My darlings, this website is broken. Here’s how you can access the podcast and/or my essays : )

Hello friends! After 6 1/2 years of working beautifully, my website has broken… It looks fine from the outside but its inner workings are, well, not working.

At first it had me tearing my hair out!

Since then, roughly 3 months before I wrote this post, I’ve learned that not only is this not a tragedy, it’s a gentle teacher from the universe.

Instead of hurting my hands and arms and soul, spending my time pursuing things such as “SEO“ or attempting to maintain a website that has become bloated, ungainly, and not representative of what I do anymore…

I am moving!
And all the good stuff is coming with me <3

This move will take some time.

My hope is to have it sorted by the end of the year, so in the meantime I am going to ask for your grace. And your patience.

Please know that in asking you, I am also asking myself for those things… (When I do too much it all goes wrong. But this much is clear: it always seems impossible, until it’s done.)

Throughout this time I am continuing to create both the podcast and the weekly essays!

Here’s where you can listen to the We Turned Out Okay podcast:

Apple Podcasts…


Stitcher Podcasts…

And I have a HUGE surprise for folks who sign up to get my (fun, useful, and completely free) weekly newsletter!

Beginning in October 2020 I am releasing a We Turned Out Okay Playbook, completely free of charge, to each and every newsletter subscriber!

That’s a $50 value every month for FREE.
In addition to the fun stories, tools, and ideas I share weekly in each essay.

I’ll release them each month in this way- for newsletter subscribers – at least through the end of 2022.

Why? Because the Playbook is awesome and I want to give you a chance to play!

Go here to join the fun:

Wishing you a wonderful start to the learning year, an autumn filled with every good thing, and a restful wrapping-up of this… interesting, let’s call it… year.



What I’m really doing while I am knitting

For months I have been knitting a pair of socks. Last fall I wrote about my current sock dilemma (which you can read about here.)

In a nutshell the sock dilemma is this:
I can no longer get my favorite merino wool socks. Not only were they affordable, they were warm, they fit right, and they came in all sorts of lovely and fun colors and patterns.

So this winter I tried hard to conserve them. Instead of wearing them on a chilly day I found myself putting on my summertime ankle-high socks. And then I’d be cold and crotchety.

Here’s what I wrote about the sock situation last fall:

“I’m finding that I don’t want to wear the socks that I have, because I don’t want to wear them out.
So even on the coldest days I am putting on those summertime ankle-high socks, depriving myself of the warmth that the 80% merino wool, wonderful wintertime socks give.
Out of fear.” Continue reading “What I’m really doing while I am knitting”

345.5: September School Successes!

Hi Friends! Today I’m talking about some successes we’ve seen both with a coaching client, and here at home : )

Aaaaand… the WTOO Book Club starts up September 16, this coming Wednesday (if you’re seeing this in real time)!

<————– Current WTOO Book Club Book!

I’m sharing the book we will be discussing, and how to join!
(Which is: Go to to get our Book Club meetings for free – as part of your first 30 days Free – in the Ninja Parenting Community, which is where the WTOO Book Club now lives : )

I am SUPER excited to spend some quality time together, talk about what’s really on your mind right now as a parent, and learn along with you.


Karen Lock Kolp M.Ed.
Child Development Expert, Parent Coach

Host of the We Turned Out Okay Podcast, helping parents of young children change kids’ behavior from bad to good; feel happy inside; and truly enjoy family time

Publisher of the monthly We Turned Out Okay Playbook, teaching simple, powerful tools to help parents feel in control of family life, and happy inside

Author of 3 parenting books including Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, written to help parents “keep calm and handle every temper tantrum”

The quote I live by: “The opposite of play is not work. It is depression.” – Brian Sutton-Smith

NPC Summer Camp FAQs – Registration closes Thursday 7/2!

I am excited, I’ve spent the morning planning NPC Summer Camp!

For six weeks starting this coming Friday 6/26, I’m offering this program, and I would love for you to be part of it! (Registration closes Thursday 7/2 : )

I’ve decided the theme is going to be “Cool to be Kind”… NPC Summer Camp will have a kindness component. Some weeks we will go on “kindness adventures,” as Audrey Monke talks about in her book Happy Campers, where we’ll practice random acts of kindness, and involve our kiddos.

And our campfire nights will focus on handling unkindness in our own families, and bringing more kindness into the world.

I think this is really what we need at the moment, both to help in the wider world and to enjoy our time at home with our young ones.

Below are some frequently asked questions about the Ninja Parenting Community and the Summer Camp program. I hope you’ll consider joining!

FAQs about the Ninja Parenting Community, and NPC Summer Camp:

1. How will this program and community help me?

Many parents – especially parents of young children – are experiencing never-before-seen challenges during the pandemic.
If you are exhausted, feel like you can’t go on, are engaging in numbing behaviors to get through the day, feel like all of your patience is gone, you’re certainly not alone!

NPC, and Summer Camp, are designed to exactly help someone in these situations.

In our forums you’ll find:
– An entire course on “how to keep going when you’re exhausted”
– A supportive and loving community, where members feel “seen and heard”
– A whole summer’s worth of fun and helpful activities, specifically designed to help you thrive (because that’s the only way you’ll be able to help your kiddos thrive)
– Lots of ways for you to live IN these tough times, so that you can live through them

2. Is it just for parents of little kids?

We’ve got members with kids ranging in age from babies, all the way on up to age 12.
So much of raising kids is the mindset that we parents bring to it. You’re the same person, whether your child is a toddler or a tween.
Our children challenge us at every age; NPC can help regardless of how old your child is.

3. I’m a technophobe… What if I can’t login? Or navigate around once I’m in the Forums?

I am there to help every step of the way! (And I am a technophobe as well… So I know exactly where you’re coming from : )
NPC works great on your home computer, laptop, tablet or phone.
And I’ve just gone through a redesign of the forums, so there even simpler to navigate and find what you’re looking for quickly.

4. What if I can’t be at the community’s live events?

It’s great fun when you can, but not a problem if you can’t!
Many people never make it to our twice monthly live members only calls, and they are thriving in the community.
All the courses and challenges are recorded and waiting for you in the Forums; when members ask a question in the Forums, responses are in NPC permanently, always available for you to get help from.

Also, I specifically planned NPC Summer Camp without any live components, so that you can enjoy participating regardless of your time zone or schedule.

NPC is fun, it’s supportive, it’s a way to connect with other parents and enjoy community…
All while becoming a better and happier parent.

Join now so that you can live IN this crazy summer… Click here to register for NPC and our Summer Camp program!


PS Click the link below for details and to join:

Hope to see you at NPC Summer Camp!

Weekly intentions, and a career counselor for Day 5 of OkayCon 2020!

Happy Monday!

FYI: In case you’re struggling to keep track of what day of the week it is… Today and every Monday while we are all spending so much more time at home and out of our normal routine I’m sharing something that always keeps me on track: my weekly intentions.

Each week I determine what I’m going to focus on on a Monday, and then on Friday I look back at how I did.
And during the pandemic I’m bringing you in on that process!

Here’s what I’m focusing on this week:

1. To take 4 walks.
Being outside has proven one of the most important factors in my mental well-being since the social distancing began. Any less than four walks in a week, and I notice lower feelings. So at least four walks this week for me : )

2. To celebrate my birthday.
My birthday is this Thursday! I just think there is something super special about birthdays, and no matter how old I get I still look forward to mine with the same enthusiasm as I did when I was 10 or 12.
This year I plan to do something completely out of the ordinary, while maintaining the pandemic protocols we all must observe now to be safe and to keep others safe: I’m having a “social-distance-walk-party” with my best buddies in the whole world. (Coincidentally, I knew them when I was celebrating those early birthdays too! You can hear from them, discussing the unplanned adventures that life has thrown at them and what they’ve done with those unplanned adventures, by going to
Also, my husband and sons are making me a small birthday cake, so that I can enjoy the pants off that yummy treat on my birthday, but then it’s over and done with the next day. I don’t have to feel guilty about consuming like five pieces of cake. I get to truly enjoy one delicious piece 🙂
Finally, I am planning an extended list that day of “what I’m grateful for.”
I have so much. I’m just so lucky.
It can be really easy to forget the good things, when we are caught up in so much strife and worry.
But I believe that remembering all the good things is our most important asset in times of trouble.
(I did a recent podcast about that, this link to check it out: To kick off the “Happy – (Not-Just-Sheltering) – in Place” NPC challenge.
In the private coaching practice that I run, called the Ninja Parenting Community, members and I will kick off this challenge on my birthday!We’re starting with a live members-only call, where I’ll share the first “challenge” within the challenge.
These are each nonstressful, bite-size things we can implement to feel more in control of our family lives… In this time when nothing feels like it is truly within our control.

So, those are my goals for the week.
What are yours?

To share your weekly intentions just hit reply to this email!

Today is Day 5 of OkayCon 2020!

Feedback I’m getting is that each day so far has been super helpful, for many of you. That’s why I did it – I wanted to bring you something for free, something that would help you get through this crazy time. If it’s resonating, thank you so much for letting me know!
(All the guests and presentations are gathered together for you at

Today I’m thrilled to bring you my conversation with career counselor Kathleen Sullivan!
Kathleen teaches us:
– the mindset necessary when starting a job search
– great ideas for using LinkedIn in your job search
– how to talk with your child about a layoff

Click here to visit the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, where Kathleen’s presentation is up and ready for you to watch, and where we are having a watch party this evening at 8 PM EST!

My goal is that you don’t have to feel alone during this stressful time.

I want to bring you conversations that are helpful, fun, and supportive, and I really hope that it helps you through this time!

We will get through this together <3

I hope you will join us in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group at 8 PM EST for the watch party! Stay tuned for a reminder, a little more toward evening, about that.


PS – NPC members: click here for our most recent live members-only call! In it I teach a ninja tactic that is extremely helpful during this challenging time!

If you’re not yet a member, but you are feeling isolated right now, become a member of my online coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC for short).
You’ll be together with other parents – and me – working toward the goals of good behavior from kids and happiness at home.
Click here to become a member – at the special “First Aid for Parents” rate!

OkayCon 2020 FREE Virtual Summit starts tomorrow : )

Hey friends! I hope everyone you love is doing okay. And if you’re going a little stir crazy, I hope I can help!

I’ve been working hard behind the scenes to put together a Virtual Summit, bringing you the best ideas, from experts in their fields, to help you through this double pandemic – of Covid 19, and Fear.

So! Each Monday and Wednesday at during April 2020 I’m releasing presentations by experts in:
– Children’s behavior
– Home and family security
– Helping children through this time
– How to find a job if you’ve been laid off
– and lots more!

Each Monday and Wednesday I’m posting the presentation at, and simulcasting in YouTube and Facebook.

And each Monday and Wednesday evening at 8 PM EST we’re having a watch party in the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group – click here to join our group (and use that link to invite anyone you think needs a boost!)

Click to get notified automagically about the presentation for that day, and the watch party for that night!

I know this is a scary time. It’s scary for me too! But we will get through this together.

I’m so grateful for you, and I am hopeful that I can bring you some help and support right now.

Cheers and I’ll see you each Monday and Wednesday (starting tomorrow!) in April for OkayCon 2020 <3


Getting through tough times together: coronavirus update 2

This morning I had an anxiety attack just as I was waking up. It started with simply hearing the text tone that my phone is set to, for when my husband texts… I’m traveling and had a tremendous wave of fear, anxiety, and homesickness, just hearing my husband’s text (which was not catastrophic at all… It was about the link to a recipe that he wanted to make : )
I made a video for you, and also wrote a cheat sheet of the ways that I am finding to feel better, stay positive, and alleviate anxiety (Click the video link just below, and scroll down just below that video link for the cheat sheet : )

I thought you might also be having more heightened anxiety than usual, and so I hope this is helpful for you!

Cliff Notes for what I am doing to stay positive:

1. I am using a breathing technique called 478, that I originally learned from Dr. Andrew Weil, and that was recently highlighted for me by licensed mental health counselor and beloved guest/podcast sponsor Janine Halloran of I teach that breathing method in this video.

2. Doing something that I talk a lot about in the Ninja Parenting Community: focusing on what is right in front of me rather than envisioning awfulness down the road. I think this was probably the most helpful thing!

3. I’m focusing on being a helper, with my family, within my community, and also focusing on helping my children be helpers… Kids fare far better when we make them part of the team.

4. I’m spending less time on a screen. And trying to make that time not so much about all the latest awful headlines but about fun and funny stuff, videos, Memes, etc.

5 Finally, I share some of the things that my dearest friends are doing to stay positive, even while confined with family.

I hope it’s helpful!

Karen of

PS this is the second in a series I’m doing on how to stay sane in the time of coronavirus – go to to get notified of the next update : )

319.5: Why are kids so clingy? 5 case studies to help you handle your clingy child

What do you do when:
– Your six-year-old witnessed a traumatic event, and is so traumatized that he feels he can never be away from your side
– Your four-year-old “really misses mommy and daddy” and cannot enjoy his enrichment class
– You fear your three-year-old’s “declining independence,” because she increasingly needs you by her side as she is going potty, getting dressed, and going to sleep at night
– Your seven-year-old is afraid to be alone in the upstairs of your house, while you are downstairs
– Your 11-year-old is feeling anxious about getting separated while skiing

Each of these situations come up in today’s Live Case Study…
Join us and find out how to handle each!

PS – 50% off the annual Ninja Parenting Community rate

NPC member BabyBrain worried about her daughter’s fear of being alone in any room in their new house – so, she asked for help.
And I created an entire course on handling your child’s clingy behavior.
This course is a drop in the bucket of all the resources available for you there, to help you enjoy family time more.

This Leap Year, take the leap – 50% off Annual NPC membership!

Jump into the Ninja Parenting Community and start enjoying family life for real!
Click here for details, and to join at this amazing rate!

The following links come up in today’s Case Study:

My conversation with Dr. Laura Markham in episode 255 of the We Turned Out Okay podcast,

Some fantastic downloads by Dr. Deborah MacNamara, including one about “what kids worry about at different ages”

The link where you can learn more about how to work closely with me, solving your biggest parenting challenges to get you feeling happy inside yourself and also enjoying family time:

Cheers! And thanks for watching/listening!
Karen Lock Kolp, M.Ed.


Helping parents change kids’ behavior from bad to good, feel happy inside, and TRULY enjoy family time : )

When your child is disrespectful

This is the final installment in my series on “Kids gone sideways.” Click here for last week’s about handling your child’s temper tantrums (and why tantrums are developmentally necessary in the first place.)

Has this ever happened to you?

“Yesterday evening there was one typical example. We had just arrived home, were unbuckling and gathering our items so we could exit the car, and I reminded her to bring her backpack. She suddenly sounded offended and said “I *KNOW* Mom!”
I felt annoyed that she was so rude, started questioning myself about whether I should have reminded her and then mad that I’m letting this tiny human make me question something I know is perfectly acceptable!
I’m unsure what to say that won’t escalate into a power struggle and so I say nothing immediately. As she grabbed her backpack I said “ you need to speak respectfully to me.” She ignored me and kept moving into the house.

I fear that this way of relating to each other will become a well-worn path, where she’s disrespectful, I call her on it, and she shrugs me off.

I’m feeling the importance of looking for something I can do that she won’t shrug off.

I guess that’s why I was asking for consequences I could impose.
But at the same time I know she needs to internalize her own reasons to be respectful; my expectations and my consequences won’t be enough for her.”
That was one ninja parent, a mom who had been frustrated for years with her daughter’s disrespect.

From these frustrated beginnings, this mom has mastered (and taught others in the community) a new ninja tactic!

Continue reading “When your child is disrespectful”

A formula for handling every temper tantrum

(FYI: If the start of preschool (or the return to childcare) feels especially daunting this year, you are not alone! Starting this Thursday 7/23 I’m offering a FREE, 4-day Challenge featuring simple yet powerful tools you can use to get through this time. Click below to sign up : )

Join the Pandemic Back-To-School Challenge


NPC member Jen, with her two daughters.

Recently on the We Turned Out Okay podcast, I interviewed long time coaching client and Ninja Parenting Community member Jen.

Jen is the mom of 2 kids, 7-year-old and 4-year-old daughters.

When we sat down together to chat, Jen shared how she used to feel: “I didn’t feel like I had control over the direction our family was going.”

It was her work in our private coaching community that gave her that control.

As part of NPC membership, everyone gets access to e-copies of my parenting books; Jen references the first one, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics, as super helpful.

In our conversation we discuss one particular part of the book, the HEART formula for handling every temper tantrum.

Here is that formula in a nutshell: Continue reading “A formula for handling every temper tantrum”