Podcast Episode 182: How to Advocate for Your Child Medically, Socially, and Educationally

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Back when We Turned Out Okay turned 2, I asked you all for a gift: your questions!

Today I’m answering one of those questions, listener Caroline’s about how to deal with medical issues in your child, and expanding out from “medical” advocacy by sharing, in the second half of today’s episode, about how to advocate in other aspects of your child’s life.

I am so happy to bring back medical ethicist Dr. Art Caplan to address Caroline’s question, “Could you possibly give some advice about dealing with stressful situations in general and medical stuff, i.e. advocating for your child?”

Art outlines four key steps that parents can take when confronted with a child’s illness, and in looking back I realized that those same steps would be wonderful when trying to advocate for kids in a variety of situations, socially, educationally, in addition to medically.

For an outline of these four steps to advocating for your child and related key links, go to weturnedoutokay.com/182!
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Podcast Episode 179: How to Be a Parent AND a Creative Person (and also help your child be creative)

Today’s guest, Dan Blank; image from his website, wegrowmedia.com

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Today’s guest, author, artist, and speaker Dan Blank, knows an awful lot about fostering creativity. As dad to a six-year-old and a new baby, he also knows the struggles that creative people go through to retain their creativity – their sanity, even – while raising children.

For Dan it’s a foregone conclusion: the way we humans are, right down to our very core, demands creativity. It’s not something we can escape because it’s part of us – everything feels off when we don’t have a creative outlet.

But how do we accomplish that, while we’re caught up in the daily demands of work, and raising children, and everything else?

That’s what our conversation is all about today. I know you’re going to love it!

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Podcast Episode 176: On Interracial Marriage and Parenting – A Conversation with Poets and Actors Ingrid Alli and Hamilton Graziano

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When We Turned Out Okay turned 2 several months ago, I asked you all for ideas about what you wanted me to address on the show.
Listener Kerri said “I would like to know as a white person what I need to do to be sure my children are not contributing to the racism that is hurting so many.”

Today, I speak with married, interracial couple Ingrid Alli and Hamilton Graziano, in possibly one of the most moving conversations I’ve been able to bring you yet.

Ingrid and Hamilton are newlyweds, just starting out in their married life and, as yet, do not have children.

They want kids, though – and they come on the show today to share their thoughts on what it’s like to be part of an interracial couple, what it was like growing up for Ingrid, as an African-American, and their hopes about race in this modern world.

Notice: I did not say “hopes and fears about race”… Ingrid and Hamilton are curiously, delightfully fear-free. They know what’s at stake, they live every day in a divisive America, and they take the positive stance that love wins.

They’re performance poets, and I know you’ll love, as I did, their award-winning performance of their poem, “The Lovings,” about an interracial couple who fought nine long years for the right to marry in their state of Virginia.

Ingrid and Hamilton got their marriage license 50 years to the day, in Virginia, from when the Lovings got theirs. (Click the link below for the full show notes to this episode, where I’ve embedded YouTube video of Ingrid and Hamilton’s performance of this poem.)

Ingrid and Hamilton have also got great advice in response to Kerri’s question, and it’s the sort of answer that transcends today’s conversation about race. Their answer to Kerri’s question is also the answer to worries about parenting, feeling good inside ourselves, and alleviating that guilt that many of us carry around – vague, uncertain, but there nonetheless.

I hope you enjoy this episode. It won’t be the last one about race and parenting – Kerri’s is a two-part question and once the back-to-school mayhem settles down, we’ll return to this issue.

To read the advice Ingrid and Hamilton share about how to help make sure our children aren’t contributing to the racism that hurts so many, go to weturnedoutokay.com/176! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 176: On Interracial Marriage and Parenting – A Conversation with Poets and Actors Ingrid Alli and Hamilton Graziano”

Podcast Episode 173: How to Create The Life You Want – A Conversation with Mom and Farmer PJ Jonas

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Today’s guest, PJ Jonas, got a few goats several years ago, because she just loved goats. Always keeping that love in the forefront, PJ and her family – her husband and their eight children – went from those few goats early on to, today, owning and operating a family farm which creates soaps, lotions, and edibles, all from goats milk.

When you learn that the Jonas family homeschools in addition to operating the farm and their website, goatmilkstuff.com, you begin to realize the genius that PJ has for organizing and running this well-oiled machine.

You also can hear in PJ’s voice just how much she enjoys her days, filled as they are with family, and fun, and love.
In our conversation she shares all kinds of tips – both mindset and practical – for creating the life you want.

Also! During this episode PJ shares a link, that she made especially for our show, where you can get a free bar of her amazing soap! (Which I did. PJ shares a full-sized bar of soap in whatever flavor you want – mine is lavender – and it lasts a really long time : )

For show notes and key links, including the one for your free bar of soap, go to weturnedoutokay.com/173. Enjoy the show! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 173: How to Create The Life You Want – A Conversation with Mom and Farmer PJ Jonas”

Podcast Episode 170: Kids and Food – A Conversation with Mom and Author Jeannie Marshall (Rebroadcast)

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Today’s guest, mom and author Jeannie Marshall, showing off a gorgeous frittata that she just made!

When today’s guest, Jeannie Marshall, became pregnant with their son Nico after her family relocated to Italy, she developed a fascination for how Italians introduce their babies to food, and the part that food plays in Italian children’s lives now that factory foods and agribusiness have made inroads into Italy. She details her experiences in one of my favorite books, The Lost Art of Feeding Kids.

One memorable line: Jeannie writes about when Italian mom of baby Rocco, a boy the same age as Nico who is being exposed to first foods as well, says it’s as though we North Americans are “teaching our babies not to like food.”

Our conversation, originally aired in March of 2016, reflects Jeannie and her family’s love of Italy, Italians, and Italian food – and also their first-hand experiences fighting that battle that we fight every day: getting inexpensive and tasty meals on the table (and then getting our kids to eat those meals).

Find key links and to complete notes by going to weturnedoutokay.com/170! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 170: Kids and Food – A Conversation with Mom and Author Jeannie Marshall (Rebroadcast)”

Podcast Episode 167: How to Have Happier and More Engaged Kids – An Interview With Nursery School Owner Tanya Trainor (Rebroadcast)

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Today’s episode, originally broadcast in late 2015, was super fun to record because I got out of my usual studio and hung out at what’s easily the most amazing playground I’ve ever seen. All of the equipment we see on a typical playground – huge climber, big slide, jungle gym – was gone, and in its place were loose pieces. Bricks, cement pavers, wooden siding, bales of hay, an 8 foot long rowboat, tree stumps suitable for sitting on or rolling around, a rain gutter with a hose near the top: these were some of the many things that replaced more typical playground equipment.

It’s not a huge space, and today’s guest, nursery school director and owner Tanya Trainor of Miss Tanya’s Nursery School, knew that typical equipment would no longer work when, in spring of 2014, she found out that the fall zones required around each piece of equipment were expanding. So, Tanya and her staff did an amazing thing: they asked the children, “when we get rid of the climber out on the playground, what should we replace it with?” Their answers created the wonderful results spread out before me.

Listen to this episode to discover:

1) how these playground changes brought about the wonderful improvement in children’s behavior while outside

2) the children’s contributions to this new outdoor play space, and the difference contributing has made in their feelings of autonomy and collaboration

3) the dramatic drop in frequency of negative behaviors; Tanya reports far fewer incidents of conflict or need for redirection since moving to the new kind of playground

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/167 for key links and to listen – and have a happy Fourth of July!

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Podcast Episode 164: Turning Parenting Mistakes Into Successes – Karen is the guest in today’s Guest Episode!

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Normally, in a We Turned Out Okay guest episode, it’s me doing the interviewing… but today that format gets turned on its head!

Recently the gentleman behind the Blessing Not Stressing podcast, Rob Broadhead, invited me onto his show. He’s such a great interviewer and the idea behind the show is such a lovely one that of course I said “yes please” – and as we spoke I knew I wanted you to be able to listen in as well.

Rob splits his conversations into several episodes; on this WTOO episode today we’re bringing you the middle two, “School of Hard Knocks” and “Mistakes and Forgiveness.”

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/164 for links to both the first and final portions of my conversation with Rob. I hope you enjoy listening to this conversation as much as I enjoyed participating in it! Continue reading “Podcast Episode 164: Turning Parenting Mistakes Into Successes – Karen is the guest in today’s Guest Episode!”

Podcast Episode 161: How Children Reach Their Potential – A Conversation with Educator Nicole Gardner

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Recently I attended a presentation about all the key stuff happening in our kids’ brains, in which today’s guest, Nicole Gardner of the Bezos Family Foundation, shared research, stories, and ideas that resonated so deeply with me, I knew I needed to get her on the show.

I learned that:
– babies’ brains create millions – millions! – of new neurons every second
– young kids are all set to learn what they need to know, they come equipped with the best educational tools built-in
– the single most important learning tool they need from their environment: trusted adults

Today’s conversation dives into raising kids in the best possible environment, taking advantage of the science around this subject and really cultivating a great relationship with our kids – something we want anyway, right?

Click weturnedoutokay.com/161 for show notes and key links, including to a really cool app for parents, the Daily Vroom!

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Podcast Episode 158: “Recess is a Right” – Speaking with Medical Ethicist Dr. Arthur Caplan about things that affect our children’s lives

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Today’s guest, a medical ethicist (in other words, a person who helps determine what is ethical in people’s health), took my breath away with his eloquent words on stuff that impacts young children every day.

Dr. Arthur Caplan, professor of bioethics in the Department of Population Health at NYU’s Langone Medical Center, and I talk about everything from cloning mammoths to stopping malaria and the Zika virus… and also what the average person can do to improve their – our – lives.

Dr. Caplan shares his strong feelings on the academic pressures placed on elementary school age kids today, and what he says sure gives me hope.

I know you’re going to love our conversation! To read the notes, and to grab the key links, visit weturnedoutokay.com/158.

 

Get my free “handle every temper tantrum guide”

With littles, meltdowns are hard to avoid.

So I came up with the HEART method to help you:
– remain calm
– stop worrying about judginess with public tantrums
– know you’re not alone

To calmly, decisively handle every on of your child’s tantrums, click the button below!

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155: Your Biggest Weapon in the War Against Parental Guilt – Speaking With Returning Champion Ashley Milne-Tyte of The Broad Experience Podcast

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Today, Ashley Milne-Tyte of The Broad Experience podcast returns to We Turned Out Okay, and our conversation goes in a direction I hadn’t anticipated: how women can take on too much, become overwhelmed, and end up unhappy and possibly even ill.

Because Ashley’s podcast focuses on “women in the workplace,” our conversation starts out with the focus on women and moms. But somewhere in here, we stop talking just about women – and start talking about parents. Parental guilt is a thing, and not just among the moms!

Today’s episode is big-picture, and Ashley shares a tremendous weapon that we all have in our possession, something that helps us alleviate parental guilt and make our lives, and our children’s, better.

I hope you enjoy our conversation!

For show notes, key links, and to sign up for tomorrow’s NPC FAQ Q&A – where you get your questions answered about the Ninja Parenting Community and you also get a FREE copy of my book, Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics – go to weturnedoutokay.com/155!

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