now!

Find out how to handle squirmy social stuff in today’s episode and go to weturnedoutokay.com/193 for key links.
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Podcast Episode 192: How to diminish your child’s bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Listen to today’s episode for a quick and easy way to cut down on your child’s bad behavior : )

– – – New Course Offering: It’s agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life; getting called a mean name or crybaby; getting “broken up with” by a friend, encountering sibling strife. It upsets us parents because 1) our heart breaks for our beautiful child, and 2) we don’t know what to do to help..
I’m offering something new and different that will create a new opportunity for you:
The Surviving the Social Stuff course. It’s tailored to participants’ needs, so whatever social stuff is going on in your child’s life – THAT’S what you’ll learn how to handle.
It’s super helpful as we get into the high-emotion holidays, with weekly class meetings starting Tuesday, November 7 and running right through into January.
Space is limited!!
So, if you’re struggling with anything social in your child’s life, Click Here to sign up..
Then you’ll be feeling less alone and learning new ways to Survive the Social Stuff! – – –

Click here for more information about the Surviving the Social Stuff course!
(If it’s not clickable yet, it will be soon.)

Registration for this course begins Monday, October 30…

In the meantime Click Here to Sign Up up for the free mini-course on Kids and Sharing!

It’s a small part of the upcoming Surviving the Social Stuff course, but it’ll have a HUGE impact on your parenting because whenever there’s a fight over resources (like toys, or your attention) you’ll have the perfect parent-ninja tactic right in your pocket : )

For key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/192! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 192: How to diminish your child’s bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 191: Helping your kids cope with their fears, and also fostering empathy with avocados – A Conversation with Current Teen & Former Child Jason Kolp

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Each fall as the nights get longer and Halloween gets close, spooky feelings crop up. They can be fun, but for kids these feelings also be downright frightening.

Today I’m excited to bring you my conversation with my youngest, Jason, who remembers well the feeling of being afraid of the dark and shares really great advice for helping your kids cope with their fears.

We talk about all kinds of Halloweeny stuff, and also:
– Einstein’s view of the world
– Why validating a kid’s fears is the gateway to helping them feel less afraid
– Jay’s all-important question:
“How does pretending an avocado is alive show a mastery of empathy?”

… Just to give you an idea of the kind of conversations we have around here : )

Key links, including the one about Surviving the Social Stuff, the course that will help you feel less alone AND help your child navigate scary social waters, at weturnedoutokay.com/191! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 191: Helping your kids cope with their fears, and also fostering empathy with avocados – A Conversation with Current Teen & Former Child Jason Kolp”

Podcast Bonus: #MeToo – Surviving and/or helping your child survive sexual abuse and harassment

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Sexually abused at age 7, I consider myself not a victim, but a survivor.
In today’s bonus episode, brought on by the #MeToo movement, I share the most important tool in my healing – and the conviction that, if you or a loved one has been sexually abused or harassed, there is help and hope for a good life (even a great one).

Click here for key links, and please consider sharing this episode if you feel like it will help somebody in your life feel better. Thanks, and thanks for listening! Continue reading “Podcast Bonus: #MeToo – Surviving and/or helping your child survive sexual abuse and harassment”

Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child

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Given their small stature and relative powerlessness, the idea of something as powerFUL as a gun captivates young children. But in the violent world we live in, their fascination can seem to us morbid and frightening…
All the more so in the wake of mass shootings like the one just a few weeks ago in Las Vegas.
Today’s show gives you concrete ideas about how to raise a nonviolent child in our violent world, and how to feel better if you, like me, share your home with a pint-sized gun enthusiast.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/190;
Click here to get concrete help for the huge and important questions in your parenting, by checking out the Ninja Parenting Community! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child”