What’s it REALLY cost to raise a child today? – Podcast Episode 216

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I’m sure you’ve heard that it costs tons of money to raise a child to the age of eighteen – $233,610 in 2015, according to the Money/CNN report I read in preparing for this episode.

If that number has you freaked out, you are not alone!

But is it really accurate? That’s the question we are looking into today.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/216 for key links and the most adorable picture of one of my children; the outfit he’s wearing in the photo comes up today. Thanks for listening! Continue reading “What’s it REALLY cost to raise a child today? – Podcast Episode 216”

Podcast Episode 213: The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting

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 If you are feeling like you’re barely getting through the day without screaming at your toddler or preschooler, this episode is for you!

In it I introduce a live, online class I am teaching, called “The 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting.” The class features three secrets of happy parenting that I have identified.

These 3 secrets help parents just like you:

– End the fear and dread that can accompany family time with young children.

– Learn the tools to transform their kids’ behavior from bad to good.

– Enjoy spending time with their young children.

For details go to weturnedoutokay.com/secrets : )

 

 A special note about this episode

Today’s episode is all about storytelling, and in it I get to share about a live storytelling event that 20-time winner of the Husband of the Year award, Benjamin Kolp, and I did just a few nights ago!

Here are two stories – really, two halves of the same story – for your viewing pleasure:

 

Today, I share the story of my own frightening and persistent question, a real biggie which brought with it a lot of parental guilt – but yet this question simply wouldn’t leave me alone…

I share how I successfully addressed it, and I introduce a minicourse that can help you address it, too.

This minicourse is all ready for you over at weturnedoutokay.com!

It’s called The Three Secrets of Happy Parenting, and today’s episode is also the intro to the course.

Sign up by going to weturnedoutokay.com/213!

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Podcast Episode 210: For Us Parents, a Choice that Really Matters

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Do you sometimes feel that you will drown in a sea of bad news, bad weather, bad everything?

I know I do… and right here at the beginning of the year I am sharing the ways that I have found to stay positive, even while floating on this sea.

Listen to today’s episode so that we can stay positive together!

Key links – and there are a TON today – at weturnedoutokay.com/210. Thank you for listening : ) Continue reading “Podcast Episode 210: For Us Parents, a Choice that Really Matters”

Podcast Episode 208: Policy vs Reality – Handling Preschool Aggression – A Your Child Explained Episode

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In my recent conversation with Mental Health Counselor and Play Specialist Janine Halloran, we talked about the outrageously high rates of suspensions and expulsions in preschools nationwide.

And one listener wrote soon after to share her child’s experience in preschool:

“Such an interesting podcast and alarming pre-K statistics. I can say we saw an opposite thing happening… Several kids were overly aggressive with minimal consequences… My child was being bullied by these aggressive children to the point of not wanting to go to school.”

Listener Jessica was kind enough to let me share her thoughts with you, and address her concerns, which might be your concerns as well, in today’s episode.

What comes out of it is the realization that many preschool policies on discipline are way out of whack with what kids really need to learn – both the bullies, and the bullied  – to get along in this world.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/208, and thanks for listening! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 208: Policy vs Reality – Handling Preschool Aggression – A Your Child Explained Episode”

Podcast Episode 207: Glass Balls and Rubber Balls: The Annual WTOO Goals Episode

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Every January since We Turned Out Okay began, I’ve shared my goals for the coming year. Not resolutions… which feel to me a little more arbitrary and easier to pull out of… but Goals.

And this year is no exception!

Somehow the idea of glass balls and rubber balls (one of which breaks when dropped, and the other of which bounces) felt really important to share with you, probably because I’m returning from major burnout and got it because I dropped a glass ball, my “health” ball.

So listen in to find out more about glass/rubber balls, the goals I’ve set and why I set them, and what this year’s One Word is!

Notes and links at weturnedoutokay.com/207! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 207: Glass Balls and Rubber Balls: The Annual WTOO Goals Episode”

Podcast Episode 202: A Parent Ninja Tactic to Help You Enjoy The Holidays – Part 1 in this year’s WTOO Annual Holiday Parenting Survival Guide

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In today’s episode I tell a story about a woman who once sat at a table full of loved ones, watched some of these loved ones manipulate her child, and feel completely powerless to help.
Maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar situation:
 – You understand that holiday gatherings include some degree of etiquette and civil niceties

 – But sometimes these people – these dear relatives, friends, loved ones – can push our buttons and set off our children.They can really wake the Mama/Papa Bear in each of us.

Sometimes we can feel truly helpless in handling complex social situations, and this time of year, we see A LOT of loved ones, magnifying the problem.

Today’s episode is all about how to handle that type of situation!
Listen to learn the ninja tactic of getting control of a situation, especially involving your child, and especially in the public setting of a family/friend gathering, where everything can feel so contentious.
It’s the first in this year’s Holiday Parenting Survival Guide…
Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/202. Happy listening!

Enjoy December with this WTOO 5-Day Free Challenge 

The Handle the Holidays FREE 5-Day Challenge, designed to help you cut through the BS and really enjoy this time of year, starts this coming Monday, December 18!

With daily emails for a series of quick wins beamed into your inbox each day of the challenge, and a Facebook live in our private We Turned Out Okay Facebook group on the last day (Friday, December 22, 2017), you’ll have a whole new outlook on how to really enjoy these last days of 2017.

Click here to participate in one of WTOO’s favorite listener rituals – the challenge – and feel better about the holidays at the same time!

What Are Your favorite episodes of We Turned Out Okay?

– Why are they your favorites, what do you like about them?
– How have they helped you?

I am putting together a year-end show sharing everybody’s favorites, so please
Click the link below to share yours:
https://weturnedoutokay.com/contact

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Podcast Episode 199: Three Reasons to Encourage Kids’ Dreams

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I’m kicking off the holiday season insanity with an episode that is counter-intuitively meta-level… And I promise, there will be time for more practical ideas before the end of the year.

But this one is special, something I’ve wanted to talk about on the show for a while now, regarding how easy it is for us to step all over our children’s dreams, both their short-term, heart’s-desire hopes, and the long-term big, passionate ideas.

Recently I read something that helped me realize: there are three really good reasons to support our kids in their dreams.

One of these reasons is for their own safety.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/199 for key links, and happy listening!

Last Day to Join the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

If you want to:
– Handle afterschool activities, bedtime routines, and homework like a ninja parent
– Work better with everyone who looks after your child
– Deal with the time crunches and scheduling issues that come with the parenting job
– Feel better within yourself

This challenge will help you SO much.

Streamline your whole life during these 21 days (which begin as soon as you join, no need to wait at all), work closely with me on your toughest parenting conundrums, and feel like a new person at the end!

I’m running a holiday season special, so you get the benefit of the challenge at half off the normal cost… But the special ends TODAY Tuesday, November 28.

Click here for details and to sign up for the Streamline Your Whole Life 21-Day Challenge!

Questions? Get answers on my contact page : )

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Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse

A podcast listener wrote to me recently with a a really good and important question:

“We see all kinds of ways for girls to deal with being assaulted, how to prevent it, how to heal, support groups and the like… How do we teach boys to keep their hands to themselves or what not to say?” She’s got a two-year-old boy and she does not want him to grow up into harasser or an abuser.

I based this episode on the awesome and wonderful responses I got when I asked this listener’s question on my Facebook page.

In today’s episode identify 4 key steps we as parents need to take in order to raise children who both do not grow up to be harassers or abusers, and who successfully resist being harassed or abused.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/196 to see these steps written down, and for key links! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse”

Podcast Episode 193: How to handle stuff that makes us squirm

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Today, I answer a listener question about how to buckle in a squirming child who doesn’t want to be in a car seat. And then I tackle something that makes us all squirm…

The unhappy social stuff in our kids’ lives.

You know what I’m talking about:
When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee.
When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied.
When they get broken up with by a friend.
When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you “who could love a face like this?”

If your heart breaks – or you feel shellshocked – when something like this happens, you are not alone.

You need to learn about the new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting.
This new 6-week mastercourse changes everything:

How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself
Click the course title or go to weturnedoutokay.com/socialstuff to learn more…

Space is Limited!! Sign up now to save your spot – LOTS of listeners struggle with the social stuff and spots will go fast!

The course starts this coming Tuesday, November 7…
And you can go to the course’s secret Facebook group immediately upon registering and paying!

Come get started on this new approach right away –
Sign up now!

Find out how to handle squirmy social stuff in today’s episode and go to weturnedoutokay.com/193 for key links.
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Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child

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Given their small stature and relative powerlessness, the idea of something as powerFUL as a gun captivates young children. But in the violent world we live in, their fascination can seem to us morbid and frightening…
All the more so in the wake of mass shootings like the one just a few weeks ago in Las Vegas.
Today’s show gives you concrete ideas about how to raise a nonviolent child in our violent world, and how to feel better if you, like me, share your home with a pint-sized gun enthusiast.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/190;
Click here to get concrete help for the huge and important questions in your parenting, by checking out the Ninja Parenting Community! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child”