“When they misbehave the most, that’s when they need us the most.” Speaking with Dr. Laura Markham for podcast episode 255!

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When a coaching client of mine recently posted an article by today’s guest in our Ninja Parenting Community forums, I was introduced to one of the great positive parenting forces of our time: Dr. Laura Markham.

As soon as I visited her Aha Parenting website, and read some of the advice Dr. Laura shares, I knew you needed to be introduced to her too!

Today our conversation gets into vulnerability, trust, and resiliency. Dr. Laura helps us really enjoy our lives, and our kids.

I hope our conversation helps you gain a better understanding of this whole parenting thing. It sure helped me!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two helpful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are super quick.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/255 for:

  • Links to Dr. Laura’s website, which contains tons of resources for you
  • The link to the WTOO Facebook page where Wednesday 12/12 I’m doing a Facebook live Ask Me Anything to kick off the launch of my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out today!!
  • The video of the week: “How to get my kids to stop fighting with each other”

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading ““When they misbehave the most, that’s when they need us the most.” Speaking with Dr. Laura Markham for podcast episode 255!”

“Is it shyness or bad manners?” 12 Ways to handle your child’s stranger anxiety | Podcast Episode 254

HEADS UP: At the top of the show, we say we’re going to tell you if we go into PG-13 territory. In the second half of this episode, I share about being sexually abused at age 7. You may want to listen away from your littles, or with headphones.

“Is it shyness or bad manners?” When a member of our private coaching community asked this question during a live members-only call recently, I knew I needed to get you a show about handling stranger anxiety.

We’ve got 12 ways for you to handle your child’s stranger anxiety… and we talk about how stranger anxiety isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

I hope this is a helpful episode as you head into the holiday season, and your young child is meeting lots of new people!

Temper Tantrums and Potty Training:

During today’s break I share about two wonderful free guides I offer.
While the podcast is long-form – your opportunity to look into the mind of a child development expert – the free guides are quick-and-effective.

You can watch the video, read the checklist, and immediately handle the temper tantrums or get started with potty training (depending on which guide you choose : )

  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to handle every temper tantrum
  • Click here for the FREE video and checklist to successfully potty train your child

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/254 for:

  • A cheat sheet on the 12 ways to handle stranger anxiety
  • Links to the articles I quote from today
  • The link to the WTOO Facebook page where Wednesday 12/12 I’m doing a Facebook live Ask Me Anything to kick off the launch of my latest book, 10 Secrets Happy Parents Know, officially out today!!
  • The video of the week: “My child is anxious around new people”

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading ““Is it shyness or bad manners?” 12 Ways to handle your child’s stranger anxiety | Podcast Episode 254″

How to keep your child from running off at the playground | Podcast Episode 251

“What’s a reasonable consequence for when I ask my young child to stop running away, and he doesn’t stop, at the park?”
This is the gist of a recent question from one mom in our We Turned Out Okay Facebook group.

I shared what I think is a pretty good answer… and then other parents in the group shared their ideas. These ideas were so great – and so different from mine – that I knew I needed to talk about this issue on the podcast.

So, hope you enjoy this episode, dedicated to helping you set limits, and enjoy more of your time, when you are at a park or playground or out in the world with your young child!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/251 for:

  • A breakdown of how you can reign in your young child, without overdoing it or losing your mind
  • What’s up in the We Turned Out Okay universe, including tons of free resources : )
  • The video of the week: “Good behavior at meals, good behavior at the park”
  • The sign-up for our upcoming ‘When to potty train, How to potty train’ free online class

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “How to keep your child from running off at the playground | Podcast Episode 251”

Start weeknights off right: Part 3 of the Tame the Weeknight Chaos series (Podcast Episode 234)

Welcome to Part 3 of our Taming the Weeknight Chaos series!

Click here for the FREE Tame the Weeknight Chaos Guide, including Video & Checklist

Today we are talking about how to start weeknights off right.

I’ve got 3 easy steps that you can use to get a peaceful and enjoyable start to this very evening!
This video shares how to start your weeknights off right:

Want my complete, free Guide to Taming Weeknight chaos, which includes a 6-point checklist and a video?
Get the guide – and also watch the video module I made to accompany this episode – at:
weturnedoutokay.com/234

Thanks and happy listening! Continue reading “Start weeknights off right: Part 3 of the Tame the Weeknight Chaos series (Podcast Episode 234)”

WHY are weeknights with kids so tough? Taming Weeknight Chaos Part 1 (Podcast Episode 232)


Help me make this series about taming weeknight chaos be exactly what YOU need.

Click here to take this quick 3-question poll so I can tailor the series to your needs!

Today is the start of a new series here at We Turned Out okay!

It’s all about taming the chaotic and crazy weeknights that so many of us experience in raising kids.

We start by investigating: WHY are weeknights so tough?

For us parents, evenings – especially weeknights – are a constant slog.

I want to make this series tailored exactly to your needs, and in order to do that I need you to respond to the poll I’ve got going on this very topic!

Go to the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page to take the poll (the link is just below)…

Or if you are in the We Turned Out Okay email group, the poll has already landed in your inbox, and hopefully you’ve already written me back.

Thank you so much for helping me make this series into exactly what will help you most!

 

All The Links

I’m making it easy on you to access all the links I talk about in today’s episode:

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page, where you can take the poll (and also catch the Magic Words for Parents video I do live each Monday at 10 AM EST : )

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp YouTube channel, featuring a playlist of Magic Words for Parents, including this week’s which shares a phrase for when your child loses a special comfort object, like a blanky or stuffed animal.

Click here for EXTRA Magic Words for Parents, exclusive access to my patron-only feed, advanced chapters of my forthcoming book, Your Child Explained Volume 1, and other great stuff which goes way beyond what regular listeners get… Find all these awesome and exclusive extras at Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay!

I teach these great things called Parent-Ninja Tactics, which are THE key to happy parenting, and they’re only available in the Ninja Parenting Community.
I would love to teach you these and help you truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids!
Join the Ninja Parenting Community by going to weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC.

Click here to sign up for my FREE checklist and video on How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum so that you can calmly, confidently handle your child’s very next one!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/232 for every back episode of the podcast, and to read more about the top three reasons why weeknights are so challenging…

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “WHY are weeknights with kids so tough? Taming Weeknight Chaos Part 1 (Podcast Episode 232)”

Are Timeouts Effective Discipline? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 229)

I’m so excited to bring you this week’s show, all about timeouts!

  • Also:
    I announce the name of the parenting book I’m working on right now! And I share some exciting news: the introduction to this book is available for you to read, for free, at Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay!
  • This week’s Magic Words for Parents video shares a quick phrase you can use to stop your child’s begging and whining in stores like Target or food shopping. Watch by clicking here to join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, or by clicking here to watch in YouTube, where there’s a whole playlist of Magic Words!
  • Thanks to all the We Turned Out Okay Patreon patrons, and shout out to Tiffany, our latest patron! Tiffany’s getting some awesome rewards, which you can get too, listen to today’s show and go to Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay for more information : )

Do you find that giving a time out

to your young child is an effective way to change that child’s behavior?

Maybe you find, as one coaching client of mine does, that timeouts become “a battle of wills” and aren’t effective at all.

Maybe your young child runs away from the timeout chair, giggling and leaving you super frustrated…

If so, this is the show for you because today I’m teaching how to effectively discipline your young child!

For notes on today’s episode including my 4-step formula for disciplining effectively, as well as to sign up for my 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting live, online class, go to weturnedoutokay.com/229.

Thanks for listening!

Continue reading “Are Timeouts Effective Discipline? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 229)”

Can tablet use cause behavior problems? A Your Child Explained Episode (podcast episode 226)

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

This episode, we focus on a serious issue.

It’s one you may have been wondering about, but not known what to do about – or even if it was a big deal at all:

Does tablet or smartphone use contribute to a child’s behavior problems?

We live in this world, which is absolutely filled with tech. The tech doesn’t appear to be going anywhere fast… So what’s the answer?

Does tablet use contribute to behavior problems?

Listen to today’s episode to find out!

For notes on this episode including:

– Three ways to safely use technology with your littles
– The sign-up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting FREE online class, which distills everything I’ve learned into 3 simple lessons for true enjoyment of this parenting life
– Key Links and every back episode of We Turned Out Okay

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/226.

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “Can tablet use cause behavior problems? A Your Child Explained Episode (podcast episode 226)”

How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum

Sometimes, every parent struggles with a child’s meltdowns and screaming fits.

Here’s what most people do when a tantrum happens:

Kids. Sometimes, it’s a good thing they’re cute.

– They give an ineffective timeout
– They shout at their tantruming child, and then feel awful afterwards
– They do absolutely nothing – and as a result they feel powerless.

Meanwhile, their kid’s still screaming.

 

Eventually, most people conclude “this is just how life is with kids.”

They couldn’t be more wrong!

Yes, temper tantrums happen.

But how you handle them – what you do in the moment while that tantrum is happening – makes ALL the difference.

Read on to discover: how to confidently, calmly handle every temper tantrum.
Feel successful as a parent.
Don’t let public tantrums, and the judginess that comes with them, get you down anymore.
Begin to TRULY enjoy the time you spend with your kids! Continue reading “How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum”

Is Spanking Ever Okay? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 223)

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!


As you probably did, I got spanked as a kid.

But, probably unlike you, I became an early childhood educator and lesson one was “we never, EVER spank a child.”

Still, it’s tempting, especially if it means stopping a behavior that you cannot stand for one more minute.

So, is it ever okay to spank your child? Do you ever do it?

Today – on We Turned Out Okay’s THIRD birthday! – we dig into why parents spank kids, the lessons a child learns from being spanked, and what other options we parents have.

 

WHY Parents Spank Kids

Not surprisingly, spanking doesn’t happen when your child’s behavior is smooth and easy.

It’s when they balk at what you are telling them to do.

When they drag their feet, whine, nag at a sibling until that sibling retaliates.

Spankings happen when we feel that we have been pushed to the absolute brink – when we feel like we have got no other choice.

Take a listen to this episode if you’ve ever felt like that, especially if you’re not quite sure that spanking is what you should be doing, but you don’t see any other option.

For notes to today’s episode, including:

– A 3-step method you can follow to discipline without spanking
– The sign-up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting FREE online class, which distills everything I’ve learned into 3 simple lessons for true enjoyment of this parenting life
– Key Links and every back episode of We Turned Out Okay

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/223.

Thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “Is Spanking Ever Okay? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 223)”

Tame the Weeknight Chaos Live, In-Person Workshop!

 

Longtime friend-of-the-podcast Janine Halloran, LMHC, and I are super excited to teach this free, live, in-person workshop coming up in just over a week…

If you will be in Bellingham, Massachusetts on April 23, click here to sign up!

Janine has been on We Turned Out Okay several times now, most recently in episode 201, called Helping Kids Manage Even the Biggest Feelings.

We are teaming up to teach parents:
– Simple changes you can make to streamline weeknights
– Concrete, useful tools for the toughest moments

And it’s live, in person!

Hope to see you there!