“Is it shyness or bad manners?” 12 Ways to handle your child’s stranger anxiety | Podcast Episode 254

HEADS UP: At the top of the show, we say we’re going to tell you if we go into PG-13 territory. In the second half of this episode, I share about being sexually abused at age 7. You may want to listen away from your littles, or with headphones.

“Is it shyness or bad manners?” When a member of our private coaching community asked this question during a live members-only call recently, I knew I needed to get you a show about handling stranger anxiety.

We’ve got 12 ways for you to handle your child’s stranger anxiety… and we talk about how stranger anxiety isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

I hope this is a helpful episode as you head into the holiday season, and your young child is meeting lots of new people!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two wonderful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are quick-and-effective.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/254 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 12 ways to handle stranger anxiety
  • Links to the articles I quote from today
  • The link to the WTOO Facebook page where Wednesday 12/12 I’m doing a Facebook live Ask Me Anything to kick off the launch of my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out today!!
  • The video of the week: “My child is anxious around new people”

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading ““Is it shyness or bad manners?” 12 Ways to handle your child’s stranger anxiety | Podcast Episode 254″

Ask the child development experts! Your questions answered on today’s Your Child Explained Episode | Podcast Episode 248

This time of year, kids have lots of opportunity to misbehave. This episode gives you tools to get good behavior from your littles, enjoy regular family time – and extended-family time too.

I am SO excited to bring you today’s show!
I have good friend and colleague, Tricia Tomaso, a veteran preschool teacher and holder of a master’s degree in special education.
And she has graciously agreed to come on the show and answer YOUR questions.

So! Today we take questions on:
– What to do if your child hits you, especially repeatedly
– How to handle it if you are a relatively low energy parent, and your child is a high-energy kid
– If you’re worried that you are overinvolved with your kids
– And more!

Buckle in, this is a really fun and useful ride today!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/248 for:

    • A summary of each “ask the expert” question and answer
    • What’s up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
Today’s show is all about getting to moments like this, where everybody is smiling.
  • The video of the week: “I’m exhausted from doing too much for my kid”

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “Ask the child development experts! Your questions answered on today’s Your Child Explained Episode | Podcast Episode 248”

Helping your child understand money – A Your Child Explained Episode (podcast episode 217)

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We live in a complicated world, financially speaking, which can seem completely shrouded in mystery to us parents – never mind the kids!

What with credit cards, bitcoin, Apple pay, swiping, tapping, and sliding, the value of an actual dollar can get completely lost.

And how does a child’s wants and needs fit in with money? How should we expose our kids to financial understanding – with a salary? With an allowance? With exchanging chores for cash?

It’s confusing enough to make your head spin. Which is why today’s episode is so helpful.

It’s all about how to help your child understand this substance that makes the world go round!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/217 for key links, including to a couple of fantastic books to help you wrap your own head around how to help your child understand money…. Thanks for listening! Continue reading “Helping your child understand money – A Your Child Explained Episode (podcast episode 217)”

A Counterintuitive Positive Discipline Ninja Tactic for Today’s Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 214)

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“I HATE to yell at you… But you make me do it. It’s your fault.”
Recently, I spoke with a mom who said that she tells her kids this all the time.

Do you ever feel like this, when your child is giving you crazy attitude ?

Or when your child is whining, or picks a fight with a sibling over absolutely nothing at all?

In short, do you ever feel like you cannot take your child’s bad, embarrassing behavior for one more second?

If so, today’s episode gives you a ninja tactic that will completely change this dynamic!

If you really care about stopping your children’s annoying behavior before it starts, and you really care about not flying off the handle with them… Today’s episode shows you how to do it.

Listen in to find out how to do it right!

 

3 Secrets of Happy Parenting:

You know that fear and dread that you feel can about spending time with your young child?

Those hours that drag on, when paradoxically it feels like there is so much to do but also the minutes just creep by, super slowly, moment by agonizing moment?

I am excited to share the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting, which give you the power to overcome that fear and dread and truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids.

Learn these 3 Secrets in my Live, Online Class

So, I know in this episode I say “the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Minicourse is all ready for you!”
Life interfered this time: I got bronchitis and I’m still recovering…

But what IS ready: the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Live, Online Class!

The Minicourse is still in production, but in the meantime learn these three secrets while connecting with me live!

By the end of this live, online 40-minute class, you’ll know how to make the time you spend with your kids really enjoyable time.

Click the link below for details and to register:
weturnedoutokay.com/secrets

Other key links over at weturnedoutokay.com/214
Thank you so much for listening : ) Continue reading “A Counterintuitive Positive Discipline Ninja Tactic for Today’s Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 214)”

Podcast Episode 211: How to Beat the Winter Blahs – A Your Child Explained Episode

Welcome!

Learn exactly how to handle every “Jedi mind trick” your kids toss at you, shout less, and be truly happy at home:

Click here to join the FREE Friendly Mirror 5-Day Challenge!

To listen to today’s show, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

Today we’ve got help for you, if you’re feeling extremely cooped up in these dark months of the year (for the northern hemisphere, anyway)!

I went to the members of the Ninja Parenting Community and the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group to find out how they beat the winter blahs…

This episode is a compendium of their best ideas!
Thank you everyone who contributed, there were some new ones in here that even I didn’t know about : )

Key links – including the sign-up for the upcoming FREE Friendly Mirror Challenge – at weturnedoutokay.com/211 – thank you for listening! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 211: How to Beat the Winter Blahs – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 204: Burned out? So am I. Here’s what to do. (A Your Child Explained Episode for Part 3 of the 2017 Holiday Survival Guide)

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On the day I recorded this episode, late last week in real time, I had a moment, at about 10 AM, where I realized I ought to be in about three different places… All at exactly 10 AM.

That’s when my heart started racing.

Then, when I looked around my home and realized all that still wasn’t quite done, or not even started yet… and then I realized I was still in my pajamas… The complete and total futility of the season slammed into my brain.

As I’ve often said on the show, that was “Mom Karen” – Time to go and get some advice from Podcast Karen!

So, I dropped everything and recorded this show about dealing with burnout.

And I just want to give a special thanks in here for thirteen-year-old Jason Kolp (who shares great advice about how to help children with their fears, back in episode 193). He’s the one who really helped me figure out what to focus on first.

He told me to go and help you, which is exactly what I did.

I hope this episode helps you, as much as it helped Mom Karen : )

For a quickie breakdown of the three steps to alleviating burnout, plus key links and to watch the video I made about handling holiday kid craziness, go to weturnedoutokay.com/204. Happy listening!

Burned out? Here are my three steps to alleviating burnout:

1) RECOGNIZE that it’s burnout… This one still gets me at some times of the year. Recognition is the first step to repair.

2) Pare your to do list down to the absolute essentials… You can’t pour from an empty cup. People will understand this – and if they don’t, they were never very good friends, anyway.

3) Do something FUN.… What’s fun for you? Does it involve children, or is it something you do all by yourself? Is it a date with your honey? Whatever it is, make time for it. This will be easier after you have accomplished 2).

Key Links:

KJ Dell’Antonia of the #AmWriting with Jess and KJ Podcast came on the show Tuesday; click here to listen back to our conversation!

Click here for Gretchen Rubin’s awesome new book, The Four Tendencies. I am a questioner; which one are you?

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

Join the private WTOO Facebook group, for weekly Facebook lives and more! Click here!

Click here to check out We Turned Out Okay’s How-to Videos menu tab, to learn about how to help your kids eat more fruits and vegetables, how to help them learn to read, and more!

Click here to find out more about the Ninja Parenting Community, the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day.

If you love the show, please rate and review us in Apple Podcasts… That’s how so many people find us. Click here to rate/review, and thanks so much!

Podcast Episode 201: Helping Kids Manage Even The Biggest Feelings – A Your Child Explained Conversation With Mental Health Counselor Janine Halloran

Today’s guest is a true play specialist.

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

In today’s episode with 3-time returning champion Janine Halloran, the conversation goes in all kinds of useful directions, many of which I did not see coming!

Listen to learn more about:
– Big Feelings, the ones Janine says “feel like you can’t contain them in your body”
– How to stop engaging in the all-too-common and dangerous parenting ploy, “positively invalidating” our kids’ feelings
– Whether your young child is lucky, or unlucky, in the expression of feelings (and the HUGE difference this can make in a child’s life)

The Handle the Holidays FREE 5-Day Challenge, designed to help you cut through the BS and really enjoy this time of year, starts in just over a week!
With daily emails that will give you a series of quick wins beamed into your inbox each day of the challenge, and a Facebook live in our private We Turned Out Okay Facebook group on the last day (Friday, December 22, 2017), you’ll have a whole new outlook on how to really enjoy these last days of 2017!
Click here to participate in one of WTOO’s favorite listener rituals – the challenge – and feel better about the holidays at the same time!

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/201 – happy listening! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 201: Helping Kids Manage Even The Biggest Feelings – A Your Child Explained Conversation With Mental Health Counselor Janine Halloran”

Podcast Episode 198: Two Key Tactics for Handling Tough Times – a Your Child Explained Episode

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Happy Thanksgiving!

At first glance this may seem a peculiar episode for Thanksgiving Day… parenting through tough times? While for many people holidays are a wonderful time, for some they’re difficult.

Dealing with family members who disagree with your politics; protecting your kids from cheek-pinching, insult-comic-style aged relatives; feeling like you have to justify your life choices – these and more can make it pretty tough.

Today’s parent ninja tactics are going to be awesome for your Thanksgiving table if any of the above is coming into play for you… But they’re even better, even more important to keep in mind, if you are going through some kind of a crisis.

Like a friend of mine, who is going through a tough time – and who asked me to do an episode on how best to handle parenting through crisis.

So whether you are dealing with something momentous in your life, or you are just concerned about how to make it through the day without smacking somebody, this one is for you!

Need more help than I can offer with the podcast?
I’m opening up the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge, which gives you a quick win every day for three whole weeks!

Make your evenings less chaotic, build better relationships with your child’s caregivers, and feel happier within yourself – and work closely with me for a whole month – when you join.
Click here for details and to sign up for the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/198. Happy listening!

Key Links:

Join the private WTOO Facebook group, for weekly Facebook lives and more! Click here!

Click here to check out We Turned Out Okay’s brand-new How-to Videos menu tab, to learn about how to help your kids eat more fruits and vegetables, how to help them learn to read, and more!

Click here to find out more about the Ninja Parenting Community, the place where I help parents solve their toughest challenges every day.

If you love the show, please rate and review us in Apple Podcasts… That’s how so many people find us. Click here to rate/review, and thanks so much!

Podcast Episode 195: What to do about endless whining and when they waste food – a Parent-Coaching Call for today’s Your Child Explained Episode

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Today is one of my very favorite kinds of shows, a Parent-Coaching Call with an NPC member!

– – A HUGE tree fell in our yard during a buck wild nor’easter last week, and we lost power for days! (Click here to check out the video I made of the tree!) All back now and everything is okay… But I had to delay the start of our epic “How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Getting Pulled Under Yourself or Losing Your Mind” mastercourse.
The first live module now goes up on Tuesday, November 14, giving you until Monday, November 13 to enroll!
If you can’t make it to the modules live, you’ll always be able to catch them in our password-protected online classroom – plus ask questions over the whole 6 weeks of the mastercourse in our private Survive the Social Stuff Facebook group, exclusively for those enrolled in the course.…
To learn more and sign up go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff! – –

In each parent-coaching call, NPC members disclose their struggles and I put my years of experience with young children and degrees in early childhood education and human development/family relations to work, figuring out exactly what steps will help most (and fastest).
It’s an exclusive benefit for members of my private coaching community, and the great thing is that even if you’re not a member, you get answers to mind-bending parenting conundrums as well!

Here are the issues that Jen is seeing with her 5-and 3-year-old daughters:
1) What to do about endless whining, when all the tools in the toolbox have been tried – redirection is not working, making no sound like yes is not working, and her head is about ready to explode?

2) What to do when the girls take one or two bites out of an apple and then want to throw the rest of the apple away, or similar food conundrums, usually having to do with snacks, especially those that “don’t portion out well”

If either of these seems familiar, you are going to LOVE this episode.

NPC members: view the expanded notes and action steps – and read about how Jen did with these issues – by clicking here (just remember you must be logged in to view).
Not a member of the Ninja Parenting Community? Click here.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/195 key links : )

Continue reading “Podcast Episode 195: What to do about endless whining and when they waste food – a Parent-Coaching Call for today’s Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 192: How to diminish your child’s bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode

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Listen to today’s episode for a quick and easy way to cut down on your child’s bad behavior : )

– – – New Course Offering: It’s agonizing to watch your child go through the social stuff of life; getting called a mean name or crybaby; getting “broken up with” by a friend, encountering sibling strife. It upsets us parents because 1) our heart breaks for our beautiful child, and 2) we don’t know what to do to help..
I’m offering something new and different that will create a new opportunity for you:
The Surviving the Social Stuff course. It’s tailored to participants’ needs, so whatever social stuff is going on in your child’s life – THAT’S what you’ll learn how to handle.
It’s super helpful as we get into the high-emotion holidays, with weekly class meetings starting Tuesday, November 7 and running right through into January.
Space is limited!!
So, if you’re struggling with anything social in your child’s life, Click Here to sign up..
Then you’ll be feeling less alone and learning new ways to Survive the Social Stuff! – – –

Click here for more information about the Surviving the Social Stuff course!
(If it’s not clickable yet, it will be soon.)

Registration for this course begins Monday, October 30…

In the meantime Click Here to Sign Up up for the free mini-course on Kids and Sharing!

It’s a small part of the upcoming Surviving the Social Stuff course, but it’ll have a HUGE impact on your parenting because whenever there’s a fight over resources (like toys, or your attention) you’ll have the perfect parent-ninja tactic right in your pocket : )

For key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/192! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 192: How to diminish your child’s bad behavior – A Your Child Explained Episode”