Podcast Bonus: #MeToo – Surviving and/or helping your child survive sexual abuse and harassment

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Sexually abused at age 7, I consider myself not a victim, but a survivor.
In today’s bonus episode, brought on by the #MeToo movement, I share the most important tool in my healing – and the conviction that, if you or a loved one has been sexually abused or harassed, there is help and hope for a good life (even a great one).

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Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child

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Given their small stature and relative powerlessness, the idea of something as powerFUL as a gun captivates young children. But in the violent world we live in, their fascination can seem to us morbid and frightening…
All the more so in the wake of mass shootings like the one just a few weeks ago in Las Vegas.
Today’s show gives you concrete ideas about how to raise a nonviolent child in our violent world, and how to feel better if you, like me, share your home with a pint-sized gun enthusiast.

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Podcast Episode 189: Making the Impossible Possible – A Your Child Explained Episode

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In which a coaching client of mine shows me that something I’d always thought to be truly impossible is, in fact, possible.
It brings up the question “what happens to our children when we believe something is impossible?” Alternatively, what happens to them when we believe that something is possible?

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/189;
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Podcast Episode 188: How to thrive in a time of challenges and joys – Dad and 21st Century Creative podcast host Mark McGuinness is my guest today!

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Today’s guest knows that we live in a time where everything around us – the challenges, the technology, changing culture – can seem both terrifying and awesome.

Former psychotherapist and current creativity coach Mark McGuinness teaches how to embrace the awesome, and mitigate the terrifying with his podcast, 21st Century Creative, and today he brings wonderful ideas for you to enjoy more of your parenting in this turbulent time.

Mark also brings something new to We Turned Out Okay: a guest-challenge!
An expert at helping people find time to accomplish their goals, Mark drops the gauntlet, setting YOU a challenge in this episode.
Completing Mark’s challenge not only can help you find time in your life for the things you love, but might just when you a copy of his book, Productivity for Creative People… Three copies of which Mark has graciously offered three lucky WTOO listeners.

Listen to find out what the challenge is, and how to enter the giveaway – which ends Tuesday, October 17, 2017!

To take up the challenge: sometime on or before October 17, 2017, go to weturnedoutokay.com/contact and tell me how you did with Mark’s challenge…

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Podcast Episode 187: Three Ways to Work with Your Child’s Teachers (even in contentious situations)

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In which I identify 5 different ways you might feel about your child and schooling, on a continuum from 1) you knew going into school that your child had issues that impact education, and would need to be addressed to 5) you have no worries about potential issues, and the school reports no problems.
It doesn’t matter which of these five spots on the continuum you occupy – the way to work with your child’s teachers is the same, 3 steps to keep in mind that make every interaction with your child’s caregivers easier.

To read about these three steps and for key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/187.
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Starting to Figure Out the Answers

One unwritten rule we have in our culture is: never ask a woman her age. So I’ll just tell you mine – I’m forty-four… today!

But I’m also just being born. Today, my birthday, is also day one of this website, this blog, this first day of the rest of my (and your) life. What will we do with today?

It’s a pretty big day, and I woke up a little bit early, feeling a little bit worried… What if I did too much with my arms yesterday, and they hurt today as a result? What if somebody’s sick, or the car breaks down? So many what-ifs.

But I have an ace in the hole, a book of days that in the six months I’ve been reading it, has often given me the feeling that the author is reaching across the two decades that have passed since she wrote it, squeezing my hand reassuringly and saying “today’s answer is right here.”

I’ve had some health issues these last years (the About page can tell you more), and they were nearly at their worst when I picked up this book last November. In a day book like this, the idea is that you read a short entry every day, so on November 10, I read the entry “November 10” in the book. And the wild thing is, the first month or so was about coping with setbacks, especially health-related setbacks, and about giving thanks, probably in the lead up to Thanksgiving. I felt like the author was channeling my problems and addressing them. It felt like magic!

And it still does. So this morning when I woke up worrying and thinking my what-ifs, I got myself a cup of coffee, felt grateful for the hug and big smoochie Ben gave me on his way out the door, and sat down with Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach. I knew that Sarah was doing it again when I read the title of today’s entry, Walking as Meditation… I said to myself, for the umpteenth time, “this book is a frigging miracle!” (Only, in slightly stronger language that isn’t fit to print here.)

Maybe it sounds crazy to somebody not into exercise, maybe exercise makes a huge difference in my life because I had the ability to use my legs swiped away from me for a time, but Sarah’s solution became clear with the title. Why hadn’t I thought of it before? “I walk regularly for my soul and my body tags along,” she writes, and that is exactly how I feel too.

Forty-four feels like the right age to be today, like maybe I finally know myself well enough today to consider the tougher parts of life with a little bit of wisdom.

In my own sometimes funny, sometimes tearful, sometimes potty-mouthed way, I feel like I’m just starting to figure out some answers… I hope that you and I can connect and figure out some more together.

Let’s start with a walk.