Month: June 2017

Podcast Episode 166: Tell Don’t Ask – A Ninja Tactic That Really Works

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Have you ever had it happen where you’re asking your child to do something, and he or she is saying “no”?

Depending on your child’s age or developmental maturity level, I bet you hear that word – “no” – an awful lot.

Today’s ninja tactic digs into one way to cut down on the noes!

It’s all about giving kids directives instead of asking, which sounds simple but in reality can be pretty complicated: when do we give them choices, ask questions, and when is it time to give a directive and communicate to them that “this is not a choice”?

Click weturnedoutokay.com/166 for show notes and key links to this episode! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 166: Tell Don’t Ask – A Ninja Tactic That Really Works” →

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Podcast Episode 165: When Kids Want the Same Stuff Again and Again (and Again…) – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Why do kids want everything repeated, again and again?

One member of the Ninja Parenting Community might be channeling your thoughts right now: “Oh why do little kids obsess over certain movies? I have been putting Monsters Versus Aliens on every day for a month. What is going on those little brains that makes them demand the same movie so often for so long?”

Kids do this all the time… and not just with movies, they do it with books, and stories, and music, too.

In this Your Child Explained, we dig into why, exactly what’s happening in “those little brains” that makes them want everything repeated endlessly.

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Podcast Episode 164: Turning Parenting Mistakes Into Successes – Karen is the guest in today’s Guest Episode!

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Normally, in a We Turned Out Okay guest episode, it’s me doing the interviewing… but today that format gets turned on its head!

Recently the gentleman behind the Blessing Not Stressing podcast, Rob Broadhead, invited me onto his show. He’s such a great interviewer and the idea behind the show is such a lovely one that of course I said “yes please” – and as we spoke I knew I wanted you to be able to listen in as well.

Rob splits his conversations into several episodes; on this WTOO episode today we’re bringing you the middle two, “School of Hard Knocks” and “Mistakes and Forgiveness.”

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/164 for links to both the first and final portions of my conversation with Rob. I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation as much as I enjoyed participating in it! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 164: Turning Parenting Mistakes Into Successes – Karen is the guest in today’s Guest Episode!” →

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Podcast Episode 163: Change what your kiddos play with, get happier kids!

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These last several Just You and Me episodes have been about important stuff: being happier at home, having well-behaved children in public, helping kids resolve their own conflicts.

They’ve each hinged on one particular idea: that the toys kids play with and what’s in their environment, can really change their behavior. (Head back to episodes 154, 157, and 160 for the rest of the “Loose Parts” series.)

Today’s episode is about how to actually make these changes – without spending much, if any, money and without driving yourself bananas at the same time…

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/163 for key links and the promised free PDF of what to bring in to replace all those 1-trick toys that you’re tripping all over at home! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 163: Change what your kiddos play with, get happier kids!” →

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Podcast Episode 162: When Praise Is Harmful to Children – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Do you tell your kids how beautiful they are, or how smart they are? This past Tuesday’s conversation with Nicole Gardner reminded me once more how dangerous praise – at least the wrong kind of praise – is.

Read the show notes for today’s episode, about how to make sure you’re giving the right kind of praise (and not the harmful kind of praise) by clicking the link below…

You’ll also find an installment of my new YouTube video series, Parents Time-Out, that addresses this issue as well – if you’ve only got a few minutes, but you want to understand how praise can hurt, the video is the place to start.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/162 to check it out, and have a great day! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 162: When Praise Is Harmful to Children – A Your Child Explained Episode” →

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Podcast Episode 161: How Children Reach Their Potential – A Conversation with Educator Nicole Gardner

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Recently I attended a presentation about all the key stuff happening in our kids’ brains, in which today’s guest, Nicole Gardner of the Bezos Family Foundation, shared research, stories, and ideas that resonated so deeply with me, I knew I needed to get her on the show.

I learned that:
– babies’ brains create millions – millions! – of new neurons every second
– young kids are all set to learn what they need to know, they come equipped with the best educational tools built-in
– the single most important learning tool they need from their environment: trusted adults

Today’s conversation dives into raising kids in the best possible environment, taking advantage of the science around this subject and really cultivating a great relationship with our kids – something we want anyway, right?

Click weturnedoutokay.com/161 for show notes and key links, including to a really cool app for parents, the Daily Vroom!

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