Start weeknights off right: Part 3 of the Tame the Weeknight Chaos series (Podcast Episode 234)

Welcome to Part 3 of our Taming the Weeknight Chaos series!

Click here for the FREE Tame the Weeknight Chaos Guide, including Video & Checklist

Today we are talking about how to start weeknights off right.

I’ve got 3 easy steps that you can use to get a peaceful and enjoyable start to this very evening!
This video shares how to start your weeknights off right:

Want my complete, free Guide to Taming Weeknight chaos, which includes a 6-point checklist and a video?
Get the guide – and also watch the video module I made to accompany this episode – at:
weturnedoutokay.com/234

Thanks and happy listening! Continue reading “Start weeknights off right: Part 3 of the Tame the Weeknight Chaos series (Podcast Episode 234)”

WHY are weeknights with kids so tough? Taming Weeknight Chaos Part 1 (Podcast Episode 232)


Help me make this series about taming weeknight chaos be exactly what YOU need.

Click here to take this quick 3-question poll so I can tailor the series to your needs!

Today is the start of a new series here at We Turned Out okay!

It’s all about taming the chaotic and crazy weeknights that so many of us experience in raising kids.

We start by investigating: WHY are weeknights so tough?

For us parents, evenings – especially weeknights – are a constant slog.

I want to make this series tailored exactly to your needs, and in order to do that I need you to respond to the poll I’ve got going on this very topic!

Go to the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page to take the poll (the link is just below)…

Or if you are in the We Turned Out Okay email group, the poll has already landed in your inbox, and hopefully you’ve already written me back.

Thank you so much for helping me make this series into exactly what will help you most!

 

All The Links

I’m making it easy on you to access all the links I talk about in today’s episode:

Click here for the We Turned Out Okay Facebook page, where you can take the poll (and also catch the Magic Words for Parents video I do live each Monday at 10 AM EST : )

Click here for the Karen Lock Kolp YouTube channel, featuring a playlist of Magic Words for Parents, including this week’s which shares a phrase for when your child loses a special comfort object, like a blanky or stuffed animal.

Click here for EXTRA Magic Words for Parents, exclusive access to my patron-only feed, advanced chapters of my forthcoming book, Your Child Explained Volume 1, and other great stuff which goes way beyond what regular listeners get… Find all these awesome and exclusive extras at Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay!

I teach these great things called Parent-Ninja Tactics, which are THE key to happy parenting, and they’re only available in the Ninja Parenting Community.
I would love to teach you these and help you truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids!
Join the Ninja Parenting Community by going to weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC.

Click here to sign up for my FREE checklist and video on How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum so that you can calmly, confidently handle your child’s very next one!

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/232 for every back episode of the podcast, and to read more about the top three reasons why weeknights are so challenging…

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “WHY are weeknights with kids so tough? Taming Weeknight Chaos Part 1 (Podcast Episode 232)”

Are Timeouts Effective Discipline? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 229)

I’m so excited to bring you this week’s show, all about timeouts!

  • Also:
    I announce the name of the parenting book I’m working on right now! And I share some exciting news: the introduction to this book is available for you to read, for free, at Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay!
  • This week’s Magic Words for Parents video shares a quick phrase you can use to stop your child’s begging and whining in stores like Target or food shopping. Watch by clicking here to join the We Turned Out Okay Facebook group, or by clicking here to watch in YouTube, where there’s a whole playlist of Magic Words!
  • Thanks to all the We Turned Out Okay Patreon patrons, and shout out to Tiffany, our latest patron! Tiffany’s getting some awesome rewards, which you can get too, listen to today’s show and go to Patreon.com/weturnedoutokay for more information : )

Do you find that giving a time out

to your young child is an effective way to change that child’s behavior?

Maybe you find, as one coaching client of mine does, that timeouts become “a battle of wills” and aren’t effective at all.

Maybe your young child runs away from the timeout chair, giggling and leaving you super frustrated…

If so, this is the show for you because today I’m teaching how to effectively discipline your young child!

For notes on today’s episode including my 4-step formula for disciplining effectively, as well as to sign up for my 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting live, online class, go to weturnedoutokay.com/229.

Thanks for listening!

Continue reading “Are Timeouts Effective Discipline? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 229)”

Can tablet use cause behavior problems? A Your Child Explained Episode (podcast episode 226)

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

This episode, we focus on a serious issue.

It’s one you may have been wondering about, but not known what to do about – or even if it was a big deal at all:

Does tablet or smartphone use contribute to a child’s behavior problems?

We live in this world, which is absolutely filled with tech. The tech doesn’t appear to be going anywhere fast… So what’s the answer?

Does tablet use contribute to behavior problems?

Listen to today’s episode to find out!

For notes on this episode including:

– Three ways to safely use technology with your littles
– The sign-up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting FREE online class, which distills everything I’ve learned into 3 simple lessons for true enjoyment of this parenting life
– Key Links and every back episode of We Turned Out Okay

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/226.

And thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “Can tablet use cause behavior problems? A Your Child Explained Episode (podcast episode 226)”

How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum

Sometimes, every parent struggles with a child’s meltdowns and screaming fits.

Here’s what most people do when a tantrum happens:

Kids. Sometimes, it’s a good thing they’re cute.

– They give an ineffective timeout
– They shout at their tantruming child, and then feel awful afterwards
– They do absolutely nothing – and as a result they feel powerless.

Meanwhile, their kid’s still screaming.

 

Eventually, most people conclude “this is just how life is with kids.”

They couldn’t be more wrong!

Yes, temper tantrums happen.

But how you handle them – what you do in the moment while that tantrum is happening – makes ALL the difference.

Read on to discover: how to confidently, calmly handle every temper tantrum.
Feel successful as a parent.
Don’t let public tantrums, and the judginess that comes with them, get you down anymore.
Begin to TRULY enjoy the time you spend with your kids! Continue reading “How to Handle Every Temper Tantrum”

Is Spanking Ever Okay? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 223)

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!


As you probably did, I got spanked as a kid.

But, probably unlike you, I became an early childhood educator and lesson one was “we never, EVER spank a child.”

Still, it’s tempting, especially if it means stopping a behavior that you cannot stand for one more minute.

So, is it ever okay to spank your child? Do you ever do it?

Today – on We Turned Out Okay’s THIRD birthday! – we dig into why parents spank kids, the lessons a child learns from being spanked, and what other options we parents have.

 

WHY Parents Spank Kids

Not surprisingly, spanking doesn’t happen when your child’s behavior is smooth and easy.

It’s when they balk at what you are telling them to do.

When they drag their feet, whine, nag at a sibling until that sibling retaliates.

Spankings happen when we feel that we have been pushed to the absolute brink – when we feel like we have got no other choice.

Take a listen to this episode if you’ve ever felt like that, especially if you’re not quite sure that spanking is what you should be doing, but you don’t see any other option.

For notes to today’s episode, including:

– A 3-step method you can follow to discipline without spanking
– The sign-up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting FREE online class, which distills everything I’ve learned into 3 simple lessons for true enjoyment of this parenting life
– Key Links and every back episode of We Turned Out Okay

Go to weturnedoutokay.com/223.

Thank you so much for listening! Continue reading “Is Spanking Ever Okay? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 223)”

Tame the Weeknight Chaos Live, In-Person Workshop!

 

Longtime friend-of-the-podcast Janine Halloran, LMHC, and I are super excited to teach this free, live, in-person workshop coming up in just over a week…

If you will be in Bellingham, Massachusetts on April 23, click here to sign up!

Janine has been on We Turned Out Okay several times now, most recently in episode 201, called Helping Kids Manage Even the Biggest Feelings.

We are teaming up to teach parents:
– Simple changes you can make to streamline weeknights
– Concrete, useful tools for the toughest moments

And it’s live, in person!

Hope to see you there!

To bribe… or not to bribe? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 220)

The place where so much bribery happens.

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

If we’re being honest, who among us has NOT bribed a kid? (Listen to this episode to hear about how we potty trained our youngest… using entire donuts as bribes.)

But is there a better way?

Something we could do to change our child’s behavior from bad to good?

Something that would stop us feeling like we’re being emotionally blackmailed by our kids?

Listen to today’s episode to understand exactly WHY we parents resort to bribery – when it’s most likely to happen – and for 3 things we can do instead!

Read more about bribery…
Find every back episode of the We Turned Out Okay podcast…
Sign up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class…

All at weturnedoutokay.com/220.

Happy listening! Continue reading “To bribe… or not to bribe? A Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 220)”

The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent’s Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)

Kids. Sometimes, it’s a good thing they’re cute.

Today’s podcast episode shares one simple change you can make that will affect how your child behaves.

Read on, and listen to today’s episode, to learn this simple change yourself and start using it to truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids!

Working with parents of young children,

one phrase comes up again and again – one really dangerous phrase.

It’s dangerous because it perpetuates bad behavior from our kids, which none of us want… Yet, it is really hard not to use it.

You probably use this phrase yourself; I know I have!

Here’s the thing: we do not want to ASK our kids “would you like to stop hitting your sister now?”

Instead, we want them to simply STOP hitting their sister.

(Or whatever thing they’re doing right now that is potentially harmful/driving us crazy/making us question our life choices : )

Today I share:
– Exactly what the two most dangerous words in a parent’s vocabulary are
– Why these words get used so often
What you can say instead for good behavior from your child

Today’s episode helps you get past the bad behavior so you can fulfill your ultimate goal of truly enjoying family time!

 

Read more about these two dangerous words and what to say instead…
Find every back episode of the We Turned Out Okay podcast…
Sign up for the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Class…
All at weturnedoutokay.com/219.

Happy listening! Continue reading “The 2 Most Dangerous Words in a Parent’s Vocabulary (Podcast Episode 219)”

A Counterintuitive Positive Discipline Ninja Tactic for Today’s Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 214)

Welcome! To listen to today’s episode, scroll all the way down to the bottom of this post and hit the triangular “play” button. Enjoy the show!

“I HATE to yell at you… But you make me do it. It’s your fault.”
Recently, I spoke with a mom who said that she tells her kids this all the time.

Do you ever feel like this, when your child is giving you crazy attitude ?

Or when your child is whining, or picks a fight with a sibling over absolutely nothing at all?

In short, do you ever feel like you cannot take your child’s bad, embarrassing behavior for one more second?

If so, today’s episode gives you a ninja tactic that will completely change this dynamic!

If you really care about stopping your children’s annoying behavior before it starts, and you really care about not flying off the handle with them… Today’s episode shows you how to do it.

Listen in to find out how to do it right!

 

3 Secrets of Happy Parenting:

You know that fear and dread that you feel can about spending time with your young child?

Those hours that drag on, when paradoxically it feels like there is so much to do but also the minutes just creep by, super slowly, moment by agonizing moment?

I am excited to share the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting, which give you the power to overcome that fear and dread and truly enjoy the time you spend with your kids.

Learn these 3 Secrets in my Live, Online Class

So, I know in this episode I say “the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Minicourse is all ready for you!”
Life interfered this time: I got bronchitis and I’m still recovering…

But what IS ready: the 3 Secrets of Happy Parenting Live, Online Class!

The Minicourse is still in production, but in the meantime learn these three secrets while connecting with me live!

By the end of this live, online 40-minute class, you’ll know how to make the time you spend with your kids really enjoyable time.

Click the link below for details and to register:
weturnedoutokay.com/secrets

Other key links over at weturnedoutokay.com/214
Thank you so much for listening : ) Continue reading “A Counterintuitive Positive Discipline Ninja Tactic for Today’s Your Child Explained Episode (Podcast Episode 214)”