Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse

A podcast listener wrote to me recently with a a really good and important question:

“We see all kinds of ways for girls to deal with being assaulted, how to prevent it, how to heal, support groups and the like… How do we teach boys to keep their hands to themselves or what not to say?” She’s got a two-year-old boy and she does not want him to grow up into harasser or an abuser.

I based this episode on the awesome and wonderful responses I got when I asked this listener’s question on my Facebook page.

In today’s episode identify 4 key steps we as parents need to take in order to raise children who both do not grow up to be harassers or abusers, and who successfully resist being harassed or abused.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/196 to see these steps written down, and for key links! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 196: Four Steps to Make Your Children Resistant to Sexual Abuse”

Podcast Episode 193: How to handle stuff that makes us squirm

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Today, I answer a listener question about how to buckle in a squirming child who doesn’t want to be in a car seat. And then I tackle something that makes us all squirm…

The unhappy social stuff in our kids’ lives.

You know what I’m talking about:
When you spend your days stopping angry sibling fights, as if you were a boxing referee.
When one of them gets made fun of at school – or worse, bullied.
When they get broken up with by a friend.
When they have a crush on a fellow eight-year-old and say to you “who could love a face like this?”

If your heart breaks – or you feel shellshocked – when something like this happens, you are not alone.

You need to learn about the new approach that gives you the power to support your child, set aside your inner demons, and be happier in your parenting.
This new 6-week mastercourse changes everything:

How to Help Your Child Navigate the Choppy Social Waters of Life Without Losing Your Mind or Getting Pulled Under Yourself
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Find out how to handle squirmy social stuff in today’s episode and go to weturnedoutokay.com/193 for key links.
Continue reading “Podcast Episode 193: How to handle stuff that makes us squirm”

Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child

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Given their small stature and relative powerlessness, the idea of something as powerFUL as a gun captivates young children. But in the violent world we live in, their fascination can seem to us morbid and frightening…
All the more so in the wake of mass shootings like the one just a few weeks ago in Las Vegas.
Today’s show gives you concrete ideas about how to raise a nonviolent child in our violent world, and how to feel better if you, like me, share your home with a pint-sized gun enthusiast.

Key links at weturnedoutokay.com/190;
Click here to get concrete help for the huge and important questions in your parenting, by checking out the Ninja Parenting Community! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 190: Guns and Your Young Child”

Podcast Episode 184: Three Steps to Handling Homework Woes – Part 2 of the Back-to-School Guide

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If you’re struggling with back-to-school time, or starting-school time – I’m creating shows this month and next to help you feel better.

Today’s is all about homework.

Over the years I’ve had parents share the most horrible stories about homework and their little kids, like the mom whose six-year-old received an afterschool detention for missing four homework assignments in a row.
That one still makes me choke a little.

Or the one about a child forced to miss recess because of a parent’s failure to log in and do the required “family homework.”

When medical ethicist Dr. Arthur Caplan comes on this show and says “recess is a right,” as he did in this episode last spring, I smile at his words.

But my blood pressure goes up.
Way up, at the thought of you and your young son or daughter coping with outrageous, damaging policies like these.

So today I’m taking everything my own training and experience tells me, and everything the wonderful teachers and doctors and folks who really understand young children (and who’ve spoken up on my show) – and I’m boiling it down into three steps to help you handle crazy homework demands.

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/184 for key links, and to read an outline of the three steps.
Also – Click here to sign up to join the Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge, which I’m offering again in early October! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 184: Three Steps to Handling Homework Woes – Part 2 of the Back-to-School Guide”

Podcast Episode 181: “I feel like I’m about to toss my daughter to the wolves” – Handling Separation Anxiety for the Back-to-School Guide Part 1

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“With kindergarten,” a listener shares, “I feel like I’m about to toss her to the wolves.”

How are you handling the stresses of the autumn? If you’ve got a child starting school or preschool, or returning to school, daycare, or preschool, it can be really tough on both you and your kids.
That’s why today is the first of a 3-part series, the We Turned Out Okay Back-to-School Guide.

Today I share the ONE thing you can do to make your child’s separation anxiety better!

Please note: the Streamline Your Mornings Free 5-Day Challenge is underway, and thus closed to new participants.
If you want to get in on this challenge when I offer it next in October, go to weturnedoutokay.com/181 to sign up! (Go there as well for show notes and other key links to this Just You and Me Episode : ) Continue reading “Podcast Episode 181: “I feel like I’m about to toss my daughter to the wolves” – Handling Separation Anxiety for the Back-to-School Guide Part 1″

Podcast Episode 178: Three steps to more responsible kids

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Do you ever wish your kids took on more around the house? Does the prospect of getting to that point seem so overwhelming that you give up before you’ve even started?

Today we’re talking about the how to foster responsibility in kids – not an easy task!

The way I see it, there are 3 things we can do to encourage responsibility in our kids.

Listen to today’s show to find out what they are and how to put them into practice!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/178 for key links and notes to this episode, and to sign up for the challenge. And have a great day! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 178: Three steps to more responsible kids”

5 Ways to Talk to Your Kids about Racism


A lot of parents in my area of the country – Boston, Massachusetts – are worried because the white supremacists are having a rally on Boston Common tomorrow (Saturday, August 19, 2017).

Wherever you live, there are chances for your young child to hear about, or even see, scary and upsetting images and video in which racists do horrible things, or say horrible things.

As parents, sometimes it’s really hard to know how to address our kids’ worries, and we can feel so helpless thinking about such a big, scary subject.

If you’re wondering where to begin, you’ve come to the right place!

I’ve got 5 ways for you to talk to your kids about racism – and, I’m posting the YouTube video I made just above these words.

5 Ways to Talk to Your Kids about Racism:

1) Help your child feel safe.
When they see scary things in the news, kids automatically worry about their own selves and their own loved ones – will Mama be hit by a car when she goes to work?
Make your child feel safer by listening to his or her questions, and using reassuring words and simple language. Continue reading “5 Ways to Talk to Your Kids about Racism”

Podcast Episode 175: “How can I get my kids to listen to me the FIRST time I ask?”

They sure are adorable… But how do we get them to LISTEN to us?

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Today we take on one of the toughest issues of all: getting our kids to listen to us.

Stephanie says “they seem to have come to me without the ability to listen;” Jocelyn says she struggles with “kids not listening and obeying the first time I ask (or the first ten times)”…

Is this you?

Do you find yourself standing in the kitchen sometimes, with your son or daughter in the next room, and your voice is getting louder and louder and you’re clenching your fists and rolling your eyes… And still you’re not getting the response you need?

Well then, today’s episode is for you.

Show notes – including a step-by-step description of how to actually get your kids to listen – at  weturnedoutokay.com/175! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 175: “How can I get my kids to listen to me the FIRST time I ask?””

Podcast Episode 172: Parent Success Stories!

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Today’s episode is a celebration: the Ninja Parenting Community is one year old! That means I’ve been helping parents of young children figure out their toughest challenges for a whole year – and we’ve overcome some doozies:
– “How do I handle multiple meltdowns?”
– “What do I do with my child’s disrespectful language and shouting?”
– “I’m so overwhelmed… What with sports schedules and everything else, there’s never enough time!”

This episode is all about the sweet taste of victory; we’re highlighting success stories! Find out how one member planned and executed a great beach day with her young children, and cheer on another member as she celebrates four whole days without any meltdowns…

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/172 for key links, and to watch my appearance on the Women Inspired TV show – my own personal success story. Continue reading “Podcast Episode 172: Parent Success Stories!”

Podcast Episode 169: When Siblings Attack – Stopping The Rivalry (Rebroadcast)

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Can you think back on your own childhood and come up with some crazy sibling-fight stories? I’ve heard some doozies, people being hung out windows or tied to trees by their siblings, the time a brother put green dye in a sister’s hair – so the sister retaliated by pouring glitter into the brother’s bed!

Siblings can hurt each other in lots of big and small ways; sometimes it feels like there’s no good intervention.

Today, I share about a book that I first read while pregnant with my second: Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This book is the second of The Fabulous Five, five books which will transform your relationship with your children, so get reading them ASAP (here’s the blog post detailing the Fab Five)!

It made the list because, quite simply, if you have more than one child – or if you grew up in a family where you had at least one sibling – you will finally understand how to help when siblings fight.

Today, we talk about the ups and downs of brothers and sisters, both in our families growing up and in our homes as parents. Go to weturnedoutokay.com/169 for show notes and key links! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 169: When Siblings Attack – Stopping The Rivalry (Rebroadcast)”