Podcast Episode 195: What to do about endless whining and when they waste food – a Parent-Coaching Call for today’s Your Child Explained Episode

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Today is one of my very favorite kinds of shows, a Parent-Coaching Call with an NPC member!

– – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor’easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic “How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind” mastercourse.
The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll!
If you can’t make it to the modules live, you’ll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom – plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.…
To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – –

In each parent-coaching call, NPC members disclose their struggles and I put my years of experience with young children and degrees in early childhood education and human development/family relations to work, figuring out exactly what steps will help most (and fastest).
It’s an exclusive benefit for members of my private coaching community, and the great thing is that even if you’re not a member, you get answers to mind-bending parenting conundrums as well!

Here are the issues that Jen is seeing with her 5-and 3-year-old daughters:
1) What to do about endless whining, when all the tools in the toolbox have been tried – redirection is not working, making no sound like yes is not working, and her head is about ready to explode?

2) What to do when the girls take one or two bites out of an apple and then want to throw the rest of the apple away, or similar food conundrums, usually having to do with snacks, especially those that “don’t portion out well”

If either of these seems familiar, you are going to LOVE this episode.

NPC members: view the expanded notes and action steps – and read about how Jen did with these issues – by clicking here (just remember you must be logged in to view).
Not a member of the Ninja Parenting Community? Click here.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/195 key links : )

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Podcast Episode 192: How to diminish your child’s bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Listen to today’s episode for a quick and easy way to cut down on your child’s bad behavior : )

– – – New Course Offering: It’s agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life; getting called a mean name or crybaby; getting “broken up with” by a friend, encountering sibling strife. It upsets us parents because 1) our heart breaks for our beautiful child, and 2) we don’t know what to do to help..
I’m offering something new and different that will create a new opportunity for you:
The Surviving the Social Stuff course. It’s tailored to participants’ needs, so whatever social stuff is going on in your child’s life – THAT’S what you’ll learn how to handle.
It’s super helpful as we get into the high-emotion holidays, with weekly class meetings starting Tuesday, November 7 and running right through into January.
Space is limited!!
So, if you’re struggling with anything social in your child’s life, Click Here to sign up..
Then you’ll be feeling less alone and learning new ways to Survive the Social Stuff! – – –

Click here for more information about the Surviving the Social Stuff course!
(If it’s not clickable yet, it will be soon.)

Registration for this course begins Monday, October 30…

In the meantime Click Here to Sign Up up for the free mini-course on Kids and Sharing!

It’s a small part of the upcoming Surviving the Social Stuff course, but it’ll have a HUGE impact on your parenting because whenever there’s a fight over resources (like toys, or your attention) you’ll have the perfect parent-ninja tactic right in your pocket : )

For key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/192! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 192: How to diminish your child’s bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 189: Making the Impossible Possible – A Your Child Explained Episode

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In which a coaching client of mine shows me that something I’d always thought to be truly impossible is, in fact, possible.
It brings up the question “what happens to our children when we believe something is impossible?” Alternatively, what happens to them when we believe that something is possible?

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/189;
Click here to learn more about the Ninja Parenting Community, if you’re at your wit’s end with your child, and need some help making the impossible become possible! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 189: Making the Impossible Possible – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 186: When you are just. So. Worried. – A Your Child Explained Episode

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In which we talk about how, when we are so worried, we can also feel simultaneously frozen and stuck – and, when we feel that way, the effect on our kids is devastating.

Sign up for round 2 of the Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge (which you know you want to if weekday mornings are, well, challenging : ) and for key links to today’s episode by going to weturnedoutokay.com/186.

Click here to find out more about the Ninja Parenting Community, the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day. Continue reading “Podcast Episode 186: When you are just. So. Worried. – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 183: How Your Attitude about Youth Sports Affects Your Child (A Your Child Explained Episode)

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With fall youth sports in full swing, I wanted to share something ugly that I witnessed last spring: a dad berating his young son, after the boy and his fellow teammates took a real drubbing, losing a soccer game big-time.

In this empathy-lacking, divisive grown-up-up world, what kids learn on the soccer field seems more important and relevant than ever before; listen to today’s show to find out how a parent’s attitude makes or breaks a child.

Click here to sign up for the upcoming Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge, which I’m bringing back for a second round because the first one was so effective and helpful for parents…

And go to weturnedoutokay.com/183 for key links to this episode! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 183: How Your Attitude about Youth Sports Affects Your Child (A Your Child Explained Episode)”

Podcast Episode 180: The Dangers of Overscheduling – A Your Child Explained Episode

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It’s the beginning of the school year, if you’re listening in real time, and thus the time of year where we are all figuring out new routines, new bus routes, new sports schedules and after-school activities… Definitely a time where we can feel overwhelmed.

Today’s show answers Shelley’s question: “what are the hazards of overscheduling my kids?”

The way I see it, there are two big hazards in overscheduling.

It’s worth, whether at the beginning of the school year or whenever you hear this, understanding the dangers in putting too many items on our children’s schedules.

Only then can we understand the potential damage we’re doing, and begin to figure out how to reduce the overscheduling.

Today’s episode outlines the 2 big hazards in overscheduling, so hit play and listen in!

Please note: if you’re feeling overwhelmed about school day morning chaos, the Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge starts in less than a week! Registration closes on Sunday, September 3, so sign up for this FREE challenge now. (9/3/17: Click Here for the Waitlist.)
The challenge includes an email in your inbox outlining a step you can take to calm the overwhelm and streamline your mornings every day from Monday, September 4 through Friday, September 8. On that day you’ll also have access to my Facebook live, back-to-school Ask Me Anything, happening in the private We Turned Out Okay Facebook group.

For notes from today’s show, for key links, and to sign up for the free Streamline Your Mornings 5-Day Challenge go to weturnedoutokay.com/180! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 180: The Dangers of Overscheduling – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 177: Ever Tempted to Spank Your Child? Here’s Something that Works Better. (A Your Child Explained Episode)

If you need a life preserver, today’s episode is for you.

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“My wife doesn’t want me to spank them, I get it – I don’t want to either but what else can I do?” These words come from a listener’s email, a desperate plea to figure out how to discipline kids and keep order during the daily grind.

This listener goes on to say “I got spanked, and turned out okay… I got more than spanked to tell you the truth, and I know what the constant barrage of words being screamed at me feels like. To be honest, I’d rather have had the spanking.”

This listener deftly identifies two things that do not work with kids:
1) a “constant barrage of words”
2) spanking.

So, what do you do instead?

Listen to this episode to find out!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/177 for key links. Continue reading “Podcast Episode 177: Ever Tempted to Spank Your Child? Here’s Something that Works Better. (A Your Child Explained Episode)”

Podcast Episode 174: Feeling Responsible for Our Kids’ Bad Behavior, The Dreaded “No!” and Other Tough Parenting Conundrums in this Your Child Explained Episode

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It’s time for NPC member Jen’s parent-coaching call, and it’s a doozy: Jen was feeling guilty about being “responsible” for getting her kids into situations where they were overtired and/or frustrated. She took their misbehavior as her fault, and in this episode I help her figure out a more productive way to frame the situation.

We also dig in to several other issues, and by helping Jen resolve them on-air, I also get to help you figure out what to do when:

  • Your child screams “no!” In those moments when you need her to do what you’re asking her to do instead of what she wants to do.
  • You’re trying to figure out how far to push your child in interacting with strangers.

Listen to this episode for detailed answers; to read my suggestions and check out the key links for this episode, go to weturnedoutokay.com/174… Enjoy the show!

The bottom line on who’s responsible for the children’s behavior, even when they are overtired and/or frustrated… It’s the children who are responsible for their own behavior. Always, even when they’ve been dragged into a situation that isn’t ideal.

When you think about how many times, as a grown-up, you feel stuck in a frustrating situation, sometimes when you haven’t had enough sleep – chances are good that you don’t turn to the person behind you in line and say something mean, or start an argument with them (I hope not : )

Even when we know it’s our fault, we need to hold children to the expectation that ultimately they are responsible for their own behavior. The earlier we do this, the better they get at it.

When they scream “no”:
During our conversation, Jen made a discovery – her daughter only screams like this when it’s time to finish up, very specifically, with screen time. Armed with this knowledge, we discuss how she can make this particular transition go more smoothly.

When they’re not friendly to strangers:
I share the problems that can crop up when parents insist on their children “saying hello” or thank you to people whom the children don’t know.

We discuss ways to model “friendliness with strangers,” and how much more effective it is to give our kids time and space to get comfortable before interacting in their own way.

Key Links:

Are you worrying about the insanity of back-to-school time? Join WTOO’s Streamline Your Mornings challenge, where we’ll spend five days in early September making your mornings better! Click the Streamline Your Mornings Challenge picture in the sidebar to the right for details.(9/3/17: Click Here for the Waitlist, so you’ll know immediately when I offer this challenge again.)

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Podcast Episode 171: When Your Kids Only Want Snacks – A Listener Q&A for this Your Child Explained episode

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We’re sticking with the food theme this week, today addressing listener Tim’s concerns about kids and food:

“Why are my toddlers not eating fruits/vegetables? Why are they only eating snacks (cereal, popcorn, Lunchables, grrrrrr)?”

In March of 2016 I made the whole month about food – how to handle picky eaters, how to prepare food without going bankrupt or spending hours in the kitchen – I even created a Guide to Food and Family, with recipes and food hacks, which you’ll find in the sidebar at weturnedoutokay.com!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/171 to listen and to read about my responses to Tim’s questions (and thank you, Tim, for asking : ) Continue reading “Podcast Episode 171: When Your Kids Only Want Snacks – A Listener Q&A for this Your Child Explained episode”